GirlsGuideTo | Did he do it?

I am in a very confused state these past few weeks. I dated my boyfriend for about six months and we were having some problems because of his work and us both being tired all the time. But it was all stuff I hoped we could work out. Then one of his friends came to me and told me that my boyfriend had cheated on me several months earlier. Apparently everyone knew that there was a rumor going around that he'd slept with another girl during his senior class trip and not bothered to tell me when it had actually happened because no one was sure if it was true.

I called my boyfriend immediately to ask him if there was any truth to what his friend said. He was so angry that his friend had told me but he never actually said he didn't cheat. He said "Why would I cheat?" and then just yelled at me for asking him about it. Now you have to understand that I was/am totally in love with this guy, and I thought he felt the same. At the time of the said cheating was when we were really happy together, and I honestly didn't think he would be the type to cheat but there was a lot of alcohol involved.

The day after I confronted him I was texting him and he was clearly upset. Then he told me that he was sick of the drama in our relationship, of people accusing him of things he wouldn't do and felt that he was too immature to be in a relationship but he just wanted a break for a bit to sort out his head. He proceeded to disappear out of my life completely. I haven't heard from him in over a month and in that time several people have told me their versions of the cheating story. All of them say he did it, but honestly I do not know whats true or not.

Someone said it seemed like he did cheat and just didn't want to deal with it so he took the easy way out and instead of admitting it, just dumped me. I just would like to know if any of you girls have gone through something like this and is it worth finding out the truth?

Comments

Posted by Ann Marie Anacay on June 8, 2012 at 4:52 PM

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#1) He cheated. You don't need more details. You've heard more than enough.
#2) He said he doesn't want to be in a relationship with YOU. You are awesome & deserve better. Go find a new guy who agrees.

Posted by Anonymous on December 31, 2010 at 1:22 AM

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Sorry hun, his response is so defensive and aggressive that i'd say it's likely he's hiding something from you, in this case it's most likely that he cheated on you. Especially since he vanished for a month. If he's prepared to leave you like that anyway, you definitely deserve better :) best of luck!

Posted by Alska Du on December 30, 2010 at 5:56 PM

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I had gone out with a guy in high school and he told me if you hear rumor of me cheating not to believe it. I never heard any rumor, not one single one! Later I found out he was cheating on me. I had called his house while supposingly he was sick n his mom said he was over so n so's house which was another girl.

So it is most likely true that he did.

Posted by Caity Marie on December 26, 2010 at 4:46 PM

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Oh honey, its just another he said, she said kind of thing. You can't know for sure that he did it, but from what you tell me, my professional opinion (as a councelor at my school) is that he did it. That'sthe most likely reason for his dissappearence.
But there might be a silver lining to all this. The reason he dissappeared is because he is regretting his lack of judgement - or so I assume. He can't face you because he knows that you were a good thing in his life and doesn't want to see his lack of judgement everyday in you.