The 6 Commandments for When Your Bestie is Dating a Douche Bag
Posted by Girls Guide To on September 8, 2012 at 10:50 PM
So for weeks your BFF has been telling you all about this amazing new guy she’s been seeing. You know, the one who’s smart and funny and cute and has a great job and opens car doors. Or at least, that’s how she painted him. Now you’ve met the guy and well, you’re seeing a different picture. He’s a douche bag. It’s ok, I’m sure you dated one or two yourself. And I’m sure your bestie was just as worried about you as you are right now.
It's pretty common that people go through the dating-a-terrible-person-who-treats-them-wrong phase, but there are some constructive ways to clue your friend in that you hate the guy she's dating with the passion of a thousand suns. Here we go:
You Shalt Not Be Easy on the D-Bag
You gotta be protective, right? So you can’t let him wear that dumb shirt and NOT make fun of him to your friend! She likes this guy and well, love is blind, so point out those flaws sister!
Though, You Shalt Not Be Mean to the D-Bag to His Face
I mean, his shirt is ugly, but you don’t have to point it out at the bar and make everyone uncomfortable for the rest of the evening! I mean you don’t want to look like the a*s hole here, do you? Just be civil (and roast him behind his back).
You Shalt Remind Your Bestie What a Good Relationship Is
Remind her that she's been a lot more secure in other relationships--with, y'know, good guys. Remind her that no guy should make her cry over him all the time. Remind her that no guy should make her chase. Or (if she’s like Katy Perry) point out her pattern: jacka*ses. Case closed.
Though, You Shalt Remember You Don’t Know Her Life
Ok, you do know a lot about her life, I’ll give you that. But you don’t really know what’s going on behind closed doors. Maybe he’s really the one! There’s a chance (albeit, a very small one) of it lasting so remember you don’t know the whole story.
You Shalt Be a Bestie Through and Through
Ultimately, even though you have to be the voice of reason, it's most important to support her when she is sad. As frustrating as it may be to watch your friend bang her head against a wall, she's still your friend, and when you do something completely idiotic, you expect her to be there for you too.
And last, but not least…
You Shalt Not Say “I Told You So”
Have you ever had to put up with a friend's terrible boyfriend? How did you deal with it? And did they (gulp) get married or anything?