The Boy Next Door
Posted by Anonymous on February 17, 2010 at 2:33 AM
Literally. Back in November my two girlfriends and I moved from one apartment to the other right across the hall. Lucky for us two nice, normal guys moved in our old place (hello handymen and bug killers!) One thing led to another and one of the guys and I began to "hang out" a lot. Fast forward 3 months and I now see him every evening, and I sleep at his place pretty much every night. The nights that I don't sleep there he always comes over right in the morning to wake me up. I have the best of both worlds because we work all day, i go to the gym, relax, and also get to see him everyday while still having my space. We also managed to wait 2 months before having sex (even though we slept in the same bed every night). I recently went away on business and we talked every night when I got back to the hotel, and he always texted me cute messages saying how much he missed me and how lonely his bed was without me.
My question/concern is this: Would it be out of the blue if I brought up the relationship conversation? We are pretty much bf/gf in the way that we spend our time together and don't see or sleep with anyone else. I know people can argue, its just a title, if you are having fun who cares? Which I agree. However, there is something very different that happens when you put that title on it. You begin a relationship with that person and get to know them, their families, and every aspect of your life because you want them to be a part of it.
Background on both of us: I was in a 2 1/2 year relationship through college until last June with a guy who was madly in love with me, but was also unmotivated and mentally abusive. He was in a relationship all of college (4 years) and was cheated on when he moved away right after graduation. So, we both have a lot of prior issues that we have dealt with, although we don't really talk about it very often.
What do you think? Would you bring it up, or just keep on sailing and "hanging out"? I believe that I am ready to hop on another relationship; especially after hitting the horrible dating scene in NY.