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So, I've done my share of drugs, drinking, sex, and other bad things in life and apparently, the rest of the world knows about it. Everyone always comments on it. They say the meanest things and are constantly making me feel like a piece of crap. People always act like they know my life inside and out, but really they have no idea whatsoever and they act like they haven't done anything bad at all in their lives either. What am I supposed to do with all these haters? :(



If these people can't let your past lay to rest and be there for u to encourage u to rise up, then I say be done with them. You have no room for toxic people in your life. Be proud that you have made the changes for the better. Some people get their kicks off of putting people down to make themselves feel better. They are the ones with the issues now. Best of luck Doll....keep smiling :)

Just keep your head held high. You are not any of those names they call you. If they are your friends, then leave them behind. They wouldn't say mean things like that to you if they were friends. They'd support you. If it is family/friends that are saying this stuff to you, just come clean about how it makes you feel, and maybe explain what was really going on during that time of your life, if you feel comfortable. No one deserves to be put down like that, no matter how many mistakes they've made. We've all been there, done that. I wish I had more advice to give you. :( But I hope they all realize what they are doing. Here's a quote, I thought seemed suitable.

"Who are you to judge the life I live? I know I'm not perfect, and I don't live to be. But before you start pointing fingers, make sure your hands are clean."- Bob Marley

Simply ignore them & do whatever u want, No one is perfect & every one has his own mistakes & experiences however it is good or bad... Those who mind don't matter & those who matter don't mind... Live your life, live it for yourself & never regret what u did only regret what u didn't do... The biggest mistake you'll ever do is not doing a mistake coz then you'll never learn... & no human on earth is supposed to judge your life, it's God's duties after all... Hope u got my point girl =)

Simply ignore them & do whatever u want, No one is perfect & every one has his own mistakes & experiences however it is good or bad... Those who mind don't matter & those who matter don't mind... Live your life, live it for yourself & never regret what u did only regret what u didn't do... The biggest mistake you'll ever do is not doing a mistake coz then you'll never learn... & no human on earth is supposed to judge your life, it's God's duties after all... Hope u got my point girl =)

Come out a stronger person because of this. Accept that, yes, you HAVE done all of what they are saying BUT, you have realized that the path you were on was distructive and catabolic. You tapped into the strenght inside of you to make the change. Take pride in the fact that you are one of the few that have turned your life around.
Own up to your past. Say "yes. you are right. I have done things in my past that I am not proud of but I AM proud of the fact that I realized it was wrong and have conciously taken a different life path. I now know the person I dont want to be. " If they do not have the ability to see this positive turn around in you, then it really is their weakness and ultimately THEY are living with catabolic energy.

Find the anabolic energy in yourself and live in it! The negative people in your life and bad vibes will go away! Good luck to you.

I've been in that position before and even some of my mates now still call me names and say some really nasty things to me. it really upsets me and i dont think they know how much it hurts. If its people that are ment to be your mates saying it, talk to them, tell them that u want to leave it behind and that they should be helping you to do that, not dragging you down. If its people who bearly even know you, then ignor them, they have no idea and there is no way they are perfect either. you might be able to confront them about it and tell them how it is none of their business on what you have or havent done.

at the end of the day, ur past builds up to who you are now. If your not proud of what you've done you learn and change. you become someone you are proud to be. focus on who you are, not who they think you are

You have to own what you've done in your life. Whether it's good or bad, It's not what you've done it's what you do with it or about it. If you are a teen in school then you are gonna have a hard time dealing with it and you're gonna need at least one friend that's willing to be by your side. School is a really F***ed up place now especially if you are not being how others want you to be. You gotta look in the mirror at your self and find the things you like about you and everyone else can step off. And if you are an adult You know you don't have to listen to anything anyone says. You can do this! Stop worrying about other people and worry about what matters most in your life. If you want to hit me up personally I am here for you. But what ever you do just know that if you believe in God He loves you and He will help you with the haters..And if not then You need to know that the Universe loves you if you love your self. So stop put on some blinders on don't see the haters and do you. Love your self and what ever you do and you will get love back..I care about you. I think you are really brave to come on here and say how you feel. So what don't worry the haters are gonna be gone soon..Peace!

sweety, u did wrong and you know that...and you are accepting your mistakes..thats the best thing..i would suggest just don't do all this again..and don't worry...haters keeps on hating just because they have nothing better to do...as it was your mistake, you have to bear them for a while...but trust me .all this would go away and trust me..those people saying all this rubbish doesn' have anything better to do..and they are not even that important..and they don't deserve your attention....so, just relax baby...

don't ruin your present because of your past..

always remember...everyone makes mistake..and it doesn't mean you have no right to live your life your way...life is very short..enjoy it... the world around you will respect you...they just need something to talk about...and right now its you..!!

you realize your mistake and thats the best thing you can do...so, don't give a damn to people who don't care...because the one who truly cares won't let this happen to you...have faith..n alwayz know that evryone makes mistake..its a process of bieng human...one who doesn't is jesus..!!

hope this help..
take care

"In life we will find we will be most grateful for those who have made life most difficult for us."

Prove them wrong, let them be your motivation.

Babe, I'm going through the exact thing right now, and everyoneee in my grade hates me based on a story which they only know about by just looking at it from the outside, no one knows the full story, and I have given up trying to justify what I've done.

Just ignore it all. Only God can judge you, babe. DO NOT let it get to you. F*ck the haters, they can hate allllllll they like, but one day, they're gonna get bored and realise they're wrong...idiotss... :-)

Keeeep ya head up <3 that's what I'm doing!

Hon, things happen. Everyone makes mistakes. Just live your life, and ignore them. Don't go out of your way to try to dispel any rumors, because people are going to forget about them eventually anyway. If you're in high school, just know that in a few years, you'll be moving on and getting a fresh start. If someone says something nasty to your face, feel free to throw it back at them (but don't go overboard; don't insult or anything, just let them know that it bugs you.)

All in all, just find something you enjoy doing and put yourself into it. Having a healthy distraction for this kind of shit is beneficial.

Tell 'em to get lost. If they can't accept the fact that you've changed, and the person you were when you did the whole drugs/drink/sex stuff is no longer you, then they aren't worth your time, effort or acknowledgement. Seriously.
Just don't be evil about it. Don't, like, insult anyone, or anything. You're simply sinking to their level.