Question
I've been seeing someone for quite a while, and our relationship seems to be going quite well. Everyone around us says we're the perfect couple, but as our relationship grows and he falls more and more for me, I can't help but to feel trapped. I won't say I love him because I don't yet, it takes me a while to fall in love, but I definitely care for him. At the same time, he isnt the only man in my life. For the last two years, I've realized I have fallen for my best friend. I don't know whether he returns my affection, we have gotten together before, but now it seems like he wants something more for me. He's become more outwardly relationshippy, whether it be petnames or paying for meals or introducing me to his entire extended family as his "girl". With my boyfriend it's never perfect, but I always feel safe. With my best friend I feel happy but he can be so insecure that I never know what he's thinking. Can someone please try to discover what's in my mind?
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I think that what all of this really means is that you're really just not that into your boyfriend... And whether or not your friendship is taken to a new level with your best friend that your heart isn't 100% committed to your boyfriend...
You need to make up your mind. You can't have both of them like this. It's not fair to the one who has no idea your heart's not completely into it. If you want to be with your best friend, then break it off with your bf (cause it's obvious you're not into him) and go ahead with the one you're more interested in. Cause what you're doing isn't fair. The fact that your best friend is introducing you to his family as his girl and you're not telling otherwise, in many eyes, is viewed as cheating. So let the other guy go. Tell him straight up you care for him, he makes you feel secure, but you aren't into him.
But here's how my brain sees it. What you may NEED is the boyfriend you're with. What you WANT is your best friend. You need to figure out which is more important. But it seems your want out weighs anything else, so do what you want. Just don't expect your bf to be happy or wait for you. Good luck hon