30 Shades of Mr. Wrong: Mr. Checkered Past
Posted by Jenn Clark on June 18, 2013 at 12:00 PM
“How he behaved in the past is the biggest indicator of how he will behave in your future together.” - Jenn Clark
I love the saying “the past is prologue.” Very often who a person was is who they are and who they will be. People don’t really change that much. It’s not that a man has to be perfect or live in a house with a skeleton-free closet. (Good luck finding that.) However, the guy who unapologetically flaunts every bad thing he’s ever done within five seconds of knowing you is bad news. He’s the one who, on the first date, will tell you about the various women he slept with and how he cheated on his last girlfriend with the entire staff of “Crazy Girls.” Or maybe he’ll unload about his run-ins with the law and how many times he’s had to hire an attorney. He’ll probably add, “But that was a long time ago,” just so you don’t run from the table.
If a new guy admits his every flaw without getting to know you first, consider it his way of warning you. He’s - in effect - saying, “Watch out, I’m a bad guy.” If you accept all of this and tell him it’s okay, part of him will wonder what’s wrong with you that you’d want to be with such a loser.
A good guy won’t be perfect. But he’ll wait a while before he shows you his mistakes and flaws. He won’t wear them like a badge of honor.
Jenn Clark is a relationship advice expert and author of the book “How to Be a Goddess (A Step-by-Step Guide to Becoming the Woman Men Dream About…).” You can find it on her Facebook page or on Amazon.com or on Twitter @JennX30
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