GirlsGuideTo | I Thought I'd Love It...Again.

I'm now in my third year of college, doing a third course, and the last two years I'e absolutely loved my courses and got on with the work load pretty well, but this year I'm so unbelievably behind already and have been trying to get back on my feet after so many things have already gone wrong this year that my new course just makes me stressed. I love the subject but as we get deeper into the course I've found that I love not being surrounded by the work of it even more. I want to continue in college, but I don't like the course I'm on at all. I miss doing the art course I did in the first year, because even when I was struggling with coursework I was doing fine and could pick myself back up again. This year I'm on anti-depressants, waiting for a court case to develope, and going through a little family drama. I'm not a part of the drama, but it surrounds me and I hate it because I can't do anything about it.

I'm currently in a relationship with a hard working, intelligent, optimistic, funny, cute, sweet, caring, kind, out-going, A*-grade guy who aspires to be a college lecturer in politics, is completing his final year of college and wishes to go to the University of Cambridge, which is one of the top uni's in my country. When I'm around him I have no stress, no worries, not sadness and nothing bothers me, I've told him how I feel about college this year and he says that he's willing to help me, but he has enough to do.

I want to drop out, get a job and re-apply for next year to take a two year, fine art course. He thinks that I should finish up the year, try my best and see how I get on, he says that if I'm still miserable on it then I should re-apply.

What do you think I should do?

Comments

Posted by Sara Allison on January 12, 2011 at 4:51 PM

0

I feel for you. It's tough to work hard when you are overwhelmed and under-motivated, and difficult classes get the best of all of us sometimes.

Here's my advice: go back to what you are trying to accomplish--which I think is getting a degree which you can use to get a job and start a career. The third year is typically when you start the intensive degree courses, but for every GREAT degree, there are some nasty courses. It's usually part of the weeding-out process--it's a test of sorts. Don't let yourself be one of the ones they weed out.

Secondly, I would advise you to use your interest in art to help you. Do something on the side that you enjoy that is artistic and fulfilling for you. As someone who went from a business major, to a singing major (because the singing courses were more fun) and then found how difficult it was to get a job, and went back and got a second degree in business, I can tell you, it is advisable to make the piece of paper (the degree) say something marketable. You can still follow your passion, and pursue art, even as a career, but make sure you can do it with a job in hand.

Ulitmately, my vote is to stick it out. You will be surprised what you can accomplish when you just put your head down and stop fighting yourself. And in the meantime, enjoy your art. It will help you get through these tough times! Best wishes to you.