Attract More (Male) Attention
Posted by Girls Guide To on July 17, 2012 at 9:23 PM
They may say that girls seek attention, women seek respect, but no offense to “they,” “they probably haven’t been a single girl trying to find a guy. Picture this: It's Friday night and you are dressed up, ready for a night out on the town with your friends. You hit the best night spots and have a blast, but you are bothered by the fact that all night, not one guy made a pass at you. You’ve been there, yes?
Have you ever noticed that you get hit on way more when you are alone versus when you're with a group of friends? I know I almost never get hit on when I am with a group. Let me tell you, it’s great for the self-esteem. But when I am alone…like when I head up to the bar to get a drink by myself, it's a different story. Someone almost always talks to me. So if you’re like me, don’t think you have something on your face or whatever. Here's the thing: When you are hanging out with your girls, it can be slightly intimidating for a guy to show interest in getting to know you.
Think about it: When you see a guy you find attractive in a group of his friends, you hesitate to go talk to him right? You wait for the “right moment” when he’s alone! So, it would make sense that if you want more attention from guys, you should make yourself available. Alone.
I know, that’s crazy! It kinda fills me with terror too! But I promise, it gets easier after one or two times. And no one will think you’re strange. In fact, it shows that you are independent and not restrained or reliant on others to have a good time. It also helps you build confidence, and it gives off the impression that you are courageous and daring, even if you aren't. So how do you start?
1. Be Your Own Boyfriend
Who says you need a guy to take you out? Catch a movie, hit your favorite bar for happy hour, go for a walk or go shopping…on your own. Just pick something you want to do, and go do it. The only person stopping you is you!
2. Be Early
If that sounds a little too outside your comfort zone, invite a friend out and then show up half an hour early. This way, you build in an opportunity for someone to talk to you, but if he’s creeping you out a bit, you have a built in escape. Simply say, "It was nice to meet you, but I am waiting for a friend.”
3. Take “Me Moments”
When you do go out with your girls, make it a point to get away every so often and be by yourself for a few minutes. Go get another drink. Go to the bathroom. Go check out the jukebox. Whatever. Again, this is allowing you to meet new people and create a window of opportunity for someone to approach you.
4. Look the Part
Yeah, you’re by yourself, but you’re not at home! First impressions make the biggest impact, and whether we want to admit it or not, looks play a huge part in that equation. Looking nice and approachable are key to getting someone to warm up to you.
5. Be a Flirt
Use your skills girl! Make eye contact with people and give away smiles like they are going out of style. Don't be afraid to say "hello" or "good afternoon." Make small talk with people…it costs nothing and you never know where it will lead.
How do you meet more men and expand your dating pool? Would you ever try going out alone?