ArticleJealousy? We've all committed it...
They say that jealousy is a sin. But sometimes, it's a sin one cannot help committing.
We've all been there, "She's prettier than me", "She's skinnier than me", "I wish my boyfriend was a wondreful as her's", "She's got everything I don't have". Sometimes being a girl just leads you to constantly compare yourself to other women, even when you don't know you're doing it!
But are we really doing ourselves any favours by constantly comparing ourselves to the girl's around us? By constantly putting ourselves down because "hollywood" has given us these warped ideas that we have to be skinny, perfect skinned, perfect teeth, and own expensive clothes?
I think it's high time Hollywood get a taste of the real girls in the world, because we are all just as beautiful and just as talented as any person published in those magazines and we shouldn't have to live day by day being jealous and putting ourselves down over things that we just can't see we've already got!
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Sometimes this jealousy can help you realize what you want or need. If you're thinking "I wish my boyfriend was as wonderful as her's" should you find someone else who's going to care about you the way you need to be cared for? If you're thinking "She's skinnier than me." maybe you need to find what she does for her exercise routine so you can look similar. "She's got everything I don't have" is a bit extreme but at the same time, could you be budgeting better?
Sometimes jealousy can lead us to a life change.
Totally agree Rosie! Good article, sometimes its true, girls do over react with stuff like this, they do think unrational thoughts which result in them thinking many silly things like this, unfortunately its part of being human to be jealous. But if all girls could take both this article and your opinion Rosie, I think they might be able to see that jealousy, when dealt with correctly, can actually be turned into a positive for you :-)
It can lead you to help change a few things in our lives that we find lacking. So we should all learn to control our jealousy and turn it into something positive :-)
Thanks Rosie! Thanks Anonymous poster! You both helped a lot :-)
Jealousy is a lack of confidence.
I don't say this because I'm not a jealous girl. I DO get jealous often!!!! Even though I do realize it's just a lack of confidence in myself and I TRY SO HARD to be confident, it's still there!! Sometimes I wonder if it's because my boyfriend doesn't prove to me he loves me enough to never compare me to another woman. But he does show me he loves me all time!!! Yet the feeling still persists.
Is there anything we really can do about it?
Sophia, your so right!
These things may seem stupid to some people but so many of us girls still have these nagging feelings that we can't shake no matter how silly they do seem, sometimes feelings just don't go away!
I suppose all we can do is try and focus on things we DO like about ourselves and learn to love ourselves more rather than focusing on the points we may find bad :-)
I completely agree, and the hard part is that many, myself included keep feeling jealous, like right now, I'm in university and I met a new friend who is frighteningly similar to me, we're a week apart, same field of study, same name, height, low tone voice, etc etc. My problem is that all the guys I seem to have interest in, go for her. She already has a Boyfriend, but she continued to flirt with these guys, then complains to me later how she misses her boyfriend. I can't help feeling jealous, we're so alike, yet she seems always better. I envy that she has someone, and I don't.
I want to be unbiased on the subject, but I honnestly don't think that people can do anything about it, it's human nature to want what others have and what we don't have.
hi ladies, well said
i feel ok after knowing that other ppl do feel as me and its not something wrong about me
the problem is im really jealous of a specific woman in my in laws family, the feeling are extremes and unhealthy,, but i tried everything to let go i even tried hypnosis,,or kind of hypnosis but the feelings didnt change,,i ve never been like that before,,ever,, and i hate why i become like that, maybe its due to some reasons like my fiance, lack of confidence, i cant really discuss here coz i intend to be anonymous so no family member can know..
anyway..wish i can get some practical tips for that,, i really need it before it ruins my life and relationship...thanks