Explain to him about how rough you have been feeling :( It must be horrible to feel this way, but if he is not willing to understand how you're feeling right now then he's nott he only one with no effort. Good luck xx

I had this card pulled on me not to long ago. I still love him dearly, and will for a while. But we broke up because his lack of wanting to be in a relationship and his lack of effort, which I was fine with how he was treating me, on a level, but he wasn't fine with it. I was giving 50% and he was giving 25%, or 100% vs. 50%, which ever scale you use. But in the end we broke up, and I am better off because of it. He made me happy, and the happiest I have been in years but in the end it what he wanted and what I wanted were two different things and he couldn't deal with it. Just tell him how you feel, ask him what he wants, if he wants a break for a little bit to take time apart and figure things out for himself. Communication is the only thing you can rely on right now. If he can't deal, someone else can.

how can exactly measure effort. - You can't... This is fact. people who are in love (including those who think they are) tend to be more passionate for their significant other than for themselves... That's why we think we give more love to the other than what we're getting from our love ones... assurance of your feelings for him is always best... And tell him it's ok to take himself for granted over you as well... It will make him feel that he has a selfless open-minded gal and his insecurities are unnecessary - same goes with you babe. Don't cave too much to his whims. If worst comes to worst, it's only right not lose yourself being submissive - it's not gonna be love anymore... kisses

at first talk to him abt ur condition,if he cares abt u he surely will undersrtand u ...also if he doesn't then think that he is roughly hurted wid ur acts...jus pay more attention towards him....make him feel u r not changed n jus act normal....talk abt love n tell him the reason that how he is different from everyone else n why u love him...make him feel good....
i wish my boyfren told me the thing ur boyfren does coz in our relation it's me who makes n effort...
i hope i culd help u...gudluck..

You should remind that you're dealing with the loss of a family member. He may not always have it on his mind, even if he does care about you.
I would say I'm a really good gf when I allow myself to be in that position, and it's because I'm good at cute little surprises here and there, just like the guy should do for you. Why don't you take him on a date one night instead of him taking you on a date? Buy him his favorite candy or make his favorite dinner randomly. It's cute, and a simple personal effort.
Even a cute picture text of you with your cat during the day might be some effort. Showing him you're thinking about him.
Good luck :) But PLEASE remember, even if it doesn't work out, there's always time for you to grow being a single lady, or with someone who thinks you put in enough effort.

If he loves you enough he'll let you heal and give you some space things take time and patience he can't do that for you let it go and move on to bigger and better !

Talk to him about this and tell him how much you really love him. Try inviting him to go do things with you and your friends, or even arrange for there to be little inexpensive dates between the two of you. This is a very fragile thing, guys are more sensitive to this stuff than we are, whether they want to admit it or not! Tell him exactly how you feel about him every day, and write him little love notes a little more than twice a week. If he continues to pursue that you aren't making enough effort when your giving it your all, tell him. Remember that honesty is huge to relationships!

you have to open up as much you can with out being pushed or pressured. if you feel that tension lose the guy. maybe you arent ready or maybe he is just not meeting your needs.
either way good luck ♥