20 things a girl should do before she gets married

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Posted by MonicaG on September 2, 2012 at 10:19 PM

20 Things a girl should do before she gets married...

Here’s the list:

1. Live by herself for at least a year.

2. Live with someone else for at least a year.

3. Recover from a broken heart.

4. Have a vacation fling.

5. Take a road-trip with a group of girlfriends.

6. Relish sleeping in a queen-sized bed by herself.

7. Get her finances in order.

8. Learn to love her body.

9. Sleep with at least one person she’d never want to marry (or introduce to mom).

10. Find reliable birth control.

11. Pay off as much credit card debt and student loans as possible.

12. Spend way too much on a something frivolous.

13. Exorcise all past relationship demons.

14. Travel somewhere exotic.

15. Establish a strong circle of friends.

16. Forgive her parents for not being perfect.

17. Have at least one night she can’t quite remember.

18. Experience some really bad first dates.

19. Find hobbies that fulfill her.

20. Celebrate her 25th birthday.

- Article by Wendy Atterberry



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  • Posted by Anonymous on September 4, 2012 at 1:41 PM
Well, it looks like I'll be breaking most of these since I'll be getting married at 20. Sorry I'm not sorry that I found the love of my life at 19 and since he's in the military, being married makes things like seeing each other a whole lot easier.
If I could afford to live on my own, I would. Also, have slept with men I wouldn't bring home - not something I would recommend. Same for the nights I don't remember.
  • Posted by Anonymous on August 14, 2011 at 8:50 AM
1. Live by herself for at least a year. (Haven't had the mullah to do that)

5. Take a road-trip with a group of girlfriends. (Can we say woot? I wish.)

7. Get her finances in order. (Working on it)

8. Learn to love her body. (I will when I lose weight)

9. Sleep with at least one person she’d never want to marry (or introduce to mom). (No. Almost did once, bad mistake. Glad I didn't make it.)

10. Find reliable birth control. (Herm....Haven't done that, because I don't sleep around, and stuff. I just have one fiance, and one person that I want to be with. A.KA. same person...If we have kids that's great. I want them. I don't want them before marriage....but I also have no monies. :D)

14. Travel somewhere exotic. (Can we say Baton Rouge?)

17. Have at least one night she can’t quite remember. (Been close, but I always remember.)

20. Celebrate her 25th birthday. (I should be about 23-24)
  • Posted by Anonymous on January 10, 2011 at 7:27 PM
Everybody is saying we should 'have fun' before we 'settle down'. So is marriage not 'fun' then? Does settling down= not so fun as when not settled down? LOL.

And I agree that this list is not for everyone, people have different beliefs and morals and what's fun to someone is dangerous to another. I personally don't agree with most of them...
  • Posted by Anonymous on January 10, 2011 at 6:32 PM
"now so many people have sex on the first date and if the sex sucks so does the person - SO not true."

I think you have a point - maybe one of the things should be 'look twice'? Fun as it may be to experience as many bad dates as possible and have a few relationships to establish what you really want, maybe sometimes people (men and women) may move on too quickly? If the sex is bad, maybe it was because one or both of you were nervous/drunk? If the first date was 'bad', just how bad was it? Does s/he deserve another chance, when he may feel more at ease and less nervous? Sometimes it's worth getting to know someone better? And if your initial suspicion is confirmed (it was a bad date and s/he actually just can't make good conversation say!) then you can move on knowing you made the right decision. If there's something telling you to look again, maybe we should? Obviously it won't work in all cases but by looking twice and not being too dismissive there may be something to be gained?... Be open to the unexpected. That guy/girl who isn't your 'type' for example might just be much better for it...
  • Posted by Anonymous on January 10, 2011 at 6:10 PM
I get that some of these things can make life exciting, it's just well... What if you have something so special that you wouldn't want to jeopardize it by doing some of these things? Some things my boyfriend would actively encourage, '5. Take a road-trip with a group of girlfriends', he knows friends are important, but '4. Have a vacation fling' - whilst it may be exciting, and I've never done it, I'd have too much to lose (I couldn't live with myself if I did..... I suppose I could just have one with my boyfriend instead though!!) I've found the one I want to be with. I'll admit that not having these kind of experiences scares me, and I wonder that I've lived life at all, but I know that it would mean nothing without him. If you're young free and single I think go for it! But ultimately it's about what matters most right?
  • Posted by Anonymous on January 2, 2010 at 12:57 PM
I agree and disagree but thats my opinion and what some choose to do is up to them. Personally i have had a night i cant remember (a few to be honest! Best nights of my life!), I have slept with one person i do not want to marry etc but that does not make me a whore. It was fun and a good fling, i enjoyed it so did he, use protection and take care of yourself = no regrets! The living alone though for me says hmmm i couldnt do that but thats just me i come from a very large family and we have always been together and im only 19 maybe that will change! The marrige after 25 seems very sensible though! I like this list x
I'm not the type to normally comment on these but I see alot of confusion.......I think you guys are mostly reading into this a little too deeply. No one is saying that you should destroy your life in doing these. So.........

For the drunken not remembering: no one said anything about sex......and if your worried about doing something like that, go to a hotel room with a bunch of your girls, get hammered-lock your selves in, and then you have no worries about doing anything stupid! Trust me your not getting pregnant if your with all woman.......if the door is locked no one is going to come in! Think about that for a minute or 2!!!

The vacation one, sleep with a guy there: No one is saying just fuck em, they are saying if you meet someone that shows you a good time, ENJOY THAT GOOD TIME! Don't think "oh well what if......" Relax!!! If your in a relationship when you go on vacation, don't do it! That's cheating, they are just saying in general......ENJOY YOURSELF at your own free will!

The live by yourself for a year: Establish independance! Don't rely on people forever because the one time your on your own, its going to be hard! Make sure you know how to live on your own! You don't want to feel like it's the end of world, if it's something you have already done then it will be easy to get back into step! Oh and chill out!

The 25th birthday: They aren't saying you must wait until you are 25, they are saying however that you should give yourself time to grow! Don't rush life! If your younger than 25 who cares, get married if your ready! No one is saying theres an age limit, they are just saying to make sure that your responsible, mature, happy in life, financially ready & of course that your happy with everything & everyone you surrounded yourself with!

Oh and one more thing: stop reading into these so deeply! They are just opinions just like yours! It's not the womans bible, relax, breathe, go get a fell body massage & life will go back to the way you left it! ENJOY LIFE, THAT'S WHAT THIS IS SAYING!!! As for those of you who have already experienced this, Good For You, Keep Living, Happy & Strong! :D
After reading this, I feel like I wanna party hard, LOL!
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