I used to not want a commitment. In fact I avoided it all together... One night stands were my 'thing'. However recently I have meet a guy who I can see myself in a relationship with. The problem is he knows about my past and he is a guy who prefers long relationships as such. He seems to believe that I will be unable to commit to him and I only want sex, how do I change his view, and prove to him that I actually care about him?



I got into a relationship like that, he put me down about my past & abused me every day. Not saying he will do the same, but if you do get together be aware of the warning signs. If he becomes possessive or controlling, get out ASAP.
Otherwise I can see a guy being able to see past that & working it out if he really likes you.
be honest, my friend. talk to him and explain everything. tell him u wanna try and give it your best shot. Be positive, he will try too. :)
You have to have a long-term relationship with him. That means it's going to take time. You can say, "Look, I realize it will take time for you to understand how I feel about you, but that's OK. I would like to spend time with you and demonstrate to you that I want a long-term relationship." Don't even try to change his view. Anytime you try to "make someone see it your way" you are already doomed. Prove it by doing it. That will also give you time to explore what it means for you to be in a longer relationship. Think of it like this, if you have your whole lives to spend together, what's your hurry? Take your time and enjoy the adventure.
Guys usually doesn't wanna know how many you've slept with,They usually doesn't like sl***, no offends, so in case they wanna be with you knowing about your past, they usually just wants to sleep with you..
I suggest next time don't let the guy you like know about it, but since he knows now, you can still let them know about your feelings and that you are willing to change for him... but don't worry if the guy really likes you. he will understands.
Love it's a crazy thing , and if it wasn't made for the two of you, to be together it will never happend just like that!
But, it's nothing worng about leting him know your past. If you want to commit you must be 100% honest and trust him !
Good luck !
I guess just talk to him and maybe skip having sex for awhile? Don't bee too clingy though. It'll turn him off.
Well, he thinks you only want sex, right? So show him he's wrong. Don't have sex, just date, and show him what you're really about, out of the sack. And after a couple months or however long most people wait to have sex, then you can broach the idea again. But until then, show him that just because you were like that with other guys doesn't mean that's who you are.
if he can't get PASSED your past, he's not worth the trouble. While the majority of guys prefer to not know how many guys were before then, even in 'one night stand' situations, if he is aware of it and doesn't mind, then you have a chance.
You have a real uphill battle with this because it does sound like he has made his mind up, but if you can find away to prove to him that you're ready for something more serious, you might be able to sway him.
Try what others have suggested about the dating and no sex; though I suggest throwing in sex now and then to stop the possibility that he might start thinking you're getting it somewhere else.