The Shy Girl Guide to Flirting
Posted by Casey Nicole on July 21, 2012 at 9:00 PM
There’s nothing wrong with being a shy girl, but it sure is a challenge meeting new guys sometimes. So, if you have trouble mustering up the courage to speak to that hottie from your gym, just follow our advice on flirting!
First and Foremost, Smile!
Too often us shy girls are afraid of smiling for fear of looking silly or attracting unwanted attention. However, if you want to get your flirt on, a smile is necessary to come across as approachable. So, start practicing your smile today and soon enough you’ll be able to send every cute guy a genuine and welcoming smile.
Have a Partner in Crime
Sometimes girls need a wingman too. It’s stressful to approach a guy, especially if he’s with a group of dudes, but it will be a million times easier with a back-up buddy. Your pal will be able to share the best stories about you to impress that dude, without you coming across as bragging. Plus, there’s much less pressure in a group environment, so you’ll feel a lot more comfortable making a move.
You’ve already learned that mimicking someone’s moves is a subtle way to show you’re interested. But, reciprocating their gestures is another low-pressure way to show that guy you’re enjoying his attention. If he buys you a drink, go ahead and walk one over to him too. If you’re not at a bar, just try to reciprocate things he mentions in conversation. Striking up a conversation with someone new is a bit nerve-wracking, so try to make it a little easier for him. If he compliments you, do the same for him.
Act it Out
If there’s a guy you’ve been crushing on for a while then go ahead and play out the scenarios in which you might approach him in your head. Think about and plan conversation topics. Sometimes, part of overcoming shyness is just being really prepared, so prepare yourself by going through some possible situations in your mind. Plus, when the time comes you can always just play the part, and just act confident even when you’re feeling completely nervous.
Make Sure He Knows
Too often the plight of shy girls is that guys just don’t even know when we’re trying to flirt with them. So, make sure he knows you’re interested. Compliment him and laugh at his jokes, but take it to the next level too. Initiate a little physical contact during conversation, just naturally touching his shoulder when you’re trying to emphasize a point is enough, and very casual too. Even better, take some time to linger during conversations, so he knows he’s getting just a little extra attention from you.
How do you let a guy know you’re interested? Share your flirting advice below!