21. someone who isn't afraid to share his emotions...even if that means crying. if he trusts me then he knows it will stay between us.

22. Someone who will let me in to their heart... their joys, their fears, their ambitions and their dreams! Someone who can see past the stigmas sinlge moms carry around and look right into who I AM without questioning my intentions... someone that will just let me love them!

23. Someone that is willing to introduce me to his family and friends...I don't want him to be ashamed of me

All I can say is Twenty may be a little far fetched as some girls may not know the brands and cosmetic lines but other than that I agree with your list.

23. Someone who isn't going to get annoyed if I talk about an ex or something in my past, and also instead of making it all serious share stuff from their past as well trusting I won't get annoyed or jealous either, because I won't. Then being able to joke around or create humor out of it if possible. Also A guy that will understand traumas from the past and be there when something comes back to haunt you temporarily.

25. Someone who is willing to love me unconditionally, someone who would just be there when i feel my world is crashing down.., someone who would tell me he loves me, and make my dark day into light..

cute

Let us remember that whatever we expect of them, we need to first be able to prove true of ourselves. It is give and take, remember that.

I don't mean to show off, but as I was reading this list, every single thing in here my boyfriend has. I love him so much. <3 <3 yea I know I wasn't much help, I have to add one thing:

It takes real lovers to be silly with each other. Know how to have real genuine FUN and not worry what the other person thinks of each other when your acting like a complete dork. You need that person to love you even when your the most vulnerable.

someone who i feel sexy and beautiful around when i have no make up, my hairs a mess and im in my sweats.

1.not being funny right, but this man is non-exsistent
2. you are a control freak.
3. your going to die a single women with 9 cats.
stop wasting your life away on "girlsguideto.co," aposed to actually finding a man out there.
im not because im 13.
thank you
and goodnight.
dont do drugs.

and 20! what the fuck do you want a soul mate or a gay man.
from the abover commenter aswel.

You want a guy who knows high priced designers? Is this because you could have some Gold-digger tendencies. C'mon girl, grow up. Some of the things you've listed are totally understandable, but others are just....silly. Anyone can understand when a person is being dramatic/emotional, but does that mean they have to put up with it? No. If you're being unreasonably dramatic or a bitch, then he has every right to walk away from the situation to cool things down.
And just FYI, no man will ever fit perfectly into your list. However, just because they don't meet every requirement doesn't mean they aren't perfect for you. Keep your options open and don't be afraid to date outside what you would consider your "type" chances are you could be wrong about who's right for you. I was, then I took a chance and met my soulmate. Good luck to you.

ok, but look at reality here. clearly your all deluded middle aged women and men are no longer intrested in you.
you will never find a man ever like that.
there are plenty of men who have some of these qualities but youll never find a man to have all of the above qualities.
fuck off i have seen my mum date loads of guys and i can understand that this is never going to happen.
and if you do find a man like this every he is a closet gay man.
seriously all of you need to wake up and smell the coffee.
and cara candell at least you can see where im coming from.

Well, I think we pinpointed the 13 yr olds issues. As for your list... I do find some of those things to be rather silly. I won't waste time insulting or saying mean things because that isn't the reason for the list. I do agree you should keep an open mind about who you date.

If I could add something to the list, I would probably add something about him being able to get along with your friends and family. Those people are important to you and if he is going to be important to you too, it would be good if he got along with them.

Miss My Mr. Right composer: I LOVE your list!!! Totally support it all!!! I think it is very well thought out and excuse you ladies that are too narrow minded to know that a girl deserves all of this and more... including the designers. Whatever your heart desires girlfriend!!! Go find it!!! You can have it!

Honey, these are fantastic and beautiful criteria, and I am fully behind them all! NEVER settle for second-best, because he's not worth it. And you know, if you look for these things, you will find that you'll discover someone you never expected, who will meet all of these and more, because these ideas will be embodied in a person, and he'll have some talent you admire, be excessively interesting but not conceited, that kind of thing. One hint, though: stop looking for him. If you do you'll never find him. Just dump whichever asshole you happen to be with and start pursuing your dreams with all your passion. While you're at it, someone will tumble into your life and it'll be a beautiful thing.

Best of luck! From your list, I can tell you've got your head on straight. Go with it, girl!

ok, fuck off. sad people.
never ever will you find this.
sad
freaks

well i agree with the girl whether she is 13 or not, she makes a very good point.
and all of you neeed to see that.

Well I have to say that I agree with this 13 year old partially whether she/he is 13 or whatever your "Mr. Right" sounds way to perfect and you have been sitting there listing off all of these qualties. Its pathetic. I dont think its fair what if all men sit there and list everything that they want in us? to be honest Id never get a date. Also I think that the imperfections make the people perfect for you.

touché, kudos to you, yes im 13 and to be honest all of you really do have to realise that this will never happen. im sorry. i may be 13 and have not experienced love to the full but i understand that this mr right is a fantasy not someone you’ll meet in reality. Sorry. But it’s very true.

Okay, thirteen-year-old (because I don't know what else to call you)... I think that this woman realizes that this is a fantasy. No one in their right mind would look for someone who has all of these aspects. Hell, I think I'd feel downright terrible for dating someone so perfect. She just listed off what she would LIKE in a man. Not what she expects. These are qualities that she looks for, but doesn't necessarily require. It's like a fantasy football team, vs. a favorite football team.
Stop getting so upset about it. It's not worth it. She isn't hurting anyone. She certainly isn't hurting you. You need to take life a little less seriously, because, trust me, being angry and melodramatic gets old after awhile.
And as for the 'don't do drugs' deal, I know you were trying to be cute and quirky, but drugs are fun, and you should feel free to experiment in a safe environment. It might help you loosen up, honey.

As for the list, my only complaint is the whole 'all women are emotional' line. If you practice, you can learn when it is appropriate to be emotional, and when it is not. Yes, it's not natural, but it'll make you a better person, and perhaps help you find someone closer to your desires. It'll also help in other aspects of your life.
Good luck finding someone who will appreciate you, and who you can stand being with. From what I've seen, it's not as easy as my experience has been.

My thoughts on the list... Everyone is different, and everyone reacts to different people in different ways. You'll find someone who reacts that way to you eventually! Except for #20... Expecting THAT out of a man is probably pushing it ;)

I'd like to add that I think it's important to find a man who doesn't take himself too seriously and doesn't think he's God's gift to mankind. Those snobby types are hard for ANYONE to get along with :P

Guys that fit every single quality that a girl might want, might not be the one that you find. But these are simply things that we strive to have in a man. As women, we want the best for ourselves and want to be treated right by the men in our lives. We want happiness. No, we may not find it. But why can't we simply try for it? Look for it? I'm a strong believer that we should not settle for less than what we deserve. If a guy treats you like crap, and can't even fulfill our basic needs; is he truly worth it? This list may seem impossible, but it's really not. This list is composed of things easily done. Support, love, comfort. Good guys do exist; it's just a longer journey for us to find him. We'll have to set aside the guys who can't treat us right and keep striving to find the one that does.

wow i'm 17 and just relized my ex had all those qualities. it wasn't my choice 2 breakup my dad made us b-cuz he was 19.witch is plum stupid anyways. now we don't speak at all when we see each other face 2 face we both just stare at each other with the look of i miss u on are faces. it breaks my heart more and more he's constantly on my mind. i still love him and all friends say date someone else i say i can't.

also and i want this all in a boyfriend..No one of my ex's has allt his...eather half of this..So now am in searching ..

Its safe to say that as a single mom of 3, with a failed marriage and a few other failed "I love him"s, life has defineltly made me a realist when it comes to dating and finding Mr. Right. Sadly I have become a broken irritable bitch, and I absolutely hate that feeling! Before reading this article I would have probably jumped on the hate wagon, but when I read this list, it made me remember the idealistic part of me that is still in there (just a bit squashed) and for once in a very long time, I smiled! It felt good to feel like that "dreamer" again who believed she could have anything in life she wanted... even if it is a dream... its MY dream!
Before I met my ex husband, i was so low in life, all my list required was that he had a pulse! How sad is that?!?! You know where that got me? Married to an alcoholic, abusive, control freak with now 2 kids to raise on my own! After that, "must not drink, not gamble, not live with parents" got added to my list... where did that leave me? A single mom jumping into a relationship that eventually would end because said boyfriend ran off overseas for work and figured foreign girls are easy?!?! Back to my list to add "local job" and I became an untrusting irritable non believer in love! Found guy with said pulse,who didnt drink, gamble and owned his own house and had a great job here in our city... this man changed my prospective on the whole "love" bit again when he swore he would give me the world someday and that made me smile my beautiful smile again! Sadly, when the dr informed me I would be adding to the midget count by one, this man bolted for teh door leaving me to fend for myself in life as a single mom of 3! (have to give him credit, he did say he would give me the world someday and to that he held up his end of teh bargain) And its back to my list I went... this time I scratched it all off and wrote "MEN ARE MEAN... FALL IN LOVE WITH YOURSELF!" and to that I did! I stayed single and focused on MY life, and my children and I absolutely LOVED life! I LOVED MYSELF! And when I am ready to let someone else into that world of mine... i most definetly will have a new list... and it will be far fetched to some Im sure... and i may not find him in this lifetime... but I have been doing it on my own for so long, alone doesnt scare me! Im happier alone than settling for less than I deserve! Be picky! You all deserve it... and by being so, you save yourself from becoming a divorced single mom of 3, with a jaded heart and years of depression! Believe me!

im gonna print this out and hand it to guys when they ask for my number, like a list of job requirements..... then they can give me a list of their credentials.......... (joke, but tempting)

i love the list though, well, most of it, but im replacing #20 with
"someone steadier than me, someone to bring me back to earth when i get caught up in my own drama, but with a wild side too, someone who'll sweep me up and tak me wild, as i say"

and #21
a creative someone, who understands, the trials and triumphs of creation, someone who i can have wordless conversations with, where all the communication is in the body and the eyes. someone who'll remember who i am, and remind w=me when ive forgotten. someone for whom i can do the same.

oh gosh, i could go on forever.

but basically, a relationship where every day and each moment is a sharing and a growing together. an imperfect someone who loves me as much as i love them.

Are all you women willing to have a man sit down and write a list like this?

another would be that he and i have similarities but also differences so that it never gets boring and he teaches me new things.
also-for me- a guy just has to crack me up whenever i need him to him knowing when i need it....

To the original girl who wrote this: don't take what the 13 year old girl said personally. She is going through troubles of her own and misery loves company. And also, don't let love pass you by by only taking a chance on a guy that fits into your perfect mold. My number one is a guy that gives me goosebumps and butterflies. Quoting Sex and the City, you have to have the za za zoo!

To the 13 year old girl that bashed the original writer then got bashed by everyone else: your mom is not right to have put you through so many hardships and fathers, however, you're not right to take that out on someone else. And why are you "wasting your time on girlsguideto.com"? Don't be mean to other people just because you've had it rough in this world. Know that there's is always someone out there who has it worse than you. That's what keeps me going!