Article10 Reasons to Get Married
When it comes to marriage, everyone is an expert with opinions aplenty on whom to marry, when to do it, and how to keep it going once the last of the confetti has fallen. Getting married is often the biggest event of a person’s life, with the entire process being a whirlwind for many – from meeting their future spouse through to the honeymoon, with countless dramas and surprises occurring along the way. Getting married has become even more complicated in the 21st century with many couples opting NOT to marry for reasons ranging from the expense, fear of commitment or losing oneself in the tradition. These are all reasons to not get married, but there are many reasons FOR marriage, even if it’s just to have someone always tell you when you have toilet paper stuck to your shoe!
You’ve found the one for you:
So that’s it. You found the person that you want to share your life with. This person has seen the best and the worst of you and still wants to see more. Knowing you have found the one is a source of countless love songs and bad poetry, yet only the people involved can actually know if marriage is the next logical step.
You are ready to commit for life:
Many people choose to live in de facto relationships with their partners, but being married is not just a religious ceremony, but a legally binding contract that offers protection and legal requirements for both parties involved. For many people, this represents the ultimate commitment.
Someone to blame when stuff goes missing:
Always cursing yourself when you have misplaced your keys or the remote? Well one of the beauties of marriage is that you now have a built-in blaming system for which you can blame your spouse for whatever idiotic behavior has lead to a missing item, even if the accusations are unjustified; it is a well-known fact that yelling about a missing object immediately makes it appear.
A great party thrown in your honour:
Unless you are the shy type who does not enjoy being the focus of the attention, the wedding ceremony and its subsequent lead up events can be reason enough for marriage, not to mention the events that follow. From your first night together to your first anniversary, marriage provides an excellent foundation for quality gifts and experiences for the starring couple.
You can stop getting fixed up:
Almost reason for marriage alone after any particularly bad date, marriage does provide the perfect excuse for letting down those interested parties who may not return the affection. “Dinner? Oh, I’m sorry, I’m married”. Sounds far better then: “I think I’m busy that night doing anything else in the world”. Of course the trade off is that you no longer get to experience the hilariously diverse world of the modern dating scene, having to live vicariously through friends.
Always have a +1:
Being married can have many significant advantages, if not only for the wingman at family and friends events that can fill an awkward silences, save you from strained conversations and provide a reason to leave early. “Oh we would love to stay but unfortunately (spouse) is just not feeling well”.
Someone contractually obligated to care when you get the sniffles:
Often the forgotten vow in many marriages, being there in sickness and health can sometimes be the clinchers for many successful marriages as who can you love more than the loving hand that provides aspirin or soup when you’re sick?
Improved chance of getting lucky without need of alcohol:
While certainly not a guarantee, getting married may certainly improve some people’s chances of a higher strike rate than in their dating years.
Someone to listen to your stories for the umpteenth time:
Yes, you may honestly believe that the story from that day on the lake is the funniest one you have in your entertaining arsenal, so chances are that your spouse heard it on your first date. Of course, the benefits of marriage mean that while they may have indeed heard it before, they may humour you by hearing it again, even with its new exaggerations and plot twists.
Sounding board for life:
Of course, one of the greatest points of marriage can sometimes be the fact that you have found someone who loves you no matter what, even when you are irrational, unpredictable, and completely insane, they can provide either an excellent sounding board or a sparring partner.
Marriage is a great source of amusement and jokes for most people, both those who are living it and those who are mere observers. But all jokes aside, marriage is a serious commitment that people take when they are ready to share their whole lives with one other person, and this means all their lives, the good and the bad.
This article originated from Wedding Australia
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I am 24 and married to the most wonderful man ever. He is always there for me no matter what. I love him so much he is my other half that makes me whole and my true bestfriend forever no matter what. I think marriage can be a wonderful thing if you are ready for it. I love this article, it was cute and very true:) I think the best time to get married and I wish I would have done this, finish high school first, go to college and get that out of the way, live together for a year or 2. You never know a person until you live together. Then get married. But know yourself before you get to know someone else first. I love my life, I love my husband and my kids but I wish I would have have been a little smarter about it and done things in a different order:)
I think these are great but I think the most important thing before getting married is being secure with yourself. After you're married life isn't just about you anymore but you plus your partner.
i'm 28 and never been married so maybe i don't know what i'm talking about, but to me only the first thing on the list was a reason to get married. everything else is a bonus. you should not get married so you can have a big party in your honor. you should not get married because you need someone to pass the nyquill. that's crap. it's a cute article, it just should have been titled differently.
You should get married cos your in love and want to be with that person for life. What more do you need? I'd marry my bf cos he's the man I want to be the father of my children, marrying him cos I can't be asked to go out and search for anyone else is just lazy.
I am 30 and a couple of months ago spilt up with the man that for 7 years I thought was the person I would marry, so I am now starting over. I dont think there is any right time to get married, you can only go on what feels right for the 2 people involved. Everyone is walking their own path so its a very diffiuclt thing to judge. But I do fully believe you should only get married if its what you both want 100% - you should never just 'settle' and dont do it for any other reason than love, Marriages of convenience should be a thing of the past, yes a lot of things are simpler when you are in a couple but not necessarily right!!
To be honest, I think this article was... bull.
None of the 'points' were reasons to get married.
I am a polygamist, and can find more than /one/ as you so kindly put it in your first point. And who ever I date can do all those things even if we don't get married.
You want a real point for this article? One that isn't bull shit? Legal rights. That's it, that's all there is really. The right to visit them in the hospital, right to take care of the kids, etc. Otherwise, marriage is useless. My boyfriend(s) or girlfriend(s) can love me just the same with or without a piece of paper saying we are 'husband and wife.'
If that's what you want to believe. However, there are millions and millions of people out there that believe in marriage and believe it's sacred. There's a lot of people out there that believe in the bible. Marriage isn't useless; it's a bond that makes two people feel secure for the rest of their lives. Or it's supposed to. I don't see how you can get that with multiple people. No offense or anything.
Honestly married or not, once you decide to make a commitment and both parties are aware its the same thing. A ring doesnt stop adultery, it doesnt provide you with any more or any less comfort then you already had. Once you are with some one for so long you are common law, which in fact gives you all the priviledge that you would have being married. And as for your life not being for you... If you decide as a team to commit through marriage or any other way then it should also be you as a team to talk and understand what that commitment entails. Your views on a lifelong partnership are only as valid as the common grounds. Marriage is only as valid as the difference of opinion of its partners.
please stop commenting about how this article was.. "bull," did you say? its just supposed to be cute and honestly, these are very valid reasons to want to get married. maybe, no deifnately not by themselves, but together as a whole, isnt it the little things that add up that make marriage so worth it? isnt it being able to wake up next to someone every morning? isnt it the fact that you dont have to make dinner for yourself anymore? isnt it the ride to work if your car breaks down? i mean, those might sound like dumb moments of life that dont matter, but one day if your alone, youll realize what your missing out on.
Exactly! One of these days, someone is going to wake up alone in their home and realize that what they've been needing all along is the thing they've been calling "bull" the whole time. It's the small things that matter. It's knowing that your husband is YOURS and ONLY yours (sadly, in some cases, it's not like that). It's about having that one special person to share your life with and everything about you with. Marriage is truly a blessing. It's a shame that most marriages anymore don't work out. ):
is it bad to be 13 & engaged?
Yes. You have a whole life ahead of you. I was in seventh grade when I was 13. I was just a child... just like you. You don't even really know who you are at that age. Everyone I knew, including myself, changed and kept changing. You wouldn't believe how many people I knew that were getting 'engaged' at that age. Guess what? It never lasted any longer than just a few months. I'm sorry, babe, but it's not going to last.
I just recently turned 18 and my boyfriend has asked me to marry him! I love him so much and I said yes BUT only if we can date for a year and a half or more. He is already my best friend since I've known him since 7th grade and he makes me feel things that no other guy has. Just by seeing him for 2 minutes, I end up with a smile on my face. He makes me incredibly happy and even though I told him "I don't think you've thought this through", he says that he's been thinking of marrying for the past six months! Is this bad? I love him and want to spend my life with him but some say it's wrong...Is it?
This article is meant to be cute and not taken totally seriously. However, I'm going to be a bit of a hypocrite and say the only thing I didn't like was the thing about not having to get dressed up anymore. No one should ever let themself go, if your man no longer finds you attractive because you've decided not to care anymore he can easily spot someone else who does. lol
So instead of "You can stop getting fixed up" it should be "You have someone to get fixed up for", meaning you no longer have to look good for other people to hopefully get a date, now you can just look good so he can show you off where ever you go lol.
i love this article its so funny, they missed of a couple of things though, like having someone to fight with for the duvet, having silly middle of the night conversations, having someone who is obliged to catch bugs/spiders (i'm sure that could be worked into the legalities somewhere lol) and someone to fix the car (i know how to do my own car but it makes my hands mucky)....in fact theres lots of silly things i can think of....but i think the number one spot should definitely have been that you get to have a massive party, a pretty dress and flowers =)
I am married to a man who has cheated on me several times in the past. Since then he has worked everyday to make amends and make our lives together better. It has been several years now since he has cheated and things ARE getting better. We have been together for 39 years and we plan on staying together and working HARD on our marriage. We understand that we both need the OUR time alone from each other. Sometimes that is for a week at a time apart from each other. But, when we do get together it is nice. We talk, go places, or just stay home together and do things together. It is getting easier as the years go by to understand each other and love each other completely. We accept each other for the persons we are, and we don't try to change each other anymore.