WTF? “Organized” Match.com Dater Keeps Spreadsheet
Posted by Katie Ostoich on April 24, 2012 at 11:14 AM
Have you heard about this? It might be the creepiest thing I’ve heard about in awhile…Here’s the lowdown: A certain Match.com member kept a creepily nitpicky Excel sheet tracking his "in process" ladies. He then sent this document to the date he liked most – who naturally forwarded it to her friends, and eventually the spreadsheet — which contains the ladies’ contact information — went viral.
You'd think a highly meticulous person like our anonymous finance associate friend would keep his comments to himself, but when he told one of his dates about the document tracking his prospects and she asked to see it, he complied:
Date: Sat, Apr 7, 2012 at 12:15 AM
Well...this could be a mistake, but what the hell. I thought about deleting the names, but figured I might as will give you the whole thing. I only deleted the non-match people's names (at the bottom) since some I've known for a long time. I hope this e-mail doesn't backfire, because I really had a great time and hope to hang again soon :). However, I will keep my word! Have a great weekend!
This guy was talking with eight girls from Match.com (he has since deleted his profile…hmm, wonder why?) and a few he knows through colleagues, family friends, and his parents. He documented their "online appearance" ("Mixed bag of pictures, but great bod; works in my building, also in finance; well traveled; lives on XXX" is one example) "wink dates," dates of message communication, initial date status, and initial date comments. You can go here to see the full spreadsheet if you need to see the full creep factor of this trainwreck.
Despite his organized attempts at dating, it doesn't seem to be going too well for our Type A freak. Although he did drunkenly hook up with one girl after a karaoke party, he's been stood up by one girl who he gchats and texts and it seems like an "old BF may be back in the picture" with another.
"I work with spreadsheets a lot," he has said in an interview. "It's a great additional tool. I work long days, go to the gym, go out on a couple of midweek dates or what not, get home late...how am I going to remember them? I'm not. So I made the spreadsheets. My comments aren't malicious or mean. This was an honest attempt to stay organized."
Ugh. My skin is crawling a little bit. But despite his incredibly dumb decision to a) keep this spreadsheet and b) send it to one of the girls, we here at Girls Guide To wonder how the girl could forward it on to her friends without removing the contact information! Where’s the solidarity sister? I mean, we’d totally send it on – it’s just too good – but no one wants her info out on the internet.
What’s your take on this? Is the guy over-the-top creepy, or does his logic make a little sense? And what do you think of the date forwarding on the information?