Article40 Things Women Should Know About Men, D...
I wish I had read this advice years ago. It would've saved me A LOT of heartache, heartbreak, and headaches. I've already sent this to all of my girlfriends and they loved it. Hope some of you do too.
1. There are two types of males: Dishonorable males and honorable men. Don’t date or marry until you know how to tell the difference between the two! The woman in the mirror will graciously thank you.
2. Honorable men are protectors. They will guard your heart, protect your emotions, defend your honor and stand as champions for your spiritual, mental and physical well-being; choose an honorable man and choose life!
3. You are not a car; if you meet a man who wants to test drive your physical body, emotions and feelings, point him to a car dealership, bid him adieu and don’t look back!
4. This is a true saying: “The soul of a woman is fragile.” Please note: dishonorable males refuse to respect this crucial truth. They will toy with a woman’s emotions without any semblance of concern or compassion. Therefore YOU must guard your heart from these cold-hearted males with all diligence.
5. Good men need to be treated like good men, dishonorable males, need to be let go and left alone!
6. OK ladies; you’ve met this great guy, but he’s got a child or children for which he does not take care of, provide for or see to. Follow these instructions to the letter: urgently send him back to the mother(s) of his child(ren) and don’t look back. Don’t make the same mistake the mother(s) of his child(ren) did!
7. Dishonorable males treat sex as a sport, females as trophies and children they sire as wastepaper. Never allow yourself to become their next score, mantle piece or sperm repository.
8. Women who hold grudges, seek vengeance, cling to bitterness and are unwilling to forgive, unwittingly break their own hearts!
9. Choose the wrong mate and you might as well have laid next to a boa constrictor or grabbed the ears of a raging mad pit bull. A smart woman learns how to choose her mate wisely!
10. Heed the sage advice of some caring brothers and honorable men. If he doesn’t fit - don’t force him, just relax and let him go. Destiny is on your side… TRUE LOVE will find you!
11. Momma’s boys belong with only one type of woman; their moms! Ladies, these mothers and their sons will never cut their grotesque umbilical cord. Therefore, for your sake, leave them alone and just let them trot home to their mommies.
12. Self-love: if you don’t have it, pull yourself off the market. Make no mistake about it, if you don’t love yourself, NO MAN can ever love you… no matter how great a man he is.
13. Don’t judge ALL men by one man’s actions; unless you want ALL men to judge you based on the acts of amoral women.
14. Most women learn how to choose a mate the hard way; they go through a gut wrenching string of emotionally detached males, jerks, pimps, thugs and players. Don’t become one of those heart broken and bitter women! Learn how to properly choose a mate before it’s too late! The woman in the mirror will graciously thank you.
15. You wondering, “If I move in with him, is he going to marry me?” Answer: “Not likely!” Don’t believe it, take these two critical tests: (a). Ask any honorable man! And, (b). Examine the ever-growing list of disillusioned women who are begrudgingly waiting for their non-committal live-in lovers to pop the big question.
16. Do you keep attracting men who are dogs? Check the scent you’re putting out. Men who are dogs are attracted by scent!
17. You are not a man! Therefore, you will never be: a role model for men, a father figure, a man’s mentor or a man’s coach. If a man has lacked proper male leadership in his life, kindly send him on his way. Know for a certainty; he is not prepared for the responsibilities that come with love, sex, relationship and marriage.
18. If you don’t know what a misogynistic man is, take this time to check your dictionary. For your sake, sanity and safety, avoid these treacherous males at all costs.
19. Don’t ever delude yourself! Your beauty, fine body, sexual prowess, cooking skills, femininity and vibrant personality will never be enough to change a man, NEVER!
20. If your potential mate does such things as: promises to call you but doesn’t, makes dates and breaks them, shows up late or plays games with your emotions; take notes ladies... those are clear cut warning signs that he DOES NOT value you, he DOES NOT love you and he DOES NOT care about you!
21. Angry, bitter, hostile, combative, unforgiving single women, become: angry, bitter, hostile and combative, unforgiving wives.
22. A fundamental understanding and respect of the male ego is a must for all women who want a vibrant and healthy love; DO NOT obtain this crucial information from dishonorable males or from angry bitter women.
23. If you choose to be with dishonorable males, pimps, players, thugs, ballers and shot callers, you have absolutely no right to complain when they torch your emotions, abuse you, leave you pregnant and alone, jeopardize your safety and otherwise harm or hurt you. Remember, you have freedom of choice and you chose to be with them!
24. When a man is trying to find himself, kindly bid him adieu… PERMANENTLY! He can find you, but can’t find himself? He shouldn’t be looking for love… he should be searching for the map to Mastering Manhood!
25. OK; he wants or is demanding sex but you are not his wife. Write this down: There is no need to wonder, debate or contemplate: he DOES NOT honor or respect you!
26. Spoiled women are like spoiled milk, spoiled meat, spoiled fruit spoiled bread and spoiled brats. Get the picture? Don’t become a spoiled woman!
27. Expecting a dishonorable male to do the honorable thing is like expecting piranhas not to devour you if you make the mistake of diving into their water.
28. You’ve asked these questions, “Why doesn’t he call me more often? Why doesn’t he pursue me more diligently and why doesn’t he show me that he loves me?” Answer; he’s not into you! If you don’t let him go and move on with your life, you will allow him to hinder or block your true love from finding you!
29. All men ARE NOT dogs! Don’t believe, repeat or perpetuate that rampant lie! You will hamper your ability to see and discern the good men who cross your path!
30. Some males like to hit women. It gives them a sense of power and control. If you give yourself to one of these abusive males, most assuredly you will become a punching bag and a floor mat. It is critical that you learn how to detect and avoid these cretins!
31. Promiscuous immoral women are not worthy of an honorable man. They never have been and they never will be.
32. Never allow emotionally embittered women to influence you concerning the male gender. If you do, their hatred and unforgiveness will become yours. Soon you will find yourself suspicious, indignant and angry at all men.
33. You were not designed, built or destined for abuse, whether: emotionally, physically or financially. If he is an abuser, there is no need to deliberate… he IS NOT the one; leave him now!
34. Some women live their lives vicariously through the women on “Girlfriends, Sex In The City and Desperate Housewives.” Don’t become one of these women. If you do, you will make a literal mess of your life, emotions, physical body and well-being.
35. When a man truly loves you, he will honor and respect you. If he doesn't… don’t deceive yourself and don’t allow him to defraud you; he DOES NOT love OR care about you!
36. Everyone has skeletons in their closet? Wrong! Not everyone has skeletons in their closet. Don’t start putting any in yours!
37. There is a vast difference between sex and love. Most men know the difference and you had better learn it fast! If you fail or refuse to do so, you are surely headed for relationship or marital crash and burn.
38. Don’t deceive yourself, once you have sex with a man who is not your husband… he may never admit it, but he has lost a degree of respect for you. Don’t believe it? Ask any honorable man or virtuous woman.
39. The dismal cycle of breaking up and making up only works out in the romance novels, television shows and movies. If you are riding that emotional roller coaster get off right now! Your heart, mind and soul will forever thank you.
40. Nothing is more beautiful, captivating, attractive and sensual than a woman with a gentle and peaceable spirit!
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im sorry,
i just have to say that i dpnt really find this list very valuable,
i little more forgiveness and room and a little less harshness would go a long way.
sure, there's some ok pointers in there, but they're kinda dug deep beneath the bitterness in my opinion...
I have to agree with you on that, some of them were true no doubt... But some were just plain harsh. I was offended. /:
I agree with you on them being harsh! Especially the dismal (dismisal?) break ups. I know a few couples who were on and off non stop and finally worked on w/e compromises and issues that needed to get fixed, ended up being back together 100%
I love this! I think most of these are very true. So many of us settle for less than we deserve and even if I dont agree with all of this there are so great very valid points.
realy well said!!!! love it!!!!
I definitely agree with everything on this list. If a man makes you feel bad about yourself in any way, leave his shitbag self cuz he's not the right man for you! Chances are, there's a woman out there powerful enough to make that man respect her and it's not you. Some men are hard to tame, some men aren't meant to be tamed, and the honorable men who are raised as gentlemen were meant for women who have self respect and know how to return the respect of a good man. Promiscuous women are meant to be banged and left behind...that's exactly qwhat they put themselves out there as, so they get what they ask for, why buy the cow if you get the milk for free?
I don't agree with the one that says that if a man wants sex before marriage he does not respect you. My boyfriend and I have been together and sexually active for a long time and you can bet your ass he respects me!
then why hasnt he popped the question. And besides sex is for married couples, he wants to jump long term commitment and get under the sheets.
Obviously if they have been together that long don't you think he has some respect for her. Just because he "jumped in the sack" with her before they are married doesn't mean that he is never going to pop the question. Seeing as what the divorce rates are these days I am pretty sure that men these days are more hesitant to get married.
THANK YOU! It's true.. We plan on getting married when we both finish school and have stable jobs, but until then I'm not gonna hold back because we have a strong relationship that won't be hindered by it
THANK YOU! It's true.. We plan on getting married when we both finish school and have stable jobs, but until then I'm not gonna hold back because we have a strong relationship that won't be hindered by it
Ok so clearly who ever made this article thinks she's trying to help when in reality i dont think she knows what she is talking about. I dont agree with any of it especially the one where it says that if a man has sex before a marriage he doesnt respect you, well if the guy doesnt respect her then what does that say about the girl? or when she says a smart girl chooses wisely thats a bunch of bull shit. And i believe she may be bitter herself. This whole thing makes me think she's gone through all of what she wrote about and she's still pissed off. So i say get over it and move on.
I disagree with the one that says " if a man wants sex before marriage he does not respect you" A man can want sex before marriage, its in our DNA to want sex. It doesn't make a man or a women less of a person, now if you were to whore it out to whoever you could get thats a different story, then I can understand someone losing their respect for you. But sex is healthy, and you have to see if you and your partner are not JUST mentally compatible but also sexually compatible. Because if one of those are missing in a relationship you are going to have some serious problems. Let me ask you this, If you had never had sex, got married to this wonderful guy, and then you go to have sex and he does weird things like put it in the wrong hole? Or say he's interested in some creepy daddy fetish? Well I certainly wouldn't be sticking around would I.
They didn't say he doesn't respect you, it says he losses respect for you. Everyone has to remember, this is just a guide. When you take a test and they give you a study guide. Not everything is there for everyone. No two people are the same so it won't be exactly the same for everyone. I disagree with some of them too but, those ones just aren't for me.
Thank god for a lot of your comments people! This article got me really depressed when I read it! I have known some really decent guys who are happily settled down with their partners who they adore and who have broken all of what this article states! I think its a load of tosh personally! There are decent guys and girls who find each other fall in love and carry on with their lives without following any rules/guides etc! Sex is only a big issue when people make it a big issue! Personally I think that if you feel safe and comfortable with someone then go with the flow and hope for the best if it goes tits up, it wasnt meant to be and we can take it as a life lesson! I think women do to much worrying about what men think that they stop enjoying just being with a man and allowing him to love them! We do deserve to be treated well so why do we keep treating ourselves badly and putting all this pressure on us! If you dont want to do something or you feel uncomfortable then dont do it! You dont need a reason to feel the way you do and you dont need to justify yourself! But if you do feel comfortable and want to do something then go for it otherwise you'll always have "What if...?" at the back of your mind! Keep rocking ladies!
i found this repetive, and the perfect man is always described to do all these things blah blah keep hold of him, ive had men that do that but they also do some very annoying things too, and so theyre not perfect for me. this seems to say learn, learn this and that im sorry but not all of us are perceptive to these things we are naive and ignorant, and always will be but just because we are we wont turn into bitter women , and a good man can soften a bitter hardened woman like butter melting. some good points such as if you are not secure with yourselfs do not look for a man to love you - you need to love yourself first.