Want to Reignite Your Relationship? Try Kissing!
Posted by Becky Lake on August 18, 2012 at 8:06 PM
When it comes to long-term relationships or marriage, passionate kissing is one of the first things to fall to the wayside. There’s so much focus on sex, like reasons why you’re not having it, and how to make it better, which, don’t get me wrong, is very important in a lasting relationship, but maybe you’re just forgetting the basic building block of intimacy: kissing.
Kissing can be more intimate than having sex.Do you remember the beginning of your relationship when you could spend hours just making out? Usually kissing becomes a dry peck to say hello or goodbye, or just a quick precursor to the main event, which is sex. To get that spark back, we suggest switching up your routine and making out like a teenager at the movies.
Scientifically speaking, there are some serious benefits to kissing. It’s one of the first ways we connect sexually. In addition, kissing decreases cortisol, a stress hormone, and increases oxytocin, a bonding hormone. That’s why, chemically speaking, kissing relaxes and attaches people together.
Here are six tips to bring passionate kissing back into your relationship.
1. Use Your Hands
It doesn’t matter where just let your hands roam a little while kissing. Caressing someone’s face or hair really amps up the intimacy and will feel even more nurturing for your partner.
2. Make Eye Contact
Looking into each other’s eyes as a prelude to a kiss or even while kissing increases the connection. Plus, according to Chinese medicine, the eyes are related to an energetic pathway that surrounds the genitals, which doesn’t sound bad to us.
3. Vary Your Technique
If you’ve been together quite a while, then your partner likely knows what to expect from your kissing technique. Surprise him or her by switching up your style. Give a surprisingly softer or harder kiss or even kiss your partner when you know they’re not expecting it.
4. Kiss Heart to Heart
The way you tilt your head can actually make a difference when you’re kissing. If you both tilt your head to the left side, you can lean in a little extra while embracing and actually have your hearts “touching.” This elevates the kiss since you can feel the heartbeat of your partner.
5. Be Conscious of Your Tongue
Don’t just shove your tongue in your partner’s mouth, but instead slide it in and then move deeper. French kissing lights up all the nerve endings in the mouth as well as stimulates the salivary glands. Plus, saliva contains testosterone which provides a little boost to your libido.
6. Last, but Not Least: Kiss Longer
Go in for the kiss and keep going. Kiss him for longer than the usual quick peck. Use all the above advice and try for a makeout session. You’ll quickly realize the passion you ignite from making out, will definitely translate into the bedroom.
Do you and your guy still make out like you used to? Share your advice for keeping things passionate by leaving a comment below!