Posted by Brianna Playle on November 12, 2010 at 10:53 AM
I've been reading about what most people wonder about college today, and a lot of the questions circulate about what theyshould wear or if making friends is going to be a problem for them. So, this article, I plan on explaining them in detail to the fullest extent that I can.
Most people worry about what to wear every year before they go to school. Well, college is about the same idea. It's the time where you finally don't have a dress code to go to class anymore. Most people take advantage of that, I live in Texas, the heat is unbearable, and girls always wear tank tops, tube tops, you name it, to start off the year. It's perfectly normal. Basically, you wear what you wore all summer long. There's no need to change it. By the time we're at right now here in November, school has really kicked in, and the eight am class syndrome starts to kick in.. The easiest thing is to wear a sweatshirt and sweatpants(I've always done jeans as I've never felt comfortable out in sweatpants). You'll understand why, everyone does it. But when you have normal time classes or you just go to hang out, wear what's in your style. Between the 3 of us in my room, we all have completely different styles. My brother would say I have a "hipster attitude/" I can agree with the attitude, not so much the style of dress. On a normal day, I wear jeans, a long sleeve fitted t-shirt, some accessories(Mostly my very loving roommate's jewelry), and Chuck Taylors. Taylor has a very cute style. She used to work at Old Navy, so she has an awesome discount there, so her closet is full. Her style is very casual dressy. Today I believe she left wearing jeans, and a nice shirt, with her hair done nice. Laura's style is my favorite, she's got nice expensive taste. Usually pairing tops together, a nice pair of jeans and she has the most wonderful shoe collection ever, she always looks put together. But Laura has one signature look, she sports the poof. I thought I have seen a poof before, but hers is at a-whole-nother level. I love her pouf. It's so well fitting for her. I'll give it a whole 3-4 inches off her head pouf. Very Laura. Taylor sports a very put together bob, with usually a braid or pouf herself. Mine likes to change, a lot. Out of the 3 of us, my hair is the most changing. I want to ultimately do hair and makeup, so mine is always doing something. It alters from being curled, to straight, to pinned, to everything, although, unlike my roommates, the pouf doesn't look quite right on me. I believe the biggest thing about college wear is to really know that it doesn't really matter what you wear, as long as it's well fitting, and you feel comfortable in it.
Friendmaking. Such a common problem for so many people. My best advice, you aren't going to make all of your friends in the first month of school. I got lucky and met Taylor and Laura early out in the year and we live together. However I also made friends with some girls that I thought I would stay friends with, we didn't. One of the girl's "S.M." and I were really good friends, until we met my now really good friend, "T.F." We all went to a local hookah bar, and saw these guys walking buy, and I called them over. After a few hours, we make friends. "T" and "S" had a thing for a while, but then he decided that he wasn't really into her. Long story short, I got blamed for this for encouraging her when she asked my advice, like I knew that he wouldn't like her(?). It was too much drama for my taste, and I said "No Thanks," and that was the end of that. At least for me. As for "T.F" she text's him everyday, and well, he finds it kinda freaky and oddly clingy. So girls, take my advice, if he wants you, he'll pursue you! Prime example right here. Don't become and "S." From the guy's perspective, it's freaky as hell. The moral of the story, is you won't always be friends with the first people you meet. Most of us are used to not being the new kid and not going out of our way to meet people. We expect everyone to come to us. I hate to break it, but you really have to know before hang that you have to go out of your way to make friends in college. If it's your thing, rush for a fraternity or sorority. My ex and my best friend both did it. Basically you go through a week of looking all of the different societies, and then you and they eliminate the ones that don't work well. I think that a lot of people benefit from them, and they are a great social experience. I've never been a girl that would work well in a sorority, and a lot of times for those who aren't Greek, you will get called a GDI(God Damn Independent). It's a really derogatory phrase if a fraternity guy is using it, but the best way to deal with it, is to just ignore it, and not hang around the people that will call you one. I've got plenty of Greek friends, and they're great people, just because someone is Greek, doesn't make them a stereotype, keep that in mind.
As for anyone who decides that they want to hook up with someone in college, it's a normal experience, people do it, but you have to be smart about it. First, find out that they don't have a crazy significant other, or one in general. Obviously if they are with someone and are pursuing you, they aren't a good person to be around. Also, you have to remember, that if a guy is hooking up with you, chances are you are nothing more than a booty call to him. Don't expect a relationship and don't expect him to leave someone for you. A one night stand for you is a one night stand for him. Leave it at that. You won't want that drama later. Second, don't exchange numbers, there is no reason that he will have to contact you later, and no reason you should have to contact him. Oh, and don't hook up with a good friend, no matter how drunk and how good of an idea it sounds like at the time. Third, don't stay the whole night with them, the next morning isn't pleasant, and you have to be really cool about leaving no matter how awkward it is. Fourth, I can't stress this more, USE PROTECTION. I have way too many pregnant friends who have told me that they can't believe that something like this happened to them. But when I ask them if they use protection, let me explain to you, pulling out is not a proper form of it. Are you really going to trust someone else with your future? I doubt it. Be smart here. You're in college for a reason, and that is not to have a baby.
If you have a question and you want to know my opinion of it, don't be afraid to ask. I love giving advice to those who want it. xo!