I was used by one guy. Told me he liked me after we slept together. The weekend after I didn't have sex with him and I was called a string of profanities at the party we were at and he never talked to me again. How did I deal with it? The WRONG way. I just started using guys for sex. Pretty much paying the males back for the times they've done it to females.
Oh, this one is pretty easy... It's called waiting...
If the guy likes you, he'll be willing to wait a few months to have sex. In the meantime you guys can get to know each other and decide if you want a relationship together etc...
If a guy is only in it for the sex, they'll go running when they hear no sex is on offer
I've been used by one guy. I'd been casually dating him for awhile and he seemed really into me - met my family & I met his we hung out all the time did things together as a couple and then he said he loved me so I slept with him. And continued to do so for awhile afterwards til I found out he was telling people that we both knew all these horrible things about me. 2 years later I still cop a lot of shit because people believe what he said about me. I now have the most amazing boyfriend we've been together for 2 years and we waited for ages before we slept together because we've both been burnt before. If a guy is into you and actually wants to be with you he will wait for you and support you in your decision to wait. If he doesn't he is not worth your time!!
The moment you say I wont have sex with you til we have a friendship then a relationship with you. Thats how found out a guy I liked was only using me for sex. I told him I wanted to get to know him more but he wouldn't wait so one night while hanging out he tried a quick move and I left in a mad dash never talked to him again.
i was a late bloomer..didnt start chasing boys til late n doin all the thngs a girl should do til i was almost out of h.s..but i did have 1 guy tht i was crazy bout n just bout would have done anythng 4 him 2 be mine..so much so tht i messed around wit him 1 night n didnt hear frm him agian for a mnth so after chasing him for 3 yrs i decided to tell him off...hurt like hell after the fact cuz we had been childhood friends but it took me til i had my head outta the clouds to see tht i was used...havent trusted a guy the same since.....
1.Are you having some form of sex?
2.Is he only giving you calls/texts at late/odd hours of the night?
3.Does he only contact/talk you on his terms?
4.Have you met any of his friends? Like just hanging out, out of the house?
-this are just a couple of things. if you have said yes to 1-3 then he is most likely just using you... Im a female with a male mentality... When they thought they were playing me, in reality I was playing them.. they are always comming back for more.. :/ sad and a bit heartless i know.. I dont recomend anyone playing people cause eventually itll catch up with you when you are trying to actually date a guy.. like a saying goes a player cant get played.. why? because they get paranoid and dont allow themselves to get emotionally attached..
i wish i had known those thngs on the list back in h.s otherwise i would have saved myself a lot of heartbreak and baggage tht will always be apart of...
I found that telling this guy that apperad to be really into me that i wasnt going to have sex with him straight away made it pretty easy to tell if he ws interested.... he hasnt bothered to talk to me since :P
This has happened to me.....three times. I have only ever went out with three people. One was gay, n was trying to use me to hide that fact, ended up cheating on me with one of my guy friends that I interduced him to, and one other had made a bet with his freinds to see how long it would take him to get me into bed. He ran six weeks later when I told him I wasnt gonna sleep with him.
i was used by two guys at once. one said that he loved me and that he wanted me for ever, when in reality, he was also saying this to my sister and his current girlfriend at the same time. it tore my sister and i apart. then, the other just flat out told me that he wanted to have sex with me right after we kissed for alittle while. i left him in his car.
I agree with Katey. If you jump into sex, or some form of sex, too soon in the relationship, it's much much harder to know his intentions. If he asks for sex, and you say no, and he ignores you [like in my case], that's a very good sign that you made the right choice by NOT having sex with him. It can be a toss up, but go with what you feel and what signs you're given. Good luck!
All guys only want one thing these days... and that's sex. How do I know if a guy really likes me? I'm assuming he'll tell me. How do I know if a guy is only out for just sex? That's the only reason why he'll call you.
Some guys will just let it be known that they are strictly looking for sex. (LOL) Some are a bit harder to spot, expecially if they start throwing "I love you" into the mixture, because it can mean so many different things to different people, such as "I love the fact you like to have sex with me" routine. When they start loving you on a different level though, you know it. the gifts, flowers, etc. A man really should sweep a woman off of her feet when he is into her. And yeah, calling at odd hours is just a booty connection. (LOL) I guess nobody ever told guys that that was completely lame! but, they do it anyways, and we misread the signals to think it means something "more".
Guys can be pretty slick though, and in ALL cases, between gifts, WAITING, and otherwise will do what they need to do for that "booty call". so, it is hard to say. Some of these guys are so mixed up, they really do not know the difference between Love and Lust, and then if they are from a religious affiliation, they may feel "guilty" after sex, and now they are going to blame it on you, and never talk to you again.(because they cannot affiliate between right and wrong till AFTER the deed!)us girls aren't that different though, it is just that we have more to lose, like our virginity with the wrong choice. So if in doubt, just wait until marriage. At least then you did it the way it is supposed to be done, and at least the guy has the balls to do things the right way.
The guys who are just using you for sex will have sort of a common cocky-ness, be too confident of themselves or try the "I'm a really shy, sweet guy" approach. Maybe get a friend to hang out with him without letting him know you two even know the other exists. Sort of a spy operation. lol
I ust recently started dating a great guy . We had a very straight forward conversation that we would not have sex until we really know one another . I had often (in my twenties& early thirties)thought that once we had sex we were a couple . WRONG !!! Boy did I learn the hard way . Now I realy get to know somebody . If they really like you & you have a friendship .They won't want to "hit & run".
It can be very hard to tell. My ex was very manipulative and acted all sweet and caring and romantic to woo me after I said I wouldn't have sex with him unless we were in a lasting relationship (he basically tried to get off with me and I was like 'Er, no'). We started going out, but the sex was all there really was to the relationship (and even then, compared to what I have now, it was pretty lacking tbh!). He was a narcissist and an emotional retard. Anyway, I 'got too serious' and he cheated on me with several women and dumped me for the town bike. So be careful. :)
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I was used by one guy. Told me he liked me after we slept together. The weekend after I didn't have sex with him and I was called a string of profanities at the party we were at and he never talked to me again. How did I deal with it? The WRONG way. I just started using guys for sex. Pretty much paying the males back for the times they've done it to females.
Oh, this one is pretty easy... It's called waiting...
If the guy likes you, he'll be willing to wait a few months to have sex. In the meantime you guys can get to know each other and decide if you want a relationship together etc...
If a guy is only in it for the sex, they'll go running when they hear no sex is on offer
Amen.
I've been used by one guy. I'd been casually dating him for awhile and he seemed really into me - met my family & I met his we hung out all the time did things together as a couple and then he said he loved me so I slept with him. And continued to do so for awhile afterwards til I found out he was telling people that we both knew all these horrible things about me. 2 years later I still cop a lot of shit because people believe what he said about me. I now have the most amazing boyfriend we've been together for 2 years and we waited for ages before we slept together because we've both been burnt before. If a guy is into you and actually wants to be with you he will wait for you and support you in your decision to wait. If he doesn't he is not worth your time!!
The moment you say I wont have sex with you til we have a friendship then a relationship with you. Thats how found out a guy I liked was only using me for sex. I told him I wanted to get to know him more but he wouldn't wait so one night while hanging out he tried a quick move and I left in a mad dash never talked to him again.
i was a late bloomer..didnt start chasing boys til late n doin all the thngs a girl should do til i was almost out of h.s..but i did have 1 guy tht i was crazy bout n just bout would have done anythng 4 him 2 be mine..so much so tht i messed around wit him 1 night n didnt hear frm him agian for a mnth so after chasing him for 3 yrs i decided to tell him off...hurt like hell after the fact cuz we had been childhood friends but it took me til i had my head outta the clouds to see tht i was used...havent trusted a guy the same since.....
1.Are you having some form of sex?
2.Is he only giving you calls/texts at late/odd hours of the night?
3.Does he only contact/talk you on his terms?
4.Have you met any of his friends? Like just hanging out, out of the house?
-this are just a couple of things. if you have said yes to 1-3 then he is most likely just using you... Im a female with a male mentality... When they thought they were playing me, in reality I was playing them.. they are always comming back for more.. :/ sad and a bit heartless i know.. I dont recomend anyone playing people cause eventually itll catch up with you when you are trying to actually date a guy.. like a saying goes a player cant get played.. why? because they get paranoid and dont allow themselves to get emotionally attached..
i wish i had known those thngs on the list back in h.s otherwise i would have saved myself a lot of heartbreak and baggage tht will always be apart of...
I found that telling this guy that apperad to be really into me that i wasnt going to have sex with him straight away made it pretty easy to tell if he ws interested.... he hasnt bothered to talk to me since :P
This has happened to me.....three times. I have only ever went out with three people. One was gay, n was trying to use me to hide that fact, ended up cheating on me with one of my guy friends that I interduced him to, and one other had made a bet with his freinds to see how long it would take him to get me into bed. He ran six weeks later when I told him I wasnt gonna sleep with him.
i was used by two guys at once. one said that he loved me and that he wanted me for ever, when in reality, he was also saying this to my sister and his current girlfriend at the same time. it tore my sister and i apart. then, the other just flat out told me that he wanted to have sex with me right after we kissed for alittle while. i left him in his car.
I agree with Katey. If you jump into sex, or some form of sex, too soon in the relationship, it's much much harder to know his intentions. If he asks for sex, and you say no, and he ignores you [like in my case], that's a very good sign that you made the right choice by NOT having sex with him. It can be a toss up, but go with what you feel and what signs you're given. Good luck!
All guys only want one thing these days... and that's sex. How do I know if a guy really likes me? I'm assuming he'll tell me. How do I know if a guy is only out for just sex? That's the only reason why he'll call you.
Some guys will just let it be known that they are strictly looking for sex. (LOL) Some are a bit harder to spot, expecially if they start throwing "I love you" into the mixture, because it can mean so many different things to different people, such as "I love the fact you like to have sex with me" routine. When they start loving you on a different level though, you know it. the gifts, flowers, etc. A man really should sweep a woman off of her feet when he is into her. And yeah, calling at odd hours is just a booty connection. (LOL) I guess nobody ever told guys that that was completely lame! but, they do it anyways, and we misread the signals to think it means something "more".
Guys can be pretty slick though, and in ALL cases, between gifts, WAITING, and otherwise will do what they need to do for that "booty call". so, it is hard to say. Some of these guys are so mixed up, they really do not know the difference between Love and Lust, and then if they are from a religious affiliation, they may feel "guilty" after sex, and now they are going to blame it on you, and never talk to you again.(because they cannot affiliate between right and wrong till AFTER the deed!)us girls aren't that different though, it is just that we have more to lose, like our virginity with the wrong choice. So if in doubt, just wait until marriage. At least then you did it the way it is supposed to be done, and at least the guy has the balls to do things the right way.
DON'T HAVE SEX! you'll be able to tell!
if hes pressureing u or talkin about it a lot or wants to before u start dating basically ur gunna get used!
The guys who are just using you for sex will have sort of a common cocky-ness, be too confident of themselves or try the "I'm a really shy, sweet guy" approach. Maybe get a friend to hang out with him without letting him know you two even know the other exists. Sort of a spy operation. lol
Don't sleep with him, if you are unsure (that'll give it away easy enough). Unless you just want sex as well.
I ust recently started dating a great guy . We had a very straight forward conversation that we would not have sex until we really know one another . I had often (in my twenties& early thirties)thought that once we had sex we were a couple . WRONG !!! Boy did I learn the hard way . Now I realy get to know somebody . If they really like you & you have a friendship .They won't want to "hit & run".
It can be very hard to tell. My ex was very manipulative and acted all sweet and caring and romantic to woo me after I said I wouldn't have sex with him unless we were in a lasting relationship (he basically tried to get off with me and I was like 'Er, no'). We started going out, but the sex was all there really was to the relationship (and even then, compared to what I have now, it was pretty lacking tbh!). He was a narcissist and an emotional retard. Anyway, I 'got too serious' and he cheated on me with several women and dumped me for the town bike. So be careful. :)