3 Take Control Situations in Relationships
Posted by Casey Nicole on September 7, 2012 at 7:46 PM
Successful relationships need to have a healthy give and take balance when it comes to decision making. Sometimes you get your way, sometimes he gets his, and sometimes you both compromise. However, there are times when you need to step up and take control of the situation in the relationship. This doesn’t mean you need to push your guy around or start making ultimatums. Instead, these are times when you need to step up and voice your opinion to help strengthen the relationship and, hopefully, improve it for the both of you. Here are 3 times when you need to take the reins of the relationship.
You Want to Have “The Talk”
So you’ve been dating for a while, and you aren’t seeing anyone else, but you’re in that fuzzy area between casually dating and totally committed. If you want to take things to the next level, you need to bring up the boyfriend/girlfriend conversation. Don’t waste time dropping subtle hints and hope that he picks up on them. Instead, be blunt and let him know where you want to go with the relationship. You don’t need to make an ultimatum, but tell him that you need to know where you two stand because you’re looking for a lasting, loving relationship. If that’s not something he’s looking for, the sooner you know the better.
He Has Totally Dropped the Romance
It’s Saturday night and the two of you are dining on Chinese takeout while renting a movie for what feels like the hundredth time. Once you’ve been together for a while, guys might forget they need to woo you. Don’t just put all the blame on him though. Instead show him some inspiration, so he can get his romantic juices flowing again. Plan an amazing Saturday night date doing all the things you wish that he’d do. So, make the plans, set the reservation and just let him know when he needs to be ready. After your date, let him know he needs to plan one for next weekend. Once you remind him how sweet romantic evenings can be and, maybe even challenge him to outdo yours, he’ll get back into the game by planning sweet outings and adventures for you two again.
The Sex Has Become Routine
Has the sex been less than stellar as of late? Maybe you’re still getting off, but there’s nothing new or exciting going on. It’s common for couples who have been together for a while to start sticking to the moves that have been proven to work in the bedroom, instead of trying something new. The next time you two are getting intimate, whisper something naughty in his ear that you want to try, or just show him what you want to try. If you talk about it beforehand, you’re likely to bruise his ego, but if you mention during the heat of the moment, he won’t hesitate to try it.
Are there any relationship situations where you like to take control? Let us know by leaving a comment below!