not loving him has nothing to do with having an orgasm. You just need to show him what to do to make u have one or show him yourself...i was madly in love with my ex but he never managed to give me an orgasm and now im with someone i dont love half as much and hes able to, very easily. so just tell him not to worry.

Try this website...clitical.com it has a lot of good information and tips to help you individually and for you and your partner.

Try this website...clitical.com it has a lot of good information and tips to help you individually and for you and your partner.

try new things new positions lube etc explore each others fantasies have him give you an orgasm during oral sex and work your way up from there. Try while having sex to picture him as someone from your fantasy, if you get off it doesnt mean you dont love him it just means you need to spice things up

My boyfriend and I have been having sex with 6 months and my orgasms are unpredictable. Sometimes I do and sometimes I don't, but I am ALWAYS satisfied when we're finished. In my opinion it is a matter of how you feel. Are you satisfied? If not, try new things, explore, and get to the point of satisfaction. You need to make sure he knows when you are satisfied, because that's really all that matters (aside from loving one another).

A lot of women can't while having sex, but can other ways.

I wouldn't worry about it. Not all women have orgasms. It also depends on the man you're with. It doesn't mean you don't love him at all. Just try new things with him and see if that works. And if it doesn't fake it. Every woman knows that secret.

A lot of women can't orgasm from sex, they need oral to get off first, it has nothing to do with loving him.

Okay, first of all, having an orgasm is half psychological and half physical. You have to be in the mind set where you can achieve orgasm, meaning you do have to be feeling good, not thinking too much or trying to hard to get one, and not worrying about whether or not you're going to get that and what it means. Secondly, it's not only what you do, but it's what he does physically that first of all sets you up to orgasm and also eventually makes you orgasm. It's science, doll. What the women above are saying is true. Most women don't orgasm and most times it's because they don't know how to. Also, there are two different physical places that need to be touched in order to really orgasm. Now, for some women, only one of those two need to be touched and for others maybe both need to be touched.

Orgasming has absolutely nothing to do with how you feel about the person. Women who have slutty one night stands with guys probably could have more orgasms with fifty strangers than a couple can who have been together for five years. You just have to be willing to orgasm and not worry about it so much. Let it come naturally. But also, it's not all on you. It's not just your responsibility just as it's not all on him either. When you're doing it together, honestly, it is a little bit like team work. Women take longer to warm up where men are usually red hot the moment you turn them on. So if he's done within the first 1-10 minutes, most times that's usually not nearly long enough for a woman to orgasm unless the guy REALLY knows just what to do, which is rare. Most women need a lot of foreplay and most men just want to get straight to the action. We're wired differently, so there needs to be different approaches when it comes to sex with both people. And chances are that you're not going to orgasm every time like he will. Men orgasm a lot more than women, and that is a scientific fact. It's also a fact that orgasm has nothing to do with love. It has to do with SEX.

Also, if your boyfriend is blaming your inability to orgasm on you and claiming that you don't love him because of it, that's him being inconsiderate, selfish, and paranoid. My boyfriend has never once made me orgasm and I've been with him for two years. Neither one of us has yet to figure out how to set me on fire that way just yet. Sometimes it takes practice and sometimes it works right away. However, my boyfriend has never once accused me of not loving him because he orgasms and I don't. Actually, he normally thinks, hmm, I must not be doing something right, I must not be hitting the right spot, how about we try it this way instead and see how that goes. It's very trial and error sometimes. If your boyfriend doesn't like it, then get a new one that won't make you feel bad when you don't orgasm. Firstly, all that's doing is lowering your chances of hitting one; secondly, he's the one participating in the sex too, so he's got to have an equal role in it. Also, maybe you should both take a human sexuality class or even just look a few things up online to learn how to please each other better, maybe read a little cosmo girl or check out their site, cause even though they're a little vague with some things, they do the research and they know what they're talking about.

Stop letting him blame you and take matters into your own hands if need be. Stop feeling sorry for yourself and if you really want to orgasm to prove to him that you do love him -- which is incredibly stupid if you do do that, btw, cause you shouldn't have to be proving yourself to him like that -- then start practicing by masturbating and finding out where exactly your clitoris is and where your G-spot is, those are the two main spots to hit, one is inside your body, one is out, and sometimes people need both to be touched in certain ways or in a certain order in order to orgasm. Take matters into your own hands and educate yourself.

Good luck and I hope you dump his ass if he keeps it up. If he loves you, he wouldn't be doing things that hurt you.

I've never had an orgasm with all eight of the guys i've been with i'm starting to think it's me bc they get off just fine

For me, clitorial orgasms are the easiest for me to get, though sometimes it takes 2mins and sometimes 30mins (iv worked out it basically depends on my mood and if im stressed etc). But the g-spot orgasm used to be elusive, i say "used to' as since I broke up with my boyfriend i invested in a rabbit - and i honestly wish i bought one years ago! It took some practice and finding out where my g-spot was exactly and what kinda of stimulation brought on the desired result (my emotional side still plays a big role, but thats too be expected) but now i have the most amazing orgasms sans the man. But it honestly comes down to knowing your mind and body and then being able to then express what is needed to your partner.

Your partner can make things easier/harder for you - my ex-boyfriend made it very difficult for me to be "playful" in bed and would get defensive about his performance if i suggested we try something new, but then again he was only interested in satisfying himself - after 5months of shall we say boring sex and him not being bothered to eveb try and get me off, fingers or orally, i told him sex was off the table until he made me have an orgasm during foreplay, only then would i stimulate him and we'd have intercourse - it worked but i didnt like having to barter off sexual pleasures in my relationships, and sadly it was the beginning of the end - wasnt the reason, please dont get me wrong, but it did make me open my eyes to other areas of our relationship and when i started asserting myself more confidently...well...we just were'nt meant to be!
sorry digressed there - my point was that with my ex, it wasnt so easy to tell him what i liked/didnt like but iv had past boyfriends where i was more comfortable, and while i wasnt able to achieve the g-spot orgasm, sex was still fun and satisfying!