Honestly, I don't know what to say. I might be in the same boat... not quite so sure......

Ok, here is the thing, most of us women go for the "bad boys", the reason most of us do that (myself included) because we don't have confidence in ourselves. Those of us continue with destructive relationships because we feel deep down that we don't deserve anything better. To me, it doesn't matter what the guy has or doesn't have, it is about how they treat you. You need to find yourself and make yourself happy before you can be happy in any relationship. It has taken me a long time to realize that. You need to do for you and not worry about being with anyone, love will find you when you least expect it. If the thought of kissing someone repulses you, there is a reason why. Attraction does grow in time, but usually when you are not expecting it to or trying to force it...hopefully this makes sense to you..lol Just do what you need to do to make yourself happy...I am finally doing that and I am finding myself falling for someone whom I have known for a long time and was never physically attracted to, but the closer we get emotionally the more attracted I am to him....hope this helps a little...

My sister is dating someone right now who she's crazy about and extremely attracted too. She says she's never been with a more sexy guy. But when they first met she didn't even think he was remotely cute and the attraction wasn't really there. As they got to know each other on a deeper level the attraction grew and she said it was like each day that passed the cuter he became and the more she was attracted to him.
So for sure in some cases it takes getting to know the person in the way you only can when you're dating them, and sometimes even then it doesn't work. I think it really depends on how willing you are to look beyond physical appearances to see the person beneath.

First of all, I have to say, it may be your age. When I was a young teenager I was like this as well. Maybe you never grew out of the stupidity. You know, I honestly believe it has something to do with how available the guys are to you. The ones that have "crap" going on seem interesting to you because they have their own 'things. The others have their shit together and are SMART ;) if your smart too youll not wait til your an old lady to realize that you wanted a good life for yourself instead of a bunch of nobodies that will just use you abuse you and ignore you, not giving you the attention, love and affection, let alone spoiling you financially that you deserve. As far as love and attraction 'growing... I know for a fact that this is possible, but only once you can get over your own problems and insecurities. I wasted almost 10 yrs of my life on a nobody... then he died. I decided then that I would not settle for nothing less that I deserve the next time around and you know what... I got him. We have been together for 5 yrs, he loves my kids, is a great role model and support system for them, he spoils me, is there for me, The Works ;) You must ask yourself what you want. If you want a fly by night kind of guy that is retarded and doesnt have his priorities straight then go for it girl lol but I say thats just stupidity

I'm in the same situation as you, sister.
I hope things will change soon enough.