ArticleA Broken Heart... Can Be Healed
My girlfriend sent me this to me because I can't seem to get over this guy. One of the reasons though is that I haven't learned to forgive him yet (or myself for falling so hard). Maybe some of you can relate and if you're like me then try to let go... rather than hold on to something that isn't/won't ever be there....
Let's Make A Deal by Diane Blue
You forgive me for liking you too much,
And I'll forgive you for not liking me enough.
You forgive me for missing you so,
And I'll forgive you for being so cold.
You forgive me for the loud racing of my heart,
And I'll forgive you for not hearing it.
You forgive me for playing your games,
And I'll forgive you for toying with my emotions.
You forgive me for finding you so attractive,
And I'll forgive you for not noticing.
You forgive me for raising you up so high,
And I'll forgive you for bringing me down so low.
You forgive me for wanting to be with you,
And I'll forgive you for avoiding me.
You forgive me for being so pathetic,
And I'll forgive you for taking advantage of it.
You forgive me for not being able to let go,
And I'll forgive you for never having latched on.
You forgive me for having hopes and dreams,
And I'll forgive you for crushing them.
Forgiveness brings inner peace.
Do we have a deal?
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i love how this points out in every way that its not worth holding on to i held on for far to long to someone i was with for 4 years that i wasted my time on and seeing this makes me see that i did the right thing in the end
luv, luv it :)
Once I let go...I came out stronger, brighter and healthier...All I can say now, is Thank you...my next love will get a better me♥
amen to that!!! love ur outlook michelle :)
i love this!!! it is exactly what happen with myself and my ex... my current is sooooo much better than him!!!
ditto!
same here!!! :)
i'm so glad my ex cheated because, for me, it was the last straw. it forced me to do what i had wanted/needed to do for years. now i'm with an amazing guy. on his best day, my ex isn't even half the man he is & never will be.
Love this..i'm going to share it with all the girls..its soo good :)
this sounds a lot like my last relationship!!
that is amazing...............after 6 months of hurting after the end of my relationship I finally took the plunge and kissed someone new last night, and these words aboue say everything about my ex that I couldnt say.
Thanks so much, I feel like the line under my old life has been drawn and I am ready to start living again!
awsme....juz hw i flt whn i had ma 1st bf....
Very Very true!!! It's how alot of us feel including me with my last realationship. Forgiveness is such a huge part of letting go.. and I've finally been able to do that.
I willl definitly be sharing this with all ma girls:-P
crazy awesome simply perfection love it keep it up =)
crazy awesome simply perfection love it keep it up =)
crazy awesome simply perfection love it keep it up =)
wow, beautiful.
the simplicity of it all captures every emotion so perfectly.
I just love this <3
That's so sad..
I <3 this
fab. sad, though.
wooooow its nice words actually i have the same problem and i couldnt get over it yet..it really hurts more when u see him with another girl :(:(:(
My ex played me and his ex for over 3 months...he loved me oh so much but went back to her a week ago....I loved this poem!
let someone else have him. trust me, they don't change. if he treated u badly, he will do the same to her.
i think so many girls are scared that they will break up with a crappy boyfriend, he will finally change & become a great guy & that he'll find someone else & treat her the way u always hoped he'd treat u...trust me, IT NEVER HAPPENS!!! i know from experience. move on, he will do the same & he will make someone else miserable.
Very well said, Becky. It really never happens!
awesome:)
so true, so true but how long does it take to get better?
depends on the type of relationship you had and the guy.. i give you anywhere from 2 to 3 weeks or a month...
This is amazing, great job. It takes a great person to realize all of that and overcome it, keep it up :)
no wrds 2 derive its...its simply fabulous..
amazingly true.. n so good that cant help sharing it..
this is sooo true.gonna share it with my girlfrens
this is so amazing... u realize how pathetic ur being by jus not letting go of someone who doesn't deserve u...
i shed a few tears reading this.. but it is so true!
absolutely amazing! and after reading everyones comments im so proud of you all for starting to move on again, i was with my boy 4 and half years, devastated when he dropped me out of the blue, i thought everything was so perfect and nobody not even his family could understand what happened. its hard to move on but its better to try that than to drown in self pity, we all deserve a man worthy of the love we can give, take all the time you need to grieve but you must learn to not let it take hold of you, you are all so much better than that so push it to the back of your minds, lift yourselves up keep the chins high and smile cos mr. perfect could be right around the next corner! things happen for a reason that we just have to try figure out and that can be fun to do :) good luck to you all ladies and im so glad im not alone, its great support!
:) so true... i feel the exact same, but im struggling big time :(
*sigh* i also am struggling with this. my friends tell me i open my heart too easily and fall in love much too quickly but i dont know how to stop. i cant get over my ex, and now im falling for someone new who doesnt like me at all...
absolutely amazing! and after reading everyones comments im so proud of you all for starting to move on again, i was with my boy 4 and half years, devastated when he dropped me out of the blue, i thought everything was so perfect and nobody not even his family could understand what happened. its hard to move on but its better to try that than to drown in self pity, we all deserve a man worthy of the love we can give, take all the time you need to grieve but you must learn to not let it take hold of you, you are all so much better than that so push it to the back of your minds, lift yourselves up keep the chins high and smile cos mr. perfect could be right around the next corner! things happen for a reason that we just have to try figure out and that can be fun to do :) good luck to you all ladies and im so glad im not alone, its great support!
..sounds just like what I am busy gong through! ..EXACTLY what has been going thru my head!
..there IS someone out there that DESERVES ALL that we have to offer! ..I am sick of having to "settle" just to satisfy my own insecurity and need for a man to validate me! I am taking my life back - and if the next man doesn't like it - he can just keep on walking! I am not wasting another minute on these games men like to play, as in the end it is only ME that gets my heart broken! ..It is just sooo not worth it! ..it is just one big vicious circle! and somewhere, somehow, someone, needs to put a stop to it and start taking what we actually want, and deserve! Someone that compliments us...not completes us!
..but as always...it's in the Doing that we find difficulty!
You rock girl! THIS comment gave me inspiration!
i emerged a lot more confident after i let go............and now m happy coz i have found some one who loves me for the person i am!!! the world is alot better...we just need to let go our inhibitions and most importantly: the fear of not finding anyone better!
To the person who posted this I want to say thank you so much! I just recently ended a 5year relationship.. last week actually.. after over a year of being in hell with him!.. I loved him entirely too much and he didn't love me nearly enough. The year I spent living in hell with him I tried to slowly distance myself from him. I would say I'm leaving and leave but I always kept contact and ended up coming back because he would use verbal abuse to make me feel bad for leaving him. But this last time I left, when he tried to use that same tactic, it had no effect on me and I cut off all ties with him! Even though I still think about him quite often, most of the things I think make me so mad at him I just want to call him up and scream at him until I'm blue in the face... But after reading this, it makes me want to forgive him so that I don't have to carry that anger around with me anymore and so that I can fully let go! ... So once again, thank you so much! It helps me more thank you know!
Sooooo much woderful & amazing words ... its very deap words with strong meanings..i love it so much ...
WOW I know there are probably 28736593876583756 girls that relate to this, I know I do.
this is aktuly awsum man!!! gr8!! i cn relate xactly 2 it!!
I can relate to this as well... Very much of what my first relationship was like. You definitely deserve someone better, I wish you the best x
I feel a little weird for saying this but I feel like I'm the person on the other end, you have all been hurt by this person and I feel like I should be the one my ex bf should say this to.
I want him to forgive me for being so cold and I want to forgive him for loving me too much, I want to be forgive for toying with him and I will forgive him for always trying to play by the rules of my silly games.
However I'm not heartless, nor cold, I just have trouble letting anyone come too close, I play my games to keep a distance and I go after the warm hearted men to fill up the void in my heart. It's tough to see I can't be with them cause I break their hearts so badly they take months to recover.
Even reading this now is so hard, so black and white, I wonder, is this really me?
It's okay to be that way. Honestly, I think the reason you are the way you are is because you were hurt once, a long time ago, and so you put up one helluva wall to keep people out, and every game you played with him was a test. It's gonna be the hardest thing you'll ever do, but you've gotta take down that wall. Especially if you fuel it with other people's warmth. This wall will come down when you can forgive what happened to you, accept it as something you have grown from (for the good or for the bad) and then start letting people in. Begin with friends. Let someone warm your heart, in a friendly way. When you feel you can trust yourself with friends, move on to men. The second thing you need to do is validate yourself. This doesn't mean putting yourself above others and saying, "I am so great!!", it is simply saying, "I am worthy of love, and I am capable of loving," and then doing so. I've learned the hard way not to depend on others for happiness. External validation will only get you so far. And finally, if you feel you need forgiveness, if you feel it quite powerfully, you need to go out and get that. He'll probably forgive you at some point of his own accord, but if you ever want to know that he can, you need to apologize and ask for forgiveness.
I'm sorry this sounds trite and cruel - I do not intend to be either. I feel, however, that you will be much happier when you let people in.
I feel a little weird for saying this but I feel like I'm the person on the other end, you have all been hurt by this person and I feel like I should be the one my ex bf should say this to.
I want him to forgive me for being so cold and I want to forgive him for loving me too much, I want to be forgive for toying with him and I will forgive him for always trying to play by the rules of my silly games.
However I'm not heartless, nor cold, I just have trouble letting anyone come too close, I play my games to keep a distance and I go after the warm hearted men to fill up the void in my heart. It's tough to see I can't be with them cause I break their hearts so badly they take months to recover.
Even reading this now is so hard, so black and white, I wonder, is this really me?
i totaly understand what ur saying. i feel like a complete ass for breaking up w my last bf. he loved me so much... still does but i dont and didnt love him. i still am having a hard time simply forgiving myself for doing what i did to him. even though it was what needed to b done in the end. i dont know how to fix it because i broke up with him as nicely as i could. but one fact remains... i left him for one of his friends. its such a horribal thing to do i know... but i was in love with someone else. idk how to forgive myself.
i loveee it! a lot girls will relate to this
that's how i felt with my 1st love.