I haven't dated around a lot but I have been in a serious relationship. I'm 19 now, and we dated all through high school and lived together the first year of college. We recently broke up and I'm starting to lose faith in Mr. Right and true love, so I'd love it if somebody could give me some hope back! :)

Idk girl but I'm in the same boat... I feel like what is so wrong with me that I don't have someone who cares about me just as much as i care about them. I have yet to find an equal balance. If you find the answer please...inform me...for now all I can do i wish that Santa will leave him under my tree...

definitely. I think that's the worst part of the holiday season, for me. I just want to come home after a long day of trekking through the snow, and find a fire in the fireplace, an elaborate and warm meal on the table, and a hunk dressed up and waiting for me. but even when I'm in relationships, they aren't like that. not even close. I feel like this dream will never come true; it's just a dream.

but don't worry hon, we're all looking for our own Mister Right.

Mr. Right will not be that awesome hunk that you come home to with a huge elaborite meal. (well unless you find a chef) He's gonna be that guy at the end of the day, who's your best friend, who when you're upset over the fact that your red shirt just ruined your favorite white scarf, instead of laughing, he'll hug you and tell you that it looks better pink any way. He won't be perfect, and maybe not a model, but he'll be gorgeous to you, and perfect FOR you.
Usually he'll be right under your nose too. that guy you call when your BF just broke up with you and you want some reassurance that the male race isn't completely hopeless. Or the guy you sit with and play videogames until 3 am.

Its all about broadening your horizons and casting a wider net. I'm not by any means saying go out on the prowl on a crazy manhunt, but what I am saying is have a goal to meet more quality men. This will give you more options and you'll figure out what your type is in the process. Remember, a gal's idea of an ideal catch changes with age, so don't just assume the type you liked in high school is the type that's good for you now. Never settle for quick easy and fast make outs or hook ups...great way to ruin a potentially good connection. Do your best to not meet guys JUST at bars. If you meet one, suggest either leaving said bar for some late night coffee or simply slip him your number after a good conversation along with the suggestion of meeting up later. Have confidence in yourself and be true to yourself. Never ask yourself, "What is wrong with ME?" Ask yourself, "What am I doing wrong, or what can I do better to open myself to meeting new, quality men?" Ask your girlfriends where they have the best luck meeting great guys and ask them if they know any that are somewhere in the range of your type. Never judge a book by its cover. Never ever EVER shun a guy for being "too nice." We, ladies, must never be hard on ourselves for not snagging a guy that is deserving of our love and affection and must keep in mind that we are young and the right one will come along...we just have to bait the hook right!

christmas is the best and worst time to be single.... i mean yeah sure you get the family party invites that are addressed to you +1 (that may just be my family) once you hit 18 and they think its normal to think about settling down; but you also get to go out and shamelessly flirt with everyone over the party season to get your drinks free all night, and you never know it might throw out a holiday fling that could be fun. or you can just party with your mates and have a laugh without stressing about anything silly you may be forced into under the mistletoe ;)

I'm 16, almost 17 and despite at my age where all we're looking for is "fun", I am the kind of girl that looks for a sense of "emotion" and "quality" of a relationship. People have always thought it was bad for me to fall for some of my best friends, but in my views, I see this as a good thing. I see this as a meaning that I'm looking to bring a quality friendship/relationship with a person before I just plunge myself to date "just anyone". I have not gone "far" with a boy, yet been in a serious relationship to begin with, but I'm hoping you do not lose faith. I am convinced that once I leave college, I will be able to explore different types of people of different interests, perspectives, [etc] and I will see more and more of which kind of guys that I like, or I admire and if they reflect the same ideals/etc that my best guy friends (for whom I may or may not date/marry/whatever) have.

The movies over-glamourize reality, we all know this. Chick flicks are SUPPOSED to make us uber crappy about our love lives. Just-- keep looking. There's DEFINITELY a guy there. All you gotta do is keep looking!

I'm not saying Sit around and wait for mr. right cause secluding yourself will never allow you to meet anyone, but Don't go around trying to meet guy after guy just to find him. When the time is right he will come along. When it comes to relationships and wanting a guy to love you, the longer you have that need or want, the longer you'll wait. It won't happen on your search for him, because while you are searching for him you are allowing yourself to be blinded by that need. and You'll distract yourself from what you really want and deserve in a man. You know what you want in a man so if a guy comes up to you and there a few things that are important to you that he is lacking don't ignore that, because true love doesn't second guess itself. Yes those movies make us think "why can't I have a guy like that?" Society really screws us up when it comes to reality. I do promise that Mr. Right is there and you will find him at some point but please don't settle for less because you really really want someone to be Mr. Right alot of us girls do this.. I've done it, and I've made up excuses and I told myself things will change but if it's not meant to be (no matter how bad we want it to be) it won't change. Stick with your guns and what you feel in your heart that you deserve and dont jump first with your heart try think logically as well. Best of luck to you!

im 22, never had a date or a boyfriend, most of my really good friends that are girls have husbands or are soon to be engaged, so i know how u feel. sometimes i do wonder when my Mr Right will come along.

but i'm a christian, so at the moment im enjoying being good friends with guys and waiting till God brings my Prince Charming into my path. like others he will be my best friend as well as my boyfriend.

I think the dream of finding Mr Right is just that...a dream. To expect the sort of thing that goes on in movies is totally unreasonable....Dont get me wrong it would be great if all that over the top lovey dovey stuff happened but i think i would be happy with a guy that just treats me right!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I don't think that there is any Mr.Right, but I really believe one quote; Real love isn't about loving the perfect person but loving the imperfect person perfectly.
As soon as I stopped thinking about finding Mr.Right and decided to live my life and make him find me, I met this great guy and we just clicked together like two puzzles. I might say he's my Mr.Right, but it's only because I let him be by loving him for what he is and try to make our relationship as good as it can get :)

I think that I just might have a few doubts about what I was saying earlier about basically meeting guys and making your presence known and increasing your odds. If that sort of thing never works for you, (its what I do and I THOUGHT was working) then DON'T DO IT!

I recently met a wonderful guy at the store where I work. He approached ME and gave me HIS number, putting the ball in my court. I was very very hesitant to give him a chance and trust him because I didn't know him from before and I didn't know a thing about him. I was kind of a witch with a capital "B" to him at first and I almost ruined a chance with him. But then I thought, "What the hay? There must be a reason he's interested in you..." I decided to give him an opportunity and BOY am I glad I did! We've had two amazing outings and more to come. He's absolutely amazing, ready for a girl who knows what she wants, and I can tell that he's the kind of guy I need in my life. I got super lucky on this one, I think. I hope things continue to go this well.
I guess what I'm trying to say is don't leave it all to fate, but when fate throws you an opportunity, take it for Pete's sake!!!!! I still stand by not judging a book by its cover...huge mistake.