It Sounds Like a Movie... But It's ...
This is really going to sound like it's straight out of a movie, but I just graduated from high school, and I was very close to some of my teachers. This one male teacher and I were like best friends, and I even felt like he was an older brother to me, while girls in my grade were all aweing over him. They've told me how lucky I was to have that "connection" to him. He isn't old, but he isn't in my "age-range" so to speak.
After graduation, he texted me over the summer wanting to hangout. You know, now that I've graduated, it's not as weird. But recently, we've been texting a lot more. He tells he's attracted to me, and that he wants pictures. It's not like I have a huge problem with it, but I have a boyfriend. I'm also attracted to him, and I'm not really sure what to do...

If he's out of your age range AND you have a boyfriend...it might be best to just tell him that an intimate relationship would never be a possibility.
Also, he was your high school teacher. If he got caught texting a former student and trying to get pictures and saying he's attracted to you...he could get into a lot of trouble. and if people found out that it was YOU, it could cause lots of unnecessary problems for you, as well.
I'm not that far off in age with you (just by a few years) but I CAN say, that you learn a lot in a few years and I personally think that you are just crushing on him. which is fine...But sometimes its just best to let a crush be a crush and nothing more. Stick to your age group and stick with your boyfriend.
Getting involved with this guy just seems like bad news.
Wow.
What does he mean by, "pictures?"
A man that respected you wouldn't ask for this... at least outside of a relationship. I have dated men MUCH older than I, and even one of my teachers out of HS. I have been there. But you must be on the lookout for men who just want you as another notch in their belt.
If you are comfortable, hang out with him. Sure. But be wary.
Avoid this at all costs
Stay with your boyfriend and tell your HS teacher that you're not interested. Any man who wants you to disrespect yourself that way is not worth the time.
LOL CREEEEEEEP!
haha no offense but thats kinda weird. if u have a boyfriend you shouldnt wanna be with anyone else and if u do theyre obviously not a good boyfriend. and even if u didnt, its sorta creepy to be with a hs teacher, especially one that's older than you! eek!! i'd back off...
Saying someone shouldn't want to be with anyone else, and blaming the boyfriend if they do, well, that sounds to me like limited relationship experience. Relationships are complicated, and honest, open ones tend to be more so. Human nature isn't to settle down easily. She's just out of high school, most people won't settle down for another decade after that. It's not that unusual.
umm, how much older is he? if hes not like right out of college thats creepy... and pictures? you have a boyfriend, you need to get it together...
To the person above me, even when people are in intimate relationships they still look at other people that they find appealing.
Its called LUST. And Humans as a race aren't exactly meant to be monogamous. We are like primates.
I do however think you shouldn't do anything with this teacher.
He really does sound like a creep.
I think you should hang out with him a while, make it clear you just want to be friends or whatever and see what hes like outside of school.
I sort of wish my teacher was around me like that, and the photo thing, i don't think he would have meant it like that, people ask for photos on they're phones all the time, theres nothing creepy about it unless he suggests you send him some inappropriate ones.
and also i know its possible to like 2 people at the same time and it doesn't mean your boyfriend is not good just because you like someone else, but u should really tell him if you'd rather be with your teacher, oh and i dont really think age is necessarily a bad thing unless hes like 40 years older than you, girls mature a lot more before men do anyway so you'd practically be about his age in those terms.
you said that you felt like your teacher was like a brouther to you, i would be wiery about getting to involved as it may ruin your relationship with him! if you truly like him i think you should just see where things end up! i know it is easy to fall for 2 people (i did it) it wasnt anything my boyfriend did and i wasnt looking for it! somtimes things just happen. photoes, this could mean anything maby not as bad as people are thinking! every1 has photoes of other people on there phone! the only problem is no1 here knows him, cant say if he will break your heart or if things will work out! is it worth the risk?? you really just have to do what you think is best make your own oppinion as you will learn from all the mistakes you make in life! dont rush into things and think things thru b4 you act!! how will the people around you feel?? dont wry about age though its only a number!!
depends how much older than you he is but to me he sounds like hes seducing you in an inapropriate way they all seem nice at first but if ur guna continue id watch yourself you never know weather hes genuin (Y)
what does he mean by pictures, and if your like 19 and he's 40, that's a big difference. My parents have a 9 year 9 month age difference. Now they're devorced, so my point is, if you don't think it will last, then why bother?
I would steer clear of this one. For several reasons.
He is your old high school teacher. Let me repeat- he is your old high school teacher. If he has done this to one person he's probably done it to several.
College student and post college students have very different lives. Even college students and grad student have very different lives. I'm not saying it can't work- but when you're 18 or 19, four years can be a huge age difference.
Would he get in trouble for seeing you- even as a graduate? Would it look bad on his record should the school system or other future employers find out about it?
I'd take a step back and maintain some distance here.
you have a boyfriend.... that probably cares a whole lot about you, and that wont pressure you into doing things like this, unless you two were absolutely certain that it is something you want. the "teacher", being older and such, is most likely going to get you to do what he wants, meaning... he'll use you as he pleases. don't screw up the relationship you've got..
In Britain you're not allowed to have a relationship with your teachers if they've taught you, or have been teaching at your school, for three years after you've left their care. If this is the case where you are, I suggest you just stay with your boyfriend - if it doesn't work out between the teacher and you, then you've put his career at unnecessary risk and may have ruined a perfectly good relationship with your boyfriend.
If your happy with your boyfriend, stay there. If your unhappy, I wouldn't just jump into with the teacher, you should hang out first and see what he is like outside of school. And how much older than you is he? Someone posted that their parents are divorced and they are 9yr 9mo age difference, age really doesn't make a difference if you really do love eachother. My aunt and uncle are 16 years apart, have been married for 25 happy years, and don't plan on changing it, they are just as in love as they have ever been and my mom and her current huband are about 9 years apart and are just as in love as the day they met.
this happened to a girl I went to school with. he forgot to tell her that he had a wife and kids at home.
For some reason I think male teachers these days are weird to the max. I've had 2 similar experiences to you and I'm glad I avoided them at all costs.
just one of those creeps that sleeps with younger girls.. doesnt really want a relationship and a waste of your time
what does he mean by pictures???
I understand your situation, its happens everyday. BUT tell him um thats kinda "weird" and "creepy". You're a douche bag, go home to your family. They taught you culture in college, right? Ewww.
I dated one of my younger teachers right after I graduated. It was hard because we didn't want anyone to see us out (not because of his career but my reputation). Anyways, it ended up not working out because we were on different playing fields so to speak. If you have a good boyfriend, stay with him. It's not worth ruining a good relationship on the unknown. Most girls get anxious in a good relationship and destroy it because they wonder if there is something better. Sometimes there is but you might want to at least Google this teacher to find out if he's hiding a wife or kids. Also if he knows you have a boyfriend and the pictures he asked for are less than fully clothed then he doesn't respect you and only wants one thing. Good luck with everything.
I put myself in your shoes a minute. What would it be like if I were 17 years old, and let's say, had a mutual attraction with a teacher at my high school,really close in age let's say, he is 20, and cute, and really does a great job teaching underwater basket weaving, my favorite class.
Ok, sure. If I don't have a boyfriend,and he was teaching my favorite subject, and he was cute, he would be irresistable. and, if he asked for pictures, I would be a little embarrassed, BUT THEN
I wold confide in an adult if this was appropriate.
So, there you have it. you need to confide in another adult, who isn't going to fly off the handle, and be too judgemental.
I don't find anything wrong with dating older men. I was 18 when I met my husband, who was 25 at the time, and we are happily married (I am 19, now).
oops... made a mistake. Anyways.
Seeing as you already have a boyfriend, I wouldn't give your teacher the time of day.
If he is asking for pictures, be careful! I have had male friends like that. I lost respect for them immediately. Be very aware of your situation here and don't make too much of it.
I definitely agree with the above post saying to google him. Definitely look him up and be sure. Also be aware of you boyfriend's feelings, not just your own.
I hope I'm not also another person to repeat, but I can understand if you find him alluring. That's what we all like to believe we do. But considering the "benefits" and "consequences", I think the consequences outweigh more than "benefits".
1- the Boyfriend could be devastated
2- the teacher might just be USING you
3- people will find out it was him and HE'D get into MAJOR trouble [social and with the law]
4- people will find out that it was you and YOU'D suffer [social]
5- lose the boyfriend that you might consider again
And of course the list goes on.
In other words, I hope I'm not too late. For future readers, high school students and adults above 25... precede with caution.