ArticleThrough the Eyes of a Rapist...
Most of these are things we probably already know but it’s nice to be reminded of them. I hope none of us is ever in a situation to fight for our lives, but if it should happen more information is better!!! Be sure to pass this on to your daughters, sons, sisters, friends, family, and even your enemies.
Through a Rapist's Eyes (No Joke)
When this was sent to me, I was told to forward it to my lady friends, but I forwarded it to most everyone in my address book. My men friends have female friends and this Information is too important to miss someone.
Please pass it along and share it with your children.
A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interviewed on what they look for in a potential victim and here are some interesting facts:
1) The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle. They are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun, braid or other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed. They are also likely to go after a woman with long hair. Women with short hair are not common targets.
2) The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for women who's clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them carry scissors around specifically to cut clothing.
3) They also look for women on their cell phone, searching through their purse, or doing other activities while walking because they are off-guard and can be easily overpowered.
4) Men are most likely to attack & rape in the early morning, between 5: 00a.m. and 8:30a.m.
5) The number one place women are abducted from/attacked is grocery store parking lots. The number two: office parking lots/garages. Number three: public restrooms.
6) The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman and quickly move her to another location where they don't have to worry about getting caught.
7) Only 2% said they carried weapons because rape carries a 3-5 year sentence but rape with a weapon is 15-20 years.
8) If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged because it only takes a minute or two for them to realize that going after you isn't worth it because it will be time-consuming.
9) These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas, or other similar objects that can be used from a distance, in their hands
Keys are NOT a deterrent because you have to get really close to the attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince these guys you're not worth it.
10) Several defense mechanisms he taught us are: If someone is following behind you on a street or in a garage or with you in an elevator or stairwell, look them in the face and
ask them a question, like "what time is it?", or make general small talk: 'I can't believe it is so cold out here,' 'We're in for a bad winter.' Now you've seen their face and could identify them in a line-up; you lose appeal as a target.
11) If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in front of you and yell STOP! or STAY BACK! Most of the rapists this man talked to said they'd leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she would not be afraid to fight back. Again, they are looking for an EASY target.
12) If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of it and carries it with him wherever he goes), yell I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY and holding it out will be a deterrent.
13) If someone grabs you, you can't beat them with strength but you can by outsmarting them. If you are grabbed around the waist from behind, pinch the attacker either under the Arm (between the elbow and armpit) OR in the upper inner thigh VERY VERY HARD. One woman in a class this guy taught told him she used the underarm pinch on a guy who was trying to date rape her and was so upset she broke through the skin and tore out muscle strands - the guy needed stitches. Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as you can stand it - it hurts.
14) After the initial hit, always GO for the GROIN. I know from a particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy's parts it is extremely painful. You might think that you'll anger the guy and make him want to hurt you more, but the thi ng these rapists told our instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause a lot of trouble. Start causing trouble and he's out of there.
15) When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two fingers and bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing down on them as possible. The
instructor did it to me without using much pressure, and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked audibly.
16) Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware of your surroundings, take someone with you if you can and if you see any odd behavior, don't dismiss it, go with your instincts!!!
You may feel a little silly at the time, but you'd feel much worse if the guy really was trouble.
1. Tip from Tae Kwon Do : The elbow is the strongest point on your body. If you are close enough to use it, do!
2. Learned this from a tourist guide in New Orleans : If a robber asks for your wallet and/or purse, DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM. Toss it away from you....chances are that he is more interested in your wallet and/or purse than you, and he will go for the wallet/purse. RUN LIKE MAD IN THE OTHER DIRECTION!
3. If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car, kick out the back tail lights and stick your arm out the hole and start waving like crazy. The driver won't see you, but everybody else will. This has saved lives.
4. Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping, eating, working, etc, and just sit (doing their checkbook, or making a list, etc.) DON'T DO THIS! The predator will be watching you, and this is the perfect opportunity for him to get in on the passenger side, put a gun to your head, and tell you where to go. AS SOON AS YOU GET INTO YOUR CAR, LOCK THE DOORS AND LEAVE.
a. If someone is in the car with a gun to your head DO NOT DRIVE OFF, repeat: DO NOT DRIVE OFF! Instead gun the engine and speed into anything, wrecking the car. Your Air Bag will save you. If the person is in the back seat they will get the worst of it. As soon as the car crashes bail out and run. It is better than having them find your body in a remote location.
5. A few notes about getting into your car in a parking lot or parking garage:
A.) Be aware: look around you, look into your car, at the passenger side floor, and in the back seat.
B.) If you are parked next to a big van, enter your car from the passenger door. Most serial killers attack their victims by pulling them into their vans while the women are attempting to get into their cars.
C.) Look at the car parked on the driver's side of your vehicle, and the passenger side. If a male is sitting alone in the seat nearest your car, you may want to walk back into the mall, or work, and get a guard/policeman to walk you back out.
IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY. (And better paranoid than dead.)
6. ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs. (Stairwells are horrible places to be alone and the perfect crime spot. This is especially true at NIGHT!)
7. If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control, ALWAYS RUN! The predator will only hit you (a running target) 4 in 100 times. And even then, it most likely WILL NOT be a vital organ. RUN, preferably in a zigzag pattern!
8. As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic: STOP! It may get you raped or killed. Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a good-looking, well-educated man, who ALWAYS played on the sympathies of unsuspecting women. He walked with a cane, or a limp, and often asked 'for help' into his vehicle or with his vehicle, which is when he abducted his next victim.
9. Another Safety Point: Someone just told me that her friend heard a crying baby on her porch the night before last, and she called the police because it was late and she thought it was weird. The police told her 'Whatever you do, DO NOT open the door.'
The lady then said that it sounded like the baby had crawled near a window, and she was worried that it would crawl to the street and get run over. The policeman said,
'We already have a unit on the way, whatever you do, DO NOT open the door.' He told her that they think a serial killer has a baby's cry recorded and uses it to coax women out of their homes thinking that someone dropped off a baby. He said they have not verified it, but have had several calls by women saying that they hear baby's cries outside their doors when they're home alone at night.
Please pass this on and DO NOT open the door for a crying baby --- This should be taken seriously because the Crying Baby theory was mentioned on America's Most Wanted this
past Saturday when they profiled the serial killer in Louisiana
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amazing post.
good advice for the less streetwise among us, and always good to have a memory jog
I knew many of these ideas but had forgotten some and others were new to me. No matter it never hurts for an update. Though I always get in my car and lock the doors. It's the first thing my mom taught me when learning to drive. Plus I always look into the backseat of my car as I'm walking up to it just to make sure no one is in it.
This is something that needs to be spread around to girls on major university campuses. Rape and date rape is especially prevalent in those areas, not just in inner city areas.
Ive also heard that some predators will burst one of your main water pipes in hopes of luring you out of your house...Call the water company first or make sure your husband or boyfriend is with you. Call the closest male neighbor and have them come over or something. Just dont go outside alone to check on your water pipes. Money to pay for the burst pipes is a lot less to lose than your life.
The crying baby thing made me sick. As far as cars go, I'm really glad that my car only unlocks the driver's door when you hit unlock once, the rest if you hit it again. It really comforts me. I always check my car before I get in anyways and I'm always aware of my surroundings besides that. It never hurts to be re-educated now and then either.
this was really helpful. my boyfriend is always worried about me going out on my own because ive been approached a few times because im apparently an "easy target".
I hear you my boyfriend is the same way. This is really great to read.
oh em gee that is scary oh well I know I can make it
oh em gee that is scary oh well I know I can make it
I'm glad I found this. A lot of this makes sense as rapist are about power-not neccessarialy sex. If the rapist doesn't have power over you then he will most likely leave you alone.
Yeah this is reli great advice and like above, my boyfriend is always worried about me wen i go out, because he knows what men r like and anything that can prevent me being attack is helpful.
Thanks for posting this! I liked the one about crashing your car into something if there was someone else in it. Haha I know it's serious but I think it's kinda funny... But good advice nonetheless!
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That Post Is Amazing.
That Really Helps Me.
Thanks TO Who Ever Wrote It
These things are all true, and credible.
However, the vast majority of rapes are not committed by strangers.
And, yet, rapists who are strangers are the ones who are far more likely to be convicted.
There's an article about a man who recently (last several years) wasn't convicted for rape after rape after rape- until more than 10 women came forward all at once. He'd known them all- lied to them all about who he was.
Women don't want to believe we can be raped by someone we trust. We work against our own safety far too often.
This is great... I tend to get in my car and stay there for a while- on my cell, looking at receipts; pretty much doing anything. I also love the one about crashing your car if you are asked to drive away... in the past I always said how I would never drive away- I would rather face whatever the consequences might be in the moment because driving off would also guarantee I will be harmed at the end. But I could never come up with an alternative, & this is perfect. The chances are that the perp won't be wearing a seat belt when you speed off. And if you have a chance of getting out alive- that would be it. This article is very eye opening... even if you think you know it all- a good reminder is always welcome!
This is a very informative post and I'm familiar with some of the tactics in the past but some are new to me. Thank you for providing such useful information, I will be passing it on :)
This post was the best thing I think anybody could have posted. I was raped almost a year ago and the time that it happened fit in the time frame given for most attacks. My Next suggestion is to NOT OPEN YOUR DOOR AT ALL IN THE MIDDLE OF THE NIGHT. Please pass this on to as many people as possible!!!
definitely a great post - too many people are completely unaware of how to avoid danger at night time. i learned basic self defence at school, but still the best thing i learned to do was avoid being alone and if you're going out make sure your housemates know where you're going and who with. I always leave my date's number at home just in case. I've run risks as much as anyone i'm sure, and i know that it's only because i was very lucky that i got away unscathed.
this is great advice, one question though about crashing into something if someones in your car, i have a toddler and the last thing i wana do is crash with him in the car too, wat would anyone advise?
I don't think the person would even get in the car if there's a toddler in there, they go for people who are alone, easy targets. A person with a kid is not an easy target, because that would mean they'd have to do something about him/her AND if he/she's old enough to speak then there would be an eye witness
even so, when they say speed off, speed off. literally. if you're forced to go somewhere, make sure a cop notices. going 50+ in a 35 zone will get you noticed. or just seemingly reckless driving in general.
it's very intersting & helpfull
thank you it was help full and ive been raped before i will be more aware from now on and i did think if i fought back i would be hurt more i will past this on
Woah thats amazing thank youu
Another tip I have never forgotten after hearing: Women are generally stronger in their legs than in their arms so if pushing someone will get them off of you/away use your legs if possible. Very useful info, some things I hadn't heard/thought of so I'm grateful for reading this. I will definately be passing this on to family members/people I care about.
I work for a local Police Department and we had an older woman load her groceries in her car and not pay attention to who was around her. She got in her car and as she did a young man got in the back seat at the same time and put a knife to her throat and told her to drive. This was at 3 in the afternoon. Luckily one of our officers was getting there to work security and she saw him and drove straight for him to get his attention and then wrecked her car and ran. We caught the bad guy as a result. This was the 3rd time he had done this in as many days, luckily he was taking their purses and car and not hurting them.
Always be aware of whats going on around you and unfortunately when I'm by myself I always look at people as a threat simply to stay on my toes. And remember if in doubt call 911 for help, thats what its there for and thats what police are for. Its better to be safe than sorry! Like the article says...better paranoid than dead and as a result of my job I'm the most paranoid person you will meet. Unfortunate but necessary as a female in the world today!
Having been in this situation myself, I can honestly say this post needs to be passed on, to everyone...but mainly to girls age13 and up. thses kid's need to know this is real and it DOES happen. I was 14...it has not ruined my life, I will not allow it to. But it has affected every relationship I have ever had, it has destroyed my relationship with my father, and seriously damaged the relationship with my mother. Rape is almost impossible to 'get over', its something people live with for the rest of their lives. and thank god someone is finally handing out the advice that matters. Because carrying my keys between my fingers and being ready to punch wasnt enough...and whats worse is this happened on a green across the street from a police station in the late evening. Thank god for my friend who found me.
Just wanted to let you know your situation almost mirrors my own. It happened to me at age 14 and my relationships suffered a lot of damage. I've been lucky, I have married the love of my life and he knows the whole story. Knowing this gives him a better understanding of why I am the way I am about certain things and why I am such a security nut! He appreciates that I am OVER cautious and not the other way around.
Kudos to you for not allowing the past to rule you;p
i love this post and thz for adding this to my info
A self defense master came and taught us some defense stuff for a youth night at my church, and here are a couple more points to add:
*hitting them in the groin is good self defense, and so is punching them in the neck. try it *softly* on yourself. it hurts
*When you walk, keep you head up, and walk in strides (confidently) this gives the idea that you are strong/will put up a fight.
*If you see a suspicious person, make eye contact for a couple seconds, then look away and keep on walking.
*If they kidnapped you and have you in the front seat, gun to your head, start kicking them, and try to get in the backseat.
1 They won't shoot you where people can hear.
2 if you start kicking them, they can't concentrate on driving, and if they are driving poorly having to pull over, it attracts attention.
3 if you get in the backseat, they can't reach you that well.
This is A.MAZE.ING! I'm gunna put it on my facebook status, thankyou for the infomation, I can say that it is slightly shocking....
this was reali gd thanx for posting it x
Its really good to have this information out there and available to everyone.. not JUST girls. I posted it to my profile because IKNOW how it feels to go through these kinds of things... and if i would've known any of the things in here, it probably could've helped me to prevent it from happeningg.
Its really good to have this information out there and available to everyone.. not JUST girls. I posted it to my profile because IKNOW how it feels to go through these kinds of things... and if i would've known any of the things in here, it probably could've helped me to prevent it from happeningg.
That baby thing is waaaay freaky! This is soooo helpful! THANK YOU! Now I think I need to cut my hair... :(
You don't have to cut your hair haha. Just be alert. and keep it out of your vision so u can see through the corner of your eye
to be honest with whoever is reading this, that article up there is the best article i have ever read about anything. the fact that it tells you every single detail is amazing. im only 14 an i do get scared being alone sometimes but after reading this i think i have an idea of what i need to do if something happens to me (i pray it doesnt) and i think i need to cut my hair :(
One thing I should suggest: if you live in or near a major metropolitan area (like, Detroit or Chicago), you would benefit greatly from taking gun firing lessons. Everything posted in the article is great information, but one thing to remember is in cities like the ones I just mentioned - taking those sorts of actions will give you a few more minutes but may not help. Only because at least 40% of the time, the guy attacking you is not the only guy, they will have backup.
GET A GUN. Register it. Take lessons. If you can carry it with you, DO IT. Do not be afraid. Yes, they could take it from you and use it against you. But if you act fast enough, they will NOT stand a chance.
Or just have some sort of weapon with you! Ask law enforcement what you are allowed to carry on you legally. Look up state statutes. Arm yourself, physically and mentally. Your attackers will be ruthless. You should be, too.
thank you so much for the advice!
This is amazing stuff. My sister was raped a few years ago by her boyfriend and it almost destroyed her, since then i've been more wary of everything around me. I'm only 13 nearly 14 but between my sister (who is nearly 25) and my self i'm the more confident one, and this article made me wonder what would've happened if my sister had had the confidence and not me. I knew they went for woman who they found as an easy target but I didn't know that confidence made them think twice.
This is an amazing article, the baby thing makes me sick though because i'd probably go outside if i heard a baby crying (I'd have someone on the phone when i go and my dad's police torch) but I'd still go outside.
That checking the car thing is a good idea though cos when my dad and i go shopping for food i normally take the groceries up to the car while he goes to the chemist, I never even think about checking the car before i get in, i just unlock, load, shut the boot and get in.
Also something that sucks Pepper Spray is illegal in Australia. it's legal to have it but not carry it around, because it becomes a concealed weapon, my dad (who's a cop) explained this too me but i still think it's stupid. You should be able to have pepper spray for protection. Although my mum did say to always have body spray with you in an easy access area, i always have Body spray in my bag but i've never thought it would do the same damage as pepper spray.
Anyways, awsome post and it's good to know these things.
http://www.hoax-slayer.com/crying-baby-hoax.html
Very informative post, I think every girl should read this!!
Great, informative article, right up until the well-known myth about the crying baby. Don't believe me? Google. Shame on the reporter - we shouldn't have to do your research for you. Now what else do I have to verify before I can believe it?
I actually know of someone who this happened to so unfortunately it may sound like a hoax but it can happen. Not to mention this article is obviously meant to create awareness not every single tactic is going to be used and this was obviously posted to potentially help us... Being negative on a topic like this when it has happened to so many innocent women out there is somewhat disheartening.
Nothing negative about "great" and "informative". Awareness is always good, but false information can put you in even more danger. A further review of some of this "advice" can be found here. No need to discount it, but why not read all sides of the argument?
You are right Karen about it being a hoax, nevertheless I guess it could still happen somewhere in the world, after all there are plenty of sickos out there. Very useful article, will be passing it on to everyone.
My dad taught me that not only rapists, but also robbers will just kiss you in public places and then threaten you and try to take you away. He told me that if that ever happened I needed to start yelling and screaming with all my might cause then people would notice and the guy would most likely run off.
Really helpful :)
I'm about to go to the Giants game and this helps me a lot
Excellent article that leaves no stone unturned as far as precautions go. Take it very seriously, I was in this situation more than once and didn't have nearly as much info or the means to fight back effectively.