keep your virginity. i lost mine when i was 16...believe me its better to lose it to someone you care about and feel close to then just giving it away. You'll feel horrible if u just give it away..nothing wrong with being 18 and a virgin. When i lost mine i felt like i was cheated most days then not when i'd look back. But i was with someone who was also a virgin...

DON'T THROW IT AWAY!!!!

You should wait for the man who doesn't want to only be with you for sex. I wouldn't go around flaunting your virginity either. It could become something they want to take from you as well. You should give yourself time and be patient waiting for the right person. Unless you just want to get it over with, you can always have alot more fun in college ;) as long as you stay safe :)

My experience was that I lost it at 16 too but I don't regret it. Me and the guy broke up 3 months later, but that was from distance because he was in college and neither of us was happy not seeing the other person.

Don't lose it because everyone else has. And don't judge current relationships based on precedent. It helps to say from the beginning that you won't be having sex with the person and say why. If they understand, they won't pressure you.

keep it. by saying no, it means that finding someone who truly loves you isn't that hard. if they are willing to respect you for saying no then they must truly care for you :) xxx

I was 14, and I wish I had waited until I met my current boyfriend. Hes the man I want to marry and be with for the rest of my life and we always say how we wished we were each others first time. Please wait until you find that special someone. It will be worth it then, yes sex gives a relationship a different level of intimacy but its only special if its with someone special. Good luck in finding that special someone.

You should be proud of yourself! Most girls today just give their virginity away like it was nothing. I lost mine to my first boyfirend, and even though he was really special to me, I know we couldve waited longer. The right guy will come along, you just gotta wait for him.

I was 18. I am no longer with the man, but I do not regret it. What we had was beautiful while it lasted. Just make sure the guy is a good man and that he won't do something that would make you regret being with him.

I am 28 and a virgin... I have had serious boyfriends, but I feel like it's something important that I want to save for my husband.

My current boyfriend might be that guy, and he really thinks it's special that I have saved myself. Even if he's the guy I marry I still won't give it up til the wedding night. I have heard many people say they wish they would have waited, not to mention, birth control methods aren't 100% fail proof. Do you really want to take that chance?

There are a lot of people in relationships simply becuz of the sex. Whether it's that having sex is now making it harder to break up, or they are just in it for sex... either way, they aren't in the relationship for the right reason, and that really adds baggage. That's not something you want!

Don't let society make that decision for you... it's very much OK to wait!!!!

im 20 n still a virgin.....

Dont worry. Youre not the only one whos 18 and virgin. Im the same as you honey. Ive been with my guy for a year... he knows i dont want sex and hes fine with it. Just wait until you find that person who wont pressure you into it, that someone who understands where you're at and knows what you do and dont want. If you let him know about this before hand and is happy to wait until you are ready then you've found someone who can love you for you... not just for the 'clothing optional' parts that come with a relationship!!

There's nothing wrong with waiting :] be proud of yourself, i know girls who have done it all and had children at the age of 15. So well done and high five for virginity :]

I lost my virginity at 18 to the guy I'm tremendously in love with. We actually lost it together :) Don't give it away to just anybody. It's something very special which should be shared with someone special.

I don't think virginity a big deal, were animals were supposed to have sex and ENJOY it. it's so much fun people make such a big deal over sex that they never enjoy it.

I was 21 years old when I met my now husband of over 14 years. I have never had any regrets about waiting (although we didn't wait until marriage) and I knew that he was the one I wanted to give myself to. You will know too, don't force it. Don't feel bad about it, you have something that alot of girls want back. Be proud that you aren't weak and willing to give yourself to just anyone! ;)

I lost mine when I was 16, but to me it wasn't that big a deal - I wanted to try it, so I did. I knew the guy loved me (I didn't love him as much as he loved me, but I liked him) and I trusted him, and that for me was enough. I'm now 17 and with the guy I want to spend the rest of my life with, and I don't regret having my first time before him - at least I knew what I was doing when we got together lol. But to answer your question, it means something different to everyone. I'd just say make sure the guy really cares about you - that's important - and make sure you trust him, and I'm sure that if you decide to wait then you'll find someone who respects you for that :) definitely don't let just anyone take it, or let anyone pressure you into it (though you sound like you're strong enough to do that anyway - good on you!) and good luck! :)

i was 16 when i lost mone and i wish i hadnt given it to him, and currently single.....i think theres only one guy out of the ones ive been with that i would have been happy giving it too.

but really i think u should wait for mister right. One of my best friends in the whole world still has hers and we;re the same age. shes been with her boyfriend nearly 4 years. she told him that she wanted to wait until marrage before having sex and he accepted that, they have had ups and downs about it, but so far its working out fine, they find other things to do, rather than having sex.

the fact ur a virgin isnt a bad thing, dont let any one tell u other wise.

I lost mine at 23 and still would have waited, looking back. I was proud of myself and my free loving ways but it still didn't feel right. When I met my fiance, I had to tell him about these people and things I did. Luckily my "number" was still under 5 but but I wish it had always just been him. At 23, I chose some one I loved but I did it more to be done with it, then for the right reasons. Sex is great, but it comes with a lot of trouble and heartache. It is worth the wait for the right person. I am now 28 and I will be married in 29 days.

You're only 18. Everybody talks about sex cause they think it will make them more mature and interesting, but it's bullshit. Don't you think it;s actually annoying topic? When my friend told at the age 16 that she is pregnant I said to myself that I will wait at least 'till I'm 18. And then I thought that I will have sex not with the "right guy" because how you can know which is the one? or not till the wedding night or something like that. I wanted to wait to the moment when I will say to myself: "I want to do it." And I was with a great guy who cared about me and loved me and he respected my wish to wait with sex and one day I just said that I want it. And I did it.
Don't care about the others, cause they will disappear one day and you'll live with yourself to the end. So who's respect you prefer - their or your own?

Keep your virginity! Wait for someone who wants to be with you even after you say no and someone who you feel comfertable around and know that even if you were to break up, you would never regret it. I lost mine at 15 and and really wish that i had waited till I was older. You should feel proud of being a virgin and for being stronge enouth to continue being a virgin and not being "caught up in the moment". One day you will meat a guy that will be just as proud of you as you are about yourself.

Im a Jr in University (19) and Im still a virgin. Honestly dont do it or have sex if you feel like you are being pressured. I can almost guarantee that you'll either regret the act or it wont be a vary good experience for you during. If YOU dont feel comfortable it wont be a good experience for you. Who the hell cares if you've chosen to be a virgin? If a guy doesnt like you for YOU why would you want to date him? Ask yourself these questions because I think every woman deserves better then just being a fling in bed. Sex changes things for women that it doesnt change for men and thats a fact. Being a virgin doesnt mean you are less: sexy, alluring, tempting, beautiful, desirable, or a great person. It just means you havent had sex. Big deal. Why rush something that is irrevocable? Dont let the sluts, skanks, whores of college bully into "losing it" because its not cool to not have a fling or get drunk and have casual sex. Believe me, besides what they tell you, a guy does think more of you if you've waited. It makes him feel special. And he knows that you havent got anything to compare it to. That makes the whole experience much better b/c hes so much more relaxed and wanting you to be pleasured. THATS what you want. You dont want an ass who just wanted plain sex. You want the guy to care about you right? about your needs, how you feel, and what you like. Not to say you shouldnt care about him too. You should. Its give and take.

Dont let it bother you. To each their own or whatever floats your boat so to speak. Let them do what they want and try not to place yourself into situations where this is going to be a major problem. I congratulate you on being able to say "no". Many girls dont. They rush and confuse infatuation with love and end up getting hurt. Now many will argue and say you dont need love to have sex. This is true but being in love makes it so much better. Being able to trust the man you're with, I think, is very important. Be yourself no matter who tells you that you HAVE to lose it. You DONT have to do anything. They can go fuck themselves as far as Im concerned. Do what you think is right or feels right. When you meet the right guy...you'll know. I know Im still a virgin but the man Im with right now doesnt mind if he waits for when Im ready. It feels right when Im in his arms being kissed, laughing, cuddling, or just goofing off. A relationship has many parts or facets. Not the least of which is Physical, Emotional, Mental, and even Spiritual. We were joking around and I asked him what if we never had sex. He said," well if you make me wait that long I just might have to marry you =)" If you can find a guy who's willing to do that for YOU then work with it. Communicate with him.

Good luck. I know this is kinda long but =)

im 18 now and i lost my virginity right around my birthday. i always said i wouldnt have sex till marriage. unfortunatly the guy i lost it to i was completly in love with. things happened and we broke up but because i was in love with him and i did have sex with him and those chains were there i let him use me when we werent dating. the guy im with now is amazing and he doesnt pressure me at all.. i honestly wish i would have stayed a virgin. things are honestly a whole lot easier that way. i decided i am waiting till marraige to do it again.
right now u should be focused on you and wat u wanna do with your life.. dont worry about goin out and having sex cuz it really isnt all that it that great unless its with the right person. stay strong hun things will get easier and plus its one less thing u have to worry about. college is stressful enough with the drama behind sex.
stay strong and good luck!

I lost my virginity when i was 15 and even though my boyfiredn cared about me a lot and wouldve been willing to wait longer, i wanted to do it because everyone else was talking about it. I wish i would have waited longer, just to fully realize what i was really doing.

I was 18 when I lost my virginity; to a British guy that was literally just a fling. Do I regret it? Not at all, I had made the choice because I knew I was emotionally ready for it.

As far as I am concerned, that is when you're ready, not 18, no, but when you're emotionally ready for it, even if it isn't the guy you're going to marry; sometimes the time is just right.

I was 18 when I gave my virginity to my first love. We had it pretty early in the relationship, but it worked out well for us. The relationship only lasted a year, but I don't regret it at all. Where I was from 18 was like 28, but it was great waiting for a guy that I truly felt comfortable with and have great memories with. Five years later we still talk and laugh over some of the goofy things we tried. If you don't want to wait for the man of your dreams then go for a guy you can love, trust, and be comfortable with. Love and comfort can make for some amazing sex.

I was 13. But really I don't regret it. Just as long as you know you DO love them. I was very young but I know without a doubt I did love him. I was always very mature when it came to relationships. But I would suggest to keep it, just incase.

It all depends on how you feel about sex. For me the main concern was the risk of getting pregnant, so of course I had to wait for a guy I trusted so I knew that in the worst case scenario I wouldn't be alone with a baby. I lost my virginity a few days before I turned 21 and to tell you the truth it wasn't all that wonderful even though I was in love, so I just think the first time isn't that good for many, specially in our case we were both virgins. And the other thing is I had to make sure I was as safe as possible from getting pregnant so I started taking the pill a few months later. Just make sure you are doing it because YOU want to, it has nothing to do with age.
If you want to do it and you are with a person you trust then go for it. I don't regret losing my virginity at all, but it does get a little complicated because then you really want to keep doing it once you get the hang of it haha
Good luck and don't mind the ones that tell you to keep it! we are all different so in your case it may not be the best choice... Only you know

You should wait until you feel our totally ready...........i lost mine when i was 15........wish i waited.....i would have given it to my current bf.....the one who truly loves me

Lose your virginity ONLY when you are damn good and ready for it. Some people were ready at sixteen (some weren't and did it anyway). Some people wait until marriage; some wait until they've met "The One". Some don't believe in "The One" and the curiosity is killing them.

It's our societal norm for women to maintain as much purity as possible, but that doesn't mean it's the absolute right way to go about it. If you meet someone and get along with him, and you decide -- with or without marriage -- that you want to experiment sexually with him, embrace the learning experience. If you decide your priority is on purity until marriage, then by all means, stay sexually pure.

Just make sure you're doing it for your own reasons, and not because someone else is persuading your judgment over your body.

I am 30 years old. At 26 my boyfriend became my fiance. He confessed to me that he was also a virgin, he never pushed me to do anything in our relationship, neither did I. When we got married, it was beautiful to know that we were both going to be each other's first. Now, I am so happy that we waited. We have been married for 3 years and we are more in love with each other as the days go on. =) Wouldn't have chosen any other way, I love him so much.

Okay, my advice would be this: wait until you are comfortable, but don't wait until you become uncomfortable about still having your virginity (i.e. 40).

Don't be embarrassed that you're 18 and a virgin. Some of us are late bloomers (I sure was). And allowing yourself to be pressured into even the idea of having sex is not a healthy start to what should be a beautiful thing. But I will say, I think most people should have sex before they get married. It seems silly to form such a strong commitment with someone if you don't know how sexually compatible you are.

As for whether virginity is something special, that's something you're going to have to decide for yourself. Different people have highly different views on the subject. I personally don't see the big deal; especially not anymore. I used to figure I wanted to be good by the time I came to a guy that I could spend the rest of my life with. Apparently I didn't get that long to wait, heh.

I lost my virginity soon after I turned 18, in my last year of high school. The guy I lost it to was my ex's best friend, he'd just got back from basic training in the air force and it happened in a porno booth. He was fucked up on drugs, and I was just uncomfortable. He and I are decent friends now, surprisingly. I didn't have sex again until I started dating my current boyfriend (about a year later).

Do I regret what happened? No. I don't. It wasn't a pleasant experience, but I'm honestly glad I had it, because now I know both sides of sex, and I know what to avoid. Also, it just got it out of the way, because, for me, virginity was just something to get rid of, so I could proceed with life, and I still feel that way.

I sometimes think of the first sex I had with my boyfriend as being the first time I really had sex. It, too, wasn't enjoyable (it was pretty painful), but he was patient, and now the sex is great.

Love makes the sex better, but it doesn't always make it great. My best advice for your first time is to be with someone who has had experience, will be gentle, and that you know well. If you love them, even better.

Stand strong honey! this is something that can make you different from everyone else in such a special way. Save it for the one you know you want to be with forever, and the one that loves you, with or without sex. It's hard i do admit, but Mr. Right WILL come, you just gotta stop looking and let him come to you. (:

I'm 16 and my bf is 17. We've only been together officially one month. But we have talked openly about every subject in the world. We didn't want to become bf/gf until we had formed a good base for a friendship. We have become very close emotionally in doing this. We're both virgins. We agree sex even with protection can sometimes lead to getting pregnant. In this case it should only happen if you truly love and care for that person. This is how we feel.
We know people who have lost in a lot of different ways. Some regret it, some don't. You've taken the first step b talking about it. But it's really your choice. Or better yet a joint decision. One in which both partners agree on.

Okay....First, you're 18. Being 40 is a far-off milestone..... Most people have sex because they think it's some sort of Rite Of Passage, but it's not. Sex is the highest expression of love a man and woman can experience. Don't think any less of it, be proud of who you are because I know someone who died a virgin but he was still a proud man all the way to the end. Also remember that you don't have to have sex to prove you're in love with someone.

Personally, I don't think losing your virginity is that big of a deal if it's with someone you trust. Many people find it as a really special experience and want to do it with the one they love. I lost mine at 16. It just so happens that the person and I are still dating (I'm 19 now) and we're very in love. But should we have broken up (for good, because there were a few off and on parts there) I would have been okay with losing it to them.

But I say don't rush to do it just because you want to get it over with. Do it because you want to and because you trust and feel safe with the person who you do it with. Having sex for the first time just to get it over with would tell me that you're not emotionally ready for sex. So do what's in your heart.

i totally agree wid sarah tanner.even im 19 n still a virgin n im very proud of it.i hav had serious relationshipz but i never felt like giving up my virginity coz i alwayz wanted to save it 4r my husband..good saying sarah.im happy girlz still think like dat.sumtimez even wen ure wid a guy u trust doesnt mean u hav to hav sex wid him n give up ure virginity.it totally dependz on how u think coz itz ure life.

I want to add on to all the other girls here. I lost mine to my friend and boyfriend and he is now my fiance just before I turned 19. It was a great night and I am glad that we both waited as long as we did. We spent two months discussing it and making sure we were both comfortable with finally taking that step and I think that is definitely the best way to do it. Wait until you and the one you are with have talked about it in depth about everything not just the sex part but about if you both want to be with each other for the rest of your lives and you know he will treat you with respect and make sure your first time is an enjoyable experience. Even if your relationship ends up not working out then at least you have a good memory and a good first time instead of regretting a hasty decision just because everyone else was talking about it.

You don;t have to wait forever, but wait until its a guy you're in love with at least. And no matter what you decide, just remember that once you lose it, just because you've tossed the V-card doesn't mean you should sleep around. Not saying that you would, but its a lot easier to be "easy" then people think. The lines start to blur between a a true romantic connection and a guy who only thinks with his smaller head. They're sneaky, they're really good liars, they usually have a smile that kills, and they're the reason most women think all men are bastards (which they so aren't). Just remember that its easy to say pretty words, but at the end of they day YOU are the one you go to sleep with each night. Make your inner life partner proud, and whether youre a virgin or not people will respect you because you respect you.
Good luck, girly.

I was in the same situation as you, I didn't lose it until I was 18 and in college. Yes it seemed like I was the last virgin on campus; however that's not why I lost it.
I was also proud I was still a virgin, but during my first semester in college I learned a lot about myself, and I learned that while yes sex is special, and should be shared with someone you love, it does not define you.
You are worth more than your virginity. I know this sounds crude, but it isn't as big as a deal as others make it out to be. That does not by any means that you should have sex with just any one, but maybe the guy you first have sex with isn't exactly mr. right.
The first guy I had sex with I had many special feelings for and I do not regret it what so ever, but i know realize it wasn't love, or not love like I know now.
My current boyfriend knows I am not a virgin and he isn't either and we both respect that.
He values me for what I am not for whether I am a virgin or not.
So if you think that when you find mr.right you will disappoint him by not having saved it for him well just remember you are worth more than that.

Ok from what you wrote all i can really say is this.KEEP YOUR VIRGINITY!!
It really is more special if you wait. I'm still a virgin, 19 years old and a freshmen in college and I don't care.My first real boyfriend and I were together for 2 1/2 years in high school.I never gave it up to him.and I'm glad i didn't because I was actually unhappy with him and didn't realize that until after the breakup. He was actually willing to wait for me to be ready despite everything though.We did some sexual stuff in between but I never let him take my virginity. My current boyfriend now, is actually willing to wait for me to be ready just as well. Most guys in college or high school just want to get laid to get laid.Your virginity is meant for someone who is truly right for you and loves you for exactly who you are. Finding Mr.Right isn't easy and takes a VERY LONG TIME. You just have to put yourself out there and wait for the right guy to come around. That moment when you do lose it is the most intense connection with a person that any human being.So who would you rather have it taken from you, quick and easy with some guy who just wants to get laid? Or with someone that you are deeply in love with that you can see yourself always feeling comfortable with no matter what and loves you the same way in return? Its a choice only you can make. Keep it and be happy with who you are.

It is far better to be a forty year old virgin than an eighteen year old who had sex just because she thought someone else would want her to.

don't be ashamed of what makes you special no matter what!! in this day and age its rare and special to find someone proud to be a virgen at your age, ur just like a unicorn!
there is a guy out there waiting for you who is going to want to spend the rest of his life with you, u still have plenty of time to find him, and when you do, ur going to be glad u waited for him. i dont mean to sound preachy or anything, but i think the best thing really is to wait until ur married, when ur with the one person who you trust implicitly and who you know is going to be there for you no matter what. you will be a lot better of that way. i hope evrythign works out for you :D

hi...i've lost my virginity almost one month ago...and i feel nothing has changed..i've havent grew up or something like that...i did it because i love my boyfrind and he was just keeping on saying hat he wanted to do it with me to show me his love for me...he wanted to make the " best thing ever" with me..and he was really mad at me 'cause i didn't feel it like something so 'easy'..and i'm still in this opinion! i think it's not an easy choice, it has always been something special and precious in almoust evrey culture!and it trows u in am other little world..and u need to be ready to this world...and i'm still not, i think. so my advice is just...listen to your heart with your mind. want sex is something instinctive...make love is something coming from your heart. and be sure that u feel both before doing it!! :)
sometimes i'm happy i did it...sometimes not...sometimes i just whish i was more aware of what i was doing!!
just make sure there's LOVE
and don't worry about pain and such things it's normal!! and it's amazing how Mother Nature made us so...right!
i hope everything goes fine!!!

ps: sorry for my english...i can't speak it that goed!
hope everything

You should wait for the right guy!! :)
I was was a virgin and a freshman in college also but i've never felt any pressure to do it, you have to be confident in yourself girl!!
Trust me you'll know when it's right for you!

I did and it felt great =]

18 is not old at all to still have your virginity. You shouldn't look at your age, you just haven't met the right person yet. Sex is supposed to be special, and it's something you share with someone you love. You shouldn't just give yourself away to no matter who...You may feel awkward when you hear all the others talking about it, but you were right to wait. Only do it when you feel ready, you'll know when you are. ;-) If the boyfriends you had in the past turned you down because of that, they were not the ones for you, definitely not! So: wait for Mr. Right. It will be worth the waiting, you will be happy that you saved yourself for him. ;-)

let people around u talk... u do what your heart says..... n being virgin is not a bad thing!!!!
infact am 21 and am a virgin tooo...!!! and m proud to be one!!!
so be proud of your slff!!!!

I'm exactly in the same situation! I'm 18, and I'm still a virgin. Sometimes I feel like i'm never going to find that right guy but then again I look at all the way I've come and I say to myself "Each day that passes by is a day closer I get to finding the one for me" =) Hope that helps! =D

Ok I'm 18 and I only lost my virginity this year, total MISTAKE. Like, I did it because everyone else was. It was drunken, unprotected, in a caravan with 4 other people in there as well..and with a guy I barely knew. Purely because of peer pressure ! It's really not good, wait for the right person - no regrets :)

Im 14, so many rumors have spread saying that im not a virgin and a slut and everything and i hate it, some of my closest friends even think i sleep around. But i dont, i feel the same as you i want to get it over with but what if i sleep with someone and my cherry pops will they feel it ? will blood get all over the bed ? im embarassed about having mine but then i think im 14 why am i making a big deal, because if i actually do it people will think i am a slut and have proof to back it up.

So i think you should keep your as long as you can because why does it matter what they think of you, it only matters what you think about your self