Question
He said 'I Love You' but what does it mean? I met this guy on a trip with uni and after spending a week together we were friends. Then a few months later I bumped into him at another event, where I was greeted with a hug and a kiss. We live about 7 hours away from each other, and he invited me to come and visit.
So about a month later I did. I drove 7 hours and spent a week with him and his family, for his 21st. During that week I was welcomed into his family. His mum saying 'how nice it is having another girl in the family'. His Grandparents recognised me from photos, and I was invited to dinner every night. We spent hours together, just talking and I wasn't allowed to pay for anything when we were together. At his party he mentioned me a few times in his thank you speech, then after the speeches he came and found me and said thanks for coming and told me I had made his night. A little later in the night, he came up, gave me a hug and a kiss and told me that he loves me, but by this stage we were both a little intoxicated. I don't know if he remembers saying this. The day after his party he was heading overseas for 2 months and he said that we'll catch up when he gets home. He also said he'd come and visit me through the year.
The only problem is that I'm left here, not knowing if 'I love you' means as a friend or he wants a relationship. Something that I should mention is that we've dicussed the future (not together) but we both want to settle down and start a family in the next 4 years.
I'm welcome to any insights to what 'I love you' means.
Thanks
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Hm...I love you before a relationship is a total set up for failure. Honestly. If he was intoxicated he probably didn't know what the heck he was talking about...or he was spooked by the moment's scenario. The guy lives 7 hours away...think about it. What will that do?...A long distance relationship should never be an excuse to start a relationship.
Its not healthy at all. Some people make it, yes...i'm not saying it doesn't work. But what I am saying is...that you are assuming that he wants to rush into things...and if he does..he's not being serious. A man who wants to get into a relationship seriously will be work to get to your heart...not just blab the first thing that runs through his mind, he needs to feel it in his heart..mind, and soul!
NOT JUST BODY.
Girl you need to really watch out for these type of scenarios...and stick with being friends a bit longer with the guy...watch his behavior and get to know him more. okay? =]
Love takes time and it comes softly.
Love takes time to grow.... Guard your heart to be sure it doesn't get broken
Talk to him about it.
My boyfriend said I love you like two/three months after we started dating.
It freaked me out.
I wanted to say I love you back because I love him, but I wasn't sure what he meant.
To me I love you meant commitment, forever, and to die for, and that's NOT how I felt.
So I asked him, and he said that at this moment I care for you more than anyone else, I can't guarantee in the future, but right now, you are it.
And I concurred. :)
You really just need to talk to him! Don't scare him away or freak out.
If you feel like you can't talk to him about it...then do you love him? I mean, if you're going to be in a serious relationship, you need to be able to talk to him about practically anything/everything.
Everyone defines love a little differently though, don't be let this pass you by. :)
Also...if you only know that you both want a family but haven't talked about it with him, you're probably putting too many expectations on this, let things go as they go. :)
talk to HIM about it! maybe he thinks yall are in a relationship... if you want a relationship with him, then you need to tell him that's what you want and that you are confused by what he has said and his actions.
only he knows what he wants from you and what he is thinking...