A Rough Patch in a Relationship... What Does it Mean?
Posted by Anonymous on October 1, 2009 at 1:47 PM
Me and my boyfriend have now been dating 5 months, we've been in relationships before, even as "just friends" we were techinically acting like boyfriend and girlfriend.
Over the last month, we have hit a rough spot where any little thing can set us off into a full blown argument. I mean I understand that maybe we are both overreacting to something small. I mean, our last argument was because he was working on the day of the week we consider "our day". I believe we are both very stubborn and can be slightly self-centered. I am not saying that the rough patch will always be there and I know that all couples do have their arguments.
However, we've both found it's putting a strain on our emotions. After every argument we make up straight away, with the same "mushy comments". However, this isn't about the rought patch itself but more about the time period it will last.
I have a theory though, as soon as some of our friends stepped in with comments which were seen as slightly harsh at the time, about out relationship in public being a bit too "full on". The problems began the minute we tried to cool down the kissing and hugging in public, which in our eyes wasn't that bad. I guess change really does rock a relationship.
I really do love him with every ounce of my heart, never would I imagine life without him and I am really determined to get out of this difficult stage. I don't like the constant tension between us, we're best friends as well as lovers which all in all should mean, that we can be friends even if our relationship is rocky, but sacastic comments lead to manipulative words. It's all a bit nasty in all honesty. Although I will back down if it gets too extreme, I mean, I love him so much, my mouth isn't going to let me lose the best thing that's happened to me.
I believe we are coming out of this period, but I was wondering, whether it is bad that we have had this rocky stage and if shows anything about our future together? I mean that is really what I want -- a foreverness with the my true love.