Well you could've been a little more clear on what you guys are doing to reach the orgasm. Sometimes it takes more than just the missionary position, and some girls find it way easier to climax with clitoral stimulation rather than vaginal. Myself I've never had one through vaginal penetration. Maybe it's me, maybe he was doing it wrong. You should talk to him, tell him what you do and don't like. Tell him the truth, and most of all make sure you guys have a nice amount of foreplay. Mix it up, try new things. But definitely tell him, communication and honesty is key in any relationship.

Hope this helps! =)

I've had the same problem quite a few times. Since he's your first, you could have thoughts that everyone gets the BIG O, but really, women find it very hard to. 1st off, i would suggest to just relax, girls have to think about getting off, men don't, so relax, get in the mood and just try to "feel it". Also, try some different positions, talk to your man about it and see what works. lol for me, i can get started by being on top, slowly, then getting flipped over to finish it off...Mayb, while having sex you could get your man, or even your self, to stimulate yourself. If you use toys or anything, try holding off for a while, get a bit of a "build up" and try. Some girls just can't, it sux, but you should try and enjoy sex even with out the orgasim. You could always try getting your man to ggo down on you, thats another great way...try a few differnt things, have fun, and dont be afraid to talk to your man about it, its more common than you think, good luck, and have fun!

Basically, experiment with different positions or techniques, and if you don't use toys already, give them a shot (not saying you should go out and splurge, but start with something basic). Find out what you're really into. And you might require some clitoral stimulation; That's how I get off. Don't get me wrong, vaginal penetration still feels good, but I, personally, can only reach an orgasm if my clitoris is stimulated. But there's really nothing to be ashamed about. It took me 3 years to finally figure it out. :) But be open and honest with him about it, otherwise there's nothing he'll be able to do to help. And don't focus so much on trying to reach the orgasm--it'll only stress you out more. Just relax, and enjoy the moment, and sometimes that will help. But I hope all our advice helps you out a little. And good luck. :)

I've been in this situation and did some research, I found out that the more you masturbate the more likely you will have the big O while having intercourse. NEED MORE 4PLAY! have him go down on you before intercourse. Get some toys, a hand held vibrator and use it while doing "doggy style". it just sounds like he needs to stimulate your clitorides and you're losing interest. Most women do not have the BIG orgasm every time, stop focusing on having it and enjoy sex, it you focus on having an orgasm you're less likely to have one because it's more like work and play.

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The first guy I had a sexual relationship with (who I'm still with) wasn't able to make me orgasm but it just takes time to get use to having sex. It did cause problems and he told me to never lie about orgasms but really I probably should have. But now I orgasm so many times during sex. It just depends on you really. Maybe it takes time or maybe your body needs something different. For sure women need fore play. You may think you're all hot and heavy but if you pay attention to the difference- when the guy does it right- sex feels 10 times better with fore play! Maybe that's missing. But like I said it might take time and it will take longer if he doesn't take the pressure off you! I had lots of pressure and it took months! Just relax and it will come…no pun intended… hope that helps!

well, i had the same problem at one point when i first lost my virginity. The more sex i had the better it got. I also did research and for a majority of women the clitoris is a very big part in getting the "big O". Another factor in whether i climaxed or not was how big the guys penis was and for me bigger is better. Every woman has her own "big O" factor but maybe you jus havn't found your yet. My advice is try, try until you find your way of getting that big OOOOOOOOOooo lol

It's all in the mind. For some reason women have to visualize getting off. Have him go down on you first to get you off, then try to get off again during sex. Vaginal orgasms are a little more difficult to do then clitoris orgasms, I would suggest trying to get off from your clitoris. Also what helps is to talk to your man, tell him what feels good and what doesn't. Hope this helps:)

Some tips that I find make it easier to climax:

Eat chocolate or a mild aphrodisiac or something that lifts your mood beforehand. (I am a big chocolate-pusher, as is apparent by my other posts.) If you are turned on beforehand, it will be so much easier for you to orgasm. Try dirty talking, or light touching in a semi-public place. (Not too much, though. Save the sex for the bedroom.) Whatever gets you hot and in the mood.

If you aren't getting off via masturbation, look into what you're doing. Are you just using a dildo/fingers/cucumber(ha, kidding) for penetration? That's usually not enough. Are you applying enough/too much pressure to the clitoris? Are you absolutely sure you're hitting the clit? I'm not sure when you started masturbating, but it could be that you just don't have the technique down, and if you don't know how to do it, you can't very well direct your boyfriend. Masturbating more often will raise the likelihood of it happening soon. And as a woman to a woman, I really suggest investing in one of those removable shower heads with multiple settings. They are awesome.

Foreplay. It's simple. I never orgasm during actual coitus, so foreplay is the only way I get my big O's in. If you guys are just going for it, then you need to stop and think "What is that doing for my clit?" Many, many women can't orgasm from penetration alone. I would venture to say most, even. This is especially true with a condom. I don't condone unsafe sex, but if you're in a monogamous relationship, are both clean, and you are on birth control, sex without a condom is SO much better than with one. Have him go down on you, finger you (that phrase always sounds weird to me), use a vibrator designed for clit stimulation... and do it until you either know it won't work that time, or you orgasm.

Communicate. Tell him what feels good. Tell him what's just not doing it for you. He will be very willing to learn, trust me.

Lastly, be patient. It doesn't come quickly. I understand the frustration of him trying too hard, and you just not getting there, and hands cramping, and vulvas hurting, and all that jazz. I do. I'm not an easy lady to get off (especially on birth control hormones), so I've learned to stay in tuned with where the feeling is going. Just let it happen, tell him to ease up if he's trying too hard... and if, in a reasonable amount of time of foreplay (20-30 minutes, usually, but also up to an hour if you're in for the long haul) you haven't reached it... tell him it's not going to happen. Be honest... I lied to my boyfriend about it about five times, and I felt bad every time. I don't anymore.

i have the same problem. I lost virginity to my current boyfriend about 6 months ago and i still cant get there, it happened maybe once! but we've tried everything plenty of foreplay, he does go down a lot, we bought toys in the sex shop however i still can't reach the orgasm, don't get me wrong sex is great and all but still i think i guys need to know that they can make you climax they feel better about themselves....

Being new to having sex, it will definitely take some time to get to know your body. Once you do, you will do a better job at climaxing. Even tho having a partner helps, i truly believe that once you know yourself (learning your gspot, what hurts, what feels good) you will not have to depend on your partner to climax. Nonetheless, take your time and enjoy sex, but most importantly, get to know your body.

try ky him and her or just that new her one lol or myself i have xscream its a warming tingling cream its helps and feels amazing

RELAX! the one thing you can do is relax, and stimulate your clitoris a little and you will see, it will come to you (:

You know what too? There are many girls who just cant orgasm until their mid twenties. I don't know why it's such a little known fact, but your body is still growing and sometimes you just need time on your side! Don't give up!

Well, have you tried being on top? Gravity is your friend.

Dont think about having an orgasm, just be in the moment. The worst thing you can do is think about it, as you are concentrating to hard and it has to come naturally.
I used to never be able to reach orgasm because I was always intent on having one.
Just have fun with one another and let the orgasms flow =)

Okay, get a vibrating cock ring for him to wear. Have a lot of oral stimulation beforehand. When you have sex, get on top in cowgirl then lean over and me chest to chest with him. It will stimulate your clitoris more. Try to keep your mind on dirty thoughts as well, or have him say dirty things to you.

Many women need direct stimulation like oral sex to orgasm... few can orgasm from only intercourse.

Its not easy but practice is fun. Missionary just doesnt do it you need him to enter you from behind (and no I am not talking about anal)this way he is more likely to find your g spot its just sexual geography you need to help him but firstly you need to find out yourself which means masturbation - dont be coy more of us than you think do it. Buy a Rabbit (dont forget the batteries) take an evening alone take the phone off the hook and let it flow I promise you will be more than happy with the results. Next time you have sex you will feel so much more confident and you will grow to love your Rabbit too I do!

I haven had sex with my guy yet cause im not ready but hes already gotten me off with foreplay it really does depend on you... if your not comfortable or relaxed it wont happen... try letting him go down and using his hands as well the different forms of stimulation hopefully will do the trick :) good luck!