ArticleSomething Every Woman Should Read... Abo...
- If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
- Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
- Allow your intuition to save you from heartache.
- Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be
- Slower is better. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
- If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends". A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.
- Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
- Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.
- The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
- If something bothers you, speak up.
- You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within.
- Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are... even if he has more education or has a better job.
- Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
- Never let a man define who you are.
- Never borrow someone else's man. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.
- A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
- All men are NOT dogs.
- You should not be the one doing all the bending... compromise is a two way street.
- You need time to heal between relationships... There is nothing cute about baggage... Deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship
- You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...
- A relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals. Look for someone complementary... Not supplementary.
- Dating is fun... Even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.
- When a man always know where you are, and you're always readily available to him - he takes it for granted.
- Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.
Share this with other women and men just so they know... You'll make someone smile, another rethink her/his choices, and another woman prepare, and a man aware. ~Oprah
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right!!
I can pick so many holes in this
Like what??? I'm curious.
yea, me too
me too.
i would also like to know what kind of "holes" you can pick in this because i thought it was really true and that all women *and* men should read it
simply LOVE this!!! "If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends". A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend." So True!!!
so totally true!!!
Good rules of thumb
well said...its sooo true
most of it is fine...some of it...not so much....
like it! agreed... if you don't follow these... you'll never truly be you and happy, and you'll end up with broken heart after broken heart...
i love this!
Wow this is so true, my eyes have been openend.
yes!!!!that's right!!!!!
Yes, this is eyeopening!
THIS IS THE REALITY! ;)
This all sounds good for women, but what about the guys? It sort of puts them down... I've always been taught that while a woman needs unconditional love, while guys need respect. When the world puts them down, you should be there to make him feel worth it. Some of the stuff sounded like it was restricting girls from telling men how great they are - after all they were made to be head of the household. "Better" is just not the correct word, so I agree there.
Men may 'deserve' respect, but they have to earn it and be able to show respect to the woman they are with. Relationships are nothing without respect(mutual), and since when are men still 'supposed to be head of the household'? Nowadays(since we're way past the 40's and 50's), more women are the 'breadwinners', and therefore, by old days standards, 'head of the household'. Men and women alike only deserve as much respect as they put out towards others. Neither sex is better or worse than the other, we are just different, with different strengths and weaknesses. And FYI, not all women need 'unconditional love'. If you can love yourself, whos to say you need a man to show you unconditional love? I dont believe the post was putting men down, it was lifting women up and reminding them not to put up with the same old BS we've been putting up with for years because of societies 'standards' for women involving needing to have a man in their life. Well, its a new day and age and we dont need men to survive, and we dont need to put up with their rude and disrespectful behavior towards us for fear that we will be stigmatized as 'the single girl' in a bad way. Being alone, without a man, in this girls opinion is way easier and alot more fun than being 'tied down' to a relationship with someone who hasnt learned how to treat a woman like she should be treated...
yes, I agree with this list, and that little voice inside is very reliable..too bad a lot of us dont listen to it...it would be interesting to see the list a man would have in reference to women.. hhhmmmm..
something to think about.. yes????
Dis is jus awesum...rocks to the core..i have had so many problems in my relationships..and i had decided to QUIT..bt here i am...!!
this has inspired me to try..yet again...!!
This is so true if you think about it =)
After being married for a long time and now dating again I can wholeheartedly agree with this. I've learnt from experience the difference between a man who loves and respects you and one who is only concerned with his needs and this list hits the nail on the head. And yes, if a man wants you he will call and call and call.
this is so true.
i'm most def going to give this link to all my friends!
very true
Could somebody explain the 'You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...' one?
i totally agree with all of them, just this one confused me... :|
yea, me too :/
Alot of girls look for relationships in order to feel 'whole' or 'complete', as if there is a part of you thats missing and can only be filled or fixed by having a man in your life in a boyfriend or husband role. Until you can wholly love yourself, and accept yourself for who you are and strive to be who you want to be, without the 'help' of a man, you would most likely be on the search for someone to 'complete' you.Its like a puzzle. We are made up of puzzle pieces, but if you are missing one piece, you might think every guy you date has that piece that would make your puzzle(aka life) complete. In all reality, we have all the pieces to the puzzle, we just have to find out where they fit and put them together, on our own, without using a man to 'find' that missing piece.hope that clarifies a little.
sooo true!!
Easier said than done. Unfortunately.
What does this mean? "You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you..."
It means that you should be "complete" as a whole person yourself.... another person can define you or make you who you are... he will only enhance who you are as a person
no other person will be able to complete who u are as a person, if you aren't happy with yourself and in your own life then no relationship is gonna complete what can only come from within you.
well ts straight outta "hes not just into you" but every bit of it is true/... i agreee totally
im totally lovin this!
Whole lotta hurt & tears & I told ya so's.... but this nailed it!
I love this, I kept nodding my head to each one. :-)
this is gud, picked up a few pointers about where i was goin wrong
"If he will cheat with you, he will cheat on you" figured that out the hard way, what a waste of my time and i knew he cheated on his gf before me with other girls that me. I was stupid in that relationship, but he was hot and he would just look at me and i would melt he had such beautiful eyes
i love this...so much sense!
yup!!! That's soooo right!! love it! <3
yes, yes, and yes :)
yes, yes, and yes :)
Great!!!
The only person you can control in a relationship is you.!
Not all is true, but most of them are ! : )
I read that first line and my heart sank... it fits so perfectly with my situation its like it was written for it. I kept reading and it kept making complete sense. This is all so true! As much as it hurts I think this is exactly what I needed to read... I need to end my "relationship" ASAP, it does nothing but bring me down and make me feel like I am worthless, I need to get my spirit back and not let him get near it again! But Shelley is right, easier said than done... Reading this is the first step in the right direction though... Wish me luck ladies xx
Amen!!! To all of it!!
Amen!!! To all of it!!
I kind of disagree with one statement. But that's it. All pretty good information. But sometimes a man or woman does complete you. Especially if you find that when you are apart from one another a piece of your soul is missing, and when you're reunited you feel whole once more and as if all is right in the world. That is a soul mate.
... complement* not compliment.
If you're going to publish something, please, try to read through it and check your grammar.
And anyway, I think that when someone says "You complete me." they generally mean that the other person complements them.