QotD: July 21, 2010

hi girls... (and admins!!???)
im posting below here a question that ive tried several times to post through the site...
but ive never been able to get it to work. (with previous questions also).
was kinda hoping that maybe it could be transfered over to a question or something.
im putting it on a quote of the day post so as not to change the direction of anyones more recent questions.
hopefully it gets seen..
thanks

where to from here??

so ive recently met a guy who is pretty much everything i could ask for. (the kind of amazing where i don't see how i could measure up for him, but thats a different story)

we met on a dating site (yeh, i know) and have since spent a lovely evening/night/morning together..... talked daily since then and seeing eachother again soon.... and everything (hopefully) is peachy. of course, i have my doubts.... but thats pretty normal!!

but im kinda wondering where to go from here. i very much like him and would like (so far) to be in a committed relationship with him. i don't really know what he's after in terms of commitment... (though neither of us are into hard and fast rules... just good communication)
we both still have active accounts on the dating site... i assume hes still contacting other girls, i know im talking to other guys...

so i don't know where to go with that aspect... do i let it go... keep my options open as im sure he is keeping his? just wait and see what happens? or should i bring it up with him... or partly bring it up??
i feel some kind of future there for us... though i haven't known him long... but i dont know its returned...
sorry, im rambling now.... but if anyone has any pointers.... they would be greatly appreciated! i dont want to screw this one up!!

(oh, although i dont think it alters anything really, he is 10 yrs older than me... and im not sure how he feels about this..)

my boyfriend does that :)

Babe, you don't know how it feels like, so you really can't judge what could possibly happen in that situation, yeah? :)

I am very grateful, and I have learned. :)

I'm pleased you stopped arguing.

"I hung up because I was just getting sick of him being so sweet. It was one of those implusive things."

Seriously? Most chicks would kill to have a boyfriend like that. Yes, impulsive indeed -- you need to be grateful for what you have. But it sounds like you may have learned something from that altercation. Hopefully.

Its not saying he's perfect, that word isn't even used.
And just because a guy does all that doesn't mean he can't say stupid shit, which is probably why you would hang up on him in the first place. And honestly what the hell are you getting so offensive about? Its a quote not a cookie cutter for guys.

Okaaay, whatever.

My boyfriend does exactly all that in the quote.
And yeah, I have hung up on him.
It was when I didn't want to talk to anyone because of family problems, when I believed he wouldn't be able to help out no matter how many times he persisted, I hung up because I was just getting sick of him being so sweet. It was one of those implusive things. I just thought I was better left alone and needed time to think.
He'd call me back immediately and comforted and helped me me, even when I asked to be alone. And him calling me back did help me out a lot. And I am grateful that he did.

So stop arguing, yeah? It DOES happen.

And just because you haven't met a man who is exactly everything in that quote, doesn't mean that he doesn't exist. Don't be so sure of yourself when you don't know.

Some girls are lucky to have guys like that, because it isn't common.

Well, good for him. Honestly, I don't see why any adult would think they were justified to hang up on anyone, let alone their significant other. Despite how many times my boyfriend has pissed me off, I'd rather be a big girl and talk things over than just hang up the phone and run away from the matter. And, please, please don't use "that time of the month" as an excuse. It's so cliched.

Don't listen to her ladies, my fiancée does everything in that quote. They exist, they might not be common but they do exist.

The quote doesn't call that perfect, just ideal. Why would you hang up on someone who is that wonderful? Girls have their monthly crazies, girls get pissed and upset about shit and do stuff they don't mean to. The fact that he calls back shows he is willing to still love you despite your irrationalities.

Um, yeah, I'm gonna have to call bull shit on this. I don't think men are really programmed to act like this; sorry ladies.

And, just for the sake of playing devil's advocate: if you found a man who was actually as "perfect" as the one described in this quote, why would you feel the need to hang up on him in the first place? Just wondering. Psh...

That's the sweetest thing I've ever read! I wish my boyfriend would do that.