ArticlePanic about Long Distance...
My boyfriend and I have been together off an on for 3 and a half years. We started dating when I was 14 and he was 13. I'm 18 now, and he is 17. I love him very much and things have been great since we decided to get back together after a break. However, because of the age difference, I'm moving away in September to go to college an hour and a half away while he stays here to finish his last year of high school. He's very smart and in all pure classes, meaning a lot of homework. He is also into hockey which takes up most of his weekends from September to March. He is planning on being back and forth for work during the summer, and this is all becoming quite overwhelming for me. I'm scared I'm going to get very few chances to see him and I really don't know how to bring the conversation up because he likes to "fly by the seat of his pants" and not really have set plans for things. I don't want to lose him, but I also don't want to sound like a naggy girlfriend trying to tell him what to do. Any advice would be greatly appreciated because all of this is stressing me out! Thank you. =)
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I was a nagging girlfriend for 7 months while my fiance and I were apart. We're still apart, yet we're still raising our daughter together, make financial decisions together, communicating very well, have an open honesty policy, and are happier than we've ever been together. All we're waiting on now is the money to move back in together because like your boyfriend and yourself, we're an hour and a half apart!
As long as you both talk to each other and do it on a good basis then everything will be fine. Yes your going to have lonely nights but trust me it is worth it then losing them. I have been in an on and off again long distance relationship and truthfully I wouldn;t trade that man for the world. Right now were going thru a rough patch but everything will workout because we keep commucation open and make it a big importance. Communcation is the key to a long distance relationship.
He's actually concidering playing hockey for a town that is closer to where I'm going so we can see each other more often. This is just really hard... I'm so used to him only being a 5 minute drive away and seeing him 3-4 times a week. Plus, it's my first time leaving home. All in all, very stressful.
I was in and LDR for 2 years until I married my husband...he was 3000 miles away so dont tell me an hour and a half is bad, you can go home on the weekends and see his hockey games. I was at college while my now husband was in basic training to the United States Air Force. You can call him everyday even if its just for 15mins. I wasn't allowed to see him for 6 months you will learn to love phone calls, instant messaging and skype.
Wow, Anonymous 1:31am, thanks for sharing that... I had previously been a a LDR but the guy couldnt handle it.. now I met an awsome guy but he is currently in Florida in the US AirForce wanting to change branches... it hasnt been long but he and I already mean the world to each other, and Im just glad to hear situations like mine do happen and work out for the best. we also use LiveMessenger and our phones to stay in contact... I enjoy it alot I cant wait to see him soon. :D
I've been with my current bf for 8 months so far. The first 5 months was like honeymoon coz we both studied at the same campus, but coz we had different intakes, i finished earlier. we actually planned to continue our degree at the same Uni, but something came up and I changed my mind. the first month of being apart was hard, we both felt the distance, especially him. and i did caught him few times flirting with other girls behind my back but we managed to sort it all out. *so i hope*
i called him just now to let him know that Im planning to fly to his place, but I can't stay long. then he said that it wont be worth it, so he will fly over here. i actually wanted to surprise him coz i know he cant take the distance and feels insecure. this is the both our first serious relationship and its long distance. i love him and wish it'll last for years =)
Not to be gross or weird but phone sex and traveling to spend time together bout every other month worked for me and my man!
ur not being gross. its true. me and my bf had phone sex but something happened that made me not wanting to do it anymore. im not gonna lie, it has affected our relationship somehow coz we're both not the type who's gonna be on the phone with each other 24/7. it made us kinda feel distanced. i tried to have it back with him, but i felt weird and faking it.