Just give it time. Honestly, for me and my boyfriend, the first time (we were both each other firsts <3 ) wasn't all that great. I mean, it was pretty awkward and it didn't feel good at all. But just give each other time to adjusts to your bodies and learn how they can work together. Try to be passionate. Think about all the great things about him and why he's so special to you while you're kissing him. Even talking to him about it (as awkward as it may seem) can help a great deal. Let him know what you like and what you don't like, and have him do the same for you.
Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost two years now and our sex like is amazing. In fact, it just keeps getting better, even when it seems unimaginable.

Firstly congratulations on not conforming to the norm of today's society and holding back, and doing what you believe in!
Now regarding the sexual matter. I lost my virginity at 17 with my ex. We were both virgins. Yes it is awkward and yes painful, HOWEVER it does improve. Sex is very much a practise sport. And like any sport practise makes perfect. But foreplay is a major factor especially for females. Men have the advantage of getting get turned on more easily than women.
You clearly love your husband, now love each other's bodies!

DON'T WORRY IT GETS BETTER.kissing and cuddleing are great they do enhance the pleasure u get out of sex.and good foreplay is amazzzzzzzzing i mean theres nothing better.and if u and ure guy really love eachother then ure sex will b amazing in no time. just dont b afraid of communication tell eachother what u like what u dont and together ull become sexperts.but most of all have fun with it dont worry about how its feeling or if ure doing it right just enjoy whats going on.

As everyone else has said, it does get better. Take time to get to know eachothers bodies, give him chance to learn what you like and what you dont, make sure you TELL HIM! They arent mind readers so men need told when they are doing something right. Not only will it make sure he knows to do it again in future, it also gives him the boost of knowing that he can give you pleasure.
If your not sure where to start, there are plenty of sites that give advice on foreplay. Make it fun there is a reason its called forePLAY.

Good luck and enjoy yourselves.

The same as everyone else said, it does get better! My first time I just thought, what's all the fuss about? I thought it would always be crap! But it isn't. You have the advantage of obviously having someone you are very much in love with, and feel comfortable with, which a lot of people don't have. It will get better, just give it time, and you are no different to the rest of us. It takes everyone a while to have great sex!

Okay so let me just put a few things out there. First of all the first time is usually never what anyone thinks it's going to be. It hurts and it's not pleasant because you're wondering am I doing this right? What do I do now. blah blah blah. So how do you fix it? Your husband obviously loves you so try and let him know what you like and what you don't. ((This will help your body relax and get things going better)) Obviously you can't just be like oh don't do that or oh I like that. Sounds, darling are a wonderful thing. If there is something he's doing that you don't like and can't get him to realize that you don't like it. Have a friend bring it up in conversation have her say oh I hate it when so and so does this. Then you can say oh me too. He'll get the hint. The more you have sex the less it will hurt, because the more your body will produce lubricants. (A little TMI, but you wanted to know). If the pain persists or if it truely is unbearable, you may have a condition. They can rid you of this with simple microsurgery that removes some of the nerve endings, umm, down there. The reason it is so painful is because of the hypersensitivity due to a higher than average number of those nerves. Easily corrected. Happens to more women than you are thinking so don't go thinking oh i'm weird.

Just give it time, it really does get better. If it doesn't they have sex therapy classes. Yes, I know you're thinking why would I go there everyone would know what's going on. Realize that everyone who is there is going through the same thing. You're married and the fact that you are having sex with your husband is not a shameful thing at all.

when you and your hubby are being intimate, do sexual things together without the actual intercourse. get yourselves all hot and bothered and wanting each other and wanting to put it in (not to sound vulgar) and make your body wet, that will make it more comfy when you do. experiment with fingers, toys, and oral. you will be begging for the sex after a few sessions of only foreplay.

I Dont know how much its talked about, but I had the same problem. I just wasnt interested in Sex and couldnt get turned on. Turned out it was the Pill I was on. Not a fun situation, newly married, like you, did it the right way and waited til marriage, and not wanting sex!!! If thats the issue, then definitely look at getting your pill changed coz that can have a HUGE impact on your sex drive.
One thing I'd recommend is buying a book with different techniques/positions etc. have a look through it with your hubby and talk and laugh over then, discuss ones that you'd like to try then set aside a time to do that... and take your time!! Relaxing is super important!
Another thing i'd recommend, is taking the time to explore yourself. Maybe have a bath with some candles and nice smellies and music and whatever, and just explore your own body, work out what you want, what you like, and just generally feeling more comfortable with your self sexually. Once you know what you like, what turns you on, then you can let your hubby know, and you can both be happier in the bedroom (or kitchen/livingroom/car... wherever the mood takes hold :P )

Another thing that i had to overcome, was realising that sex is good and fun and an awesome thing that two people can do together, its not dirty or wrong or evil (even though i didnt consciously think this, I think trying to be a virgin til marriage can somehow implant these ideas into your head unconsciously), and trying so hard for so long not to have sex, when you finally can, it doesnt always come easily.

Oh yeah, and if you're to dry try some lube. The warming stuff is womderful :)

So just relax, have fun, laugh and learn together and before you know it you'll be loving it!

I can totally relate. I was wanting to save myself until I got married, but that never happened. I lost my virginity back in May to my fiancé. I was expecting something wonderful, even though I knew it was going to hurt a little bit, and I had all these fantasies about what was going to happen. I was excited and I had my hopes too high.

You know how you go through life hearing how sex is wonderful and how great it feels? Oh, and let's not forget how the movies portray sex as sensual as they do. What people, especially women, forget to tell you is how uncomfortable sex really is, no matter how much you love that person. Basically, people forget to tell you the TRUTH about sex.

I learned the hard way, of course, and it seems you did too. It hurt so bad the first time, that I was almost in tears. Forget the 'it only hurts for a few seconds' crap! How about more like a few weeks? We never finished the first time. We probably had (at least attempted) sex four - fiveish times the weekend when I lost my virginity. Each time, it was so miserable. It hurt, it burned, and it was just all around miserable. I love him so much and I was so pissed off and hurt that it wasn't like what I thought it would be. Oh, and before I forget, did anyone happen to tell you that it would burn like the dickens when you went to go pee the next morning? Nobody told me that and I sat there and cried on the toilet because it hurt even just to pee. Thanks, fellow ladies.

It went on like this for a while. My fiancé left after that weekend and went back to work (he's a trucker), so I didn't get to see him until two months after that happened. I left and started to travel with him when he came back in, so sex was rough for a while. It didn't start to feel good until way, way later. I really couldn't tell you honestly how long it took before I was actually comfortable and before it stopped hurting, but take my word that it was a lot longer than I would've wanted... than any woman would've wanted.

Just don't get discouraged. Sex is a beautiful gift between a man and a woman (especially if they're married). It'll get better, I promise. I honestly thought that it wouldn't, but it did. I've seen someone mention trying some lubricant, but I'll go ahead and tell you that it doesn't help that much. It helps a little; it makes the penetration not so rough, but it's not a 100% thing to make sex better.

You were a virgin, like I was. You're new to this and it'll take a while to get used to. In the meantime, try foreplay and oral sex to make the moments better for the both of you.

Good luck and God bless! (:

dont worry the pain goes away after the 1st time, its because u r new to it, u will soon learn to love it, forplay is a deffinate for newbies, helps u relax and open up to ur partner,
just because it hurt the 1st time dont mean it will everyother time. =] hope u have a long an happy marriage. xx

Sex gets better the more you have it... It will feel as good to you the first couple times you do it.. Also you learn what positions you like best to be able to get off. kudos to you both for waiting till marriage

it will SO get better! I wasn't a virgin when my hubby and I started dating but it had been more then a year since I had sex, so it was awkward and painful, but now its 3 years later and I'm literally chasing my hubby into the bedroom, you really need to talk to him thats the only way anything is going to change. I've even taken my hubby to the local sex shop and we got some books and it makes things a bit more fun.

It absolutely gets better. The best part about the two of you being eachother's firsts (and only) is you have the opprotunity to learn together and discover eachother's physical likes and dislikes together.
Congratulations!

I have to say this... what the hell does being married have anything to do with 'being allowed' to have sex? I don't understand it. You wouldn't just buy a car without driving lessons.
People say that they're 'proudly' virgins when they have sex on their wedding night, but it's a load of bull to me. My boyfriend and I have been together for four years almost, and we waited to have sex until we felt ready, but I seriously don't get why being married, and having a sheet of paper to prove it changes anything. It's like waiting to have sex on your 18th birthday or something.

Wow. The girl with the long story. I'm sorry that happened to you. But... That's extremely rare. Of like the hundreds of girls I know I don't know a many that had a painful first time. Maybe a few seconds... and there was one girl who had like a 9incher... which is also rare. But even just a few seconds of pain seems rare.

To the Bride-to-be:
Do you use tampons? Do you masturbate? Both will make it hurt less. And PUH-LEASE. It's fine for girls to masturbate. It's not only for guys. It lowers blood pressure, stress, gets rid of craps. Just try it.
As for the romance part. It won't be perfect. No one's first time is! It's like 40 Year Old Virgin where it's like meh at first and then gets better. Maybe not in the same day, but you have to take time to adjust to each other and learn each other's style. I give you props for waiting until marriage though. Sleeping with a few guys has led me to be 100% happy I didn't wait. Bleh. Some would have never gotten better. There was chemistry everywhere else, except sex. But it also made me realize the one guy who truly mattered. Either way, I wish you luck! My mom only had sex with my dad her entire life and they're almost at 25 years of marriage + like 10 of dating!