Question
So how would you ladies feel if your boyfriend is living with this ex just because they have a contract together. He doesn't feel the same for her anymore but she sure does! We have been dating for 8 months they are going to live together for 4 more months but he said if I don't like it he can break the contract what do you think? The contract was for 2 years and it is $2,000 to break it. Well, me and my boyfriend work together and yesterday his ex-girlfriend came up to our job and created a huge scene and somehow got my number and called me twice to tell me some lame crap. She also claims that she is pregnant with his baby which he says is impossible because she is unable to get pregnant because of a health condition and says that if it hasn't happened in 2 years how is it going to happen all of a sudden and he has not had relations with he for almost 10 months. He told her in front of me that he wants he out of the house or he is moving into another apartment and he is not helping her at all with jack $hit. I really really love this guy and I know she is trying to do whatever she can do break us up but I don't think thats going to happen because I really see him in my future. What do you think of all this? Am I wrong or is she wrong or is he wrong? What should I do?
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well he needs to kick her out and you move in or he should move in with you and she can find some other roomate
You've said, " We have been dating for 8 months they are going to live together for 4 more months but he said if I don't like it he can break the contract what do you think? The contract was for 2 years and it is $2,000 to break it."
He's a big boy. If he REALLY wants out, which you've added, "He told her in front of me that he wants he out of the house or he is moving into another apartment and he is not helping her at all with jack $hit." then he can make that decision himself. Your name is not on the lease/contract, so that is not a decision for you to make. Believe me, you will feel a sense of obligation to him later on if you do make that decision for him.
So she got ahold of your phone number? You've got three options.
1) Ignore her.
2) Change your number.
3) File a police report for harassment.
I've done all 3 of these options. The last one is the most effective at getting the point across. You're in a trickier situation because he lives with her so that means if you do this, you would not be able to visit him at home while she is still living there.
As for "Am I wrong or is she wrong or is he wrong? What should I do?"
You're all at fault. They are both wrong for getting you involved in their drama; she should not be calling you or visiting you at work, he should not be offering for/putting pressure on you to make decisions about his money/credit and lease. You're at fault for not already filing a harassment complaint and allowing her to continue contact with you, and for allowing the drama to continue.
I personally think you need to slow the relationship down a bit until he has this mess sorted out.
i dont know how you've put up with that for so long!!... Bless your heart!! ....
Do you have your own place? Cant he just stay with you for a while till his lease is up? so you both win?... You should maybe think about a restraining order against the ex... she seems crazy.. Maybe he should think about one too? im sorry your caught in the middle of all this drama :0(