5 Flirting Mistakes You Might be Making
Posted by Casey Nicole on July 27, 2012 at 4:20 PM
You’re certain you’ve met your next boyfriend. You’re doing your best to make sure he knows it too, by flirting like a fiend every time you see him. However, what you think as effortless and sexy might come across to him as obnoxious and annoying. Revise your flirting style with these 5 mistakes you might be making and he’ll be smitten soon enough.
1. Playing games.
This is not junior high. Please, for the sake of all of us in the dating world, stop playing mind games or “hard to get.” No one with any self-respect should waste their time on someone who plays games. If you’re interested, make sure he knows or he will move on.
2. Being disrespectful.
I’m probably most guilty of this one sometimes. I just love sarcasm and teasing when I’m interested in someone, whether as a friend or more. However, be careful not to let the jokes get mean-spirited or too harsh. When you’re in the “getting to know someone better” phase it’s best to be cautious. Showing your feisty side is still a great flirting technique, but make sure none of those jokes hit below belt.
3. Being whiny.
It’s actually a really good quality to be opinionated and not afraid to show it, but do not be whiny or bitchy. If you’re out to dinner, don’t try flirting by complaining about the food or service. It just makes you look high maintenance. Also, while guys like being helpful you don’t want to immediately start asking for his advice, you’ll come across as too needy.
4. Being too clingy.
While I mentioned earlier that you want to make sure he knows you’re interested, beware overdoing it. Don’t be too possessive, especially early on. If he’s talking to his friends, give him space. Part of keeping him interested is giving him space to miss and want you.
5. Coming on too strong.
Be careful of coming on too strongly early on. A guy can easily misinterpret your actions and assume you’re just interested in hooking up. Save the sexting for when you’re in a committed relationship. For now you want to be sexy, but leave him wanting more.
What tried-and-true techniques do you have for flirting with a guy? Leave your advice in the comments below!