5 Signs You've Been Friend-Zoned
Posted by Casey Nicole on July 20, 2012 at 6:41 PM
You know that guy you’ve been crushing on for a while? Well, if you’ve been dropping hints for weeks and nothing has happened then you might be in the dreaded friend zone. Before you spill your guts, and he replies you’re just a friend (cue Biz Markie), read these 5 signs that you’re just one of the guys and save yourself the grief and embarrassment.
When you invite him out, he brings along other friends.
Did you invite him out to a movie and he assumes it’s a group thing and brings all of his bros? Well, he totally wants to be your friend and have fun with you, but the thought of making a move in the dark theater isn’t crossing his mind. He’s just there for the flick, and maybe the popcorn.
He talks about other girls he’s been seeing.
This one is obvious, but too many people don’t take the hint. It doesn’t matter if you think he’s trying to make you jealous or he’s just afraid of commitment. If he’s discussing other dates in front of you or trying to get your opinion, he’s not into you like that.
He might brush his teeth, but little else before you guys hang.
If he always looks like crap and puts zero effort into his appearance before you two hang out, he is clearly not trying to impress you. Honestly, why are you crushing someone with bad hygiene? Maybe he is just one of those guys who takes the casual look too far, but if you see him out, looking really cleaned up, when you two didn’t have plans then you know. At least now you can stop with the full made up face and blown out hair whenever you two have plans.
The two of you have drinks together and you still don’t get the vibe.
I’m definitely not condoning you get this guy wasted and try to make moves on him. I’m just saying if the two of you imbibe responsibly and he still doesn’t respond to any flirtation, he truly thinks of you as a friend. Don’t let the drinks get out of hand though; you absolutely do not want to get upset and emotional. Look on the bright side; you’ve got another drinking buddy who can probably help you pick out other hotties at the bar.
There is absolutely no physical contact.
Remember, friends hug, but that’s about it. When you really like someone, it’s nearly impossible not to make excuses to touch them in some way. If you find that this guy is never “accidentally” brushing up against you, or squeezing your shoulder during an intense conversation, it’s because he thinks of you as one of the guys.
You've been friend-zoned. Now what?
If you're already in the friend zone, there is little you can do to change his mind. Don't be upset. Just remember how you feel about certain guys you're just not into, it's notthing personal, right? For now, take a step back from your friendship with this guy to get over the crush you have. Don't waste time pining over someone who isn't interested, but if they're a good friend be sure to keep them around.
Have you ever been friend-zoned? Share your experience with us in the comments!