You won't report it because it might cause DRAMA?! What is wrong with you? You have got to report it! Go get a rape kit, and get the morning-after pill. There is no excuse for what they did and you have no excuse not to report it.

Go to the police immediately, show them the marks, tell them what happened, get your friend to tell them what her boyfriend said, take them to court. What they did to you was sick and wrong. You are NOT at fault.

http://www.feministe.us/blog/archives/2010/03/25/predator-theory/
http://yesmeansyesblog.wordpress.com/2009/11/12/meet-the-predators/

Get help. Get help immediately. These people need to be punished for what they did to you.

Adding:

These people get away with things like this specifically because of the silence of you and women like you. If you don't say anything -- if you don't get them in trouble for this -- they are going to do it again to someone else. Think of how you are feeling. Why would you let these people continue to go free, allowing them to do it again?

As those links above will tell you, the sickos who do things like this are ALWAYS REPEAT OFFENDERS. If you can't call them out for your own sake, then do it for the woman they might attack next.

Drama? well dont you think that what they did to you is drama? Go to the police. Tell them what happened. Go take a tylanol and a longgggggg hot bath. Calm yourself down. But you need to tell the police. These guys are nasty, abusive, sick, dumbass creeps. They need to be punished for what they all did to you. Its completely violating and wrong. Go to the cops honny...its the best thing to do. They will go rape more women if they arnt stopped now.

I agree you need to report it. Get a rape kit and get the morning after pill. It was an awful thing that they did to you and not reporting it will drive you crazy. You need to tell the cops so they can get those jerks and keep away from girls who are vulnerable like that. Who knows, they can do it again with another girl. You need to stop it while you can. You will not feel normal for a while and you trusting people will be hard. You will just have to give it time. You must report it though!

I agree with everyone else posting on here. Who cares about if it causes drama? You were raped. It doesn't matter if you were drunk or not, they took advantage of you and raped you.

You need to call the police and go to the gyno. You need to take care of yourself and make sure everything is okay, and you need to let the police know what happened. Take pictures of the bruises and cuts immediately, before they fade. So many guys get away with raping people, just because the victims are too scared or embarrassed. You need to stand up and say something, not just for you, but for the other women they'll rape in the future. You need to get them behind bars where they belong, before they hurt another innocent woman.

I'm so sad about what happened to you! I can't even imagine what it feels like, and I think that nobody should have to ever experience it. What you need to do now is take a deep breath. What those boys did to you was wrong. In every way. Not only did they violate your personal privacy and hurt you, they broke the law. They need to be stopped, becaus chances are they will do it again to some other girl. Rape is a serious crime, especially since you were passed out.
Is there anyone you could talk to? A friend, a relative, a teacher or a nurse at school? You need to see a doctor and go to the police. They won't call your parents or tell anyone you saw them, so you'll be safe. It doesn't matter if you don't know which four boys were the guilty ones, it's the polices' job to find out what happened.
I know you're scared and you feel like you just want to hide somewhere and never talk about this to anyone. You've been through horrible things and you have a right to feel that way. I believe you're strong and you will get over it all. Someday, how far away that may be, you'll be able to love and trust people again. But for now, try to find just a little courage within you and call someone. Earlier you deal with the situation, the easier it is to solve. I don't mean to scare you, but there's always the possibility that one or more of the boys had STD's. And since there was no protection, you'll need to make sure you're not pregnant.
I wish you lots of strength! Remember, you did nothing wrong and it's not your fault. They're the guilty ones and they need to be punished. Don't let them get away with what they did!!

You were most likely drugged as well. I agree they should be punished. You shouldbe compensated and they need to be dragged through the mud. they are not respectable upstanding people and EVERYONE needs to know this. they need to be humiliated and be made to understand that what they did is unacceptable. If you do not do this you will regret it later. Trust me I know. If there is one thing I could go back and do, it would be to make the person who did this to me reponsible for doing this to me. It will be hard and may even make you feel worse for a bit, but in the long run and in your future when you look back you can say "I stood up, I did what needed to be done, and they were in the wrong, and I made them be responsible for their own actions." This is not your fault honey, you were trusting and they took advantage of you. Time will heal, but the wound will not if you do not stand up.

The same thing happened to me 3 weeks ago..... I met the guy on here and we had been out a few times!!!! I had only had 2 very small drinks and the next thing I knew I woke up in bed completely naked and he was in the shower. To make it worse a friend of his appeared from the spare room!!! He also stole possessions from my home (not a lot but still)... I havent been to the police for a few reasons - I am so ashamed, embarrassed and feel so completely stupid, Also as I have seen/had sex with this guy before why would they believe me????? I want to report him to stop him doing this to other girls (am guessing i probably wasnt the first) but just dont think anything would be done and that would make me feel worse that i do - if that is possible!!!!!!!!!

You may not like the idea of going to the police and reporting this. But, you really really should. What if these guys who raped you, raped one of your other friends? It would really help SO many women out there that can be their next target. And, if you report it, you can slightly lower that risk.
There is no need to feel ashamed. You weren't even aware of this until the next morning.

But what you've got to do, is report it. Take photos of your bruises and scratches. Go the the guno. Take an STD test [Just to be on the safe side.]
Over time, it will heal. Indeed, it'll be awhile. But it still will. It's not your fault. You trusted that guy, and he took advantage of you.

I'm very very sorry to hear something has happened to you. I hope you get through it okay. Just do the right thing, whatever that is to you.

Its either you say some or you don't. If It were me I would tell everyone that would listen. It wasn't consentual sex. It was Rape.
They never asked you what you wanted. It was Rape.
You were passed out. It was rape. Name everyone at the party.
It doesn't matter who they are now. It was Rape.

Whether they were friends or not. they weren't watching out for you. They were cowards. It was Rape.
Please say something to the police. It is your right to say something, to scream as loud as you can. You never in any way asked for this to happen. They violated you in the worst possible way. And go to the doctor to seek advice. What if you have STD's?
Its your responsibility to have yourself checked out, to be safe.
My heart goes out to you! I hope you can find peace soon.
It wasn't your fault. Please say something! You need help with this.

With all due respect to previous comments it is not until you have been through something like this you understand and know how this poor woman is feeling and how scared she is. I went through a VERY similar situation through my liefe! When i was 15 i had my virginity taken through rape of a family friend he was 63 and it was forced on me also 2 years ago I was just turned 18 and I went out drinking with two male 'friends' whom I had known since I was small. I'd been going out drinking ages and could handle alcohol and that night did not drink much at all. I remember feeling ill and asking one of my 'friends' to call me a taxi, after that everything is black. I remember waking up at possibly the worst time i could have and felt stiff i couldnt move any of my body and then everything went black again. I woke up unclothed and sore with my 'friends' next to me. I got up left and have never spoken to them again. I did not report it and never will as i dont want to, it took me a very long time to get over this on my own but i would rather have done that than put my family and me through any court and the rest that comes with it. I never trusted men until my boyfriend came along a year ago and everything felt right with him. Im not saying do not report it but everyone deals with things differently and thats how i chose to deal with mine. Those men should be punished well they should be hung for what they did, but people deal with things in different ways, myself i choose to deal with things alone which isnt always good but its me. I really hope you do the right thing and you get closure because honestly one day things do get better, you are an amazing lovely woman and will meet someone who deserves you one day. People will say furture women etc and thats unfair to you it is NOT your fault and you do not deserve it but please listen to yourself, take time and think about what you want to do i am more than sure your family will understand (mine are very difficult!) but always do whats best for you. I really hope everything works out for you xxx

another comment here from me. This happens every single day to so many women. You are not alone. It is a crime. A very horrible crime. The only thing you did wrong is you trusted the wrong people. And you drank to much. You made a coupe mistakes. Its o.k. We all have done this a few times. You in no way asked to be violated in such away.
You do need to seek medical attention though. You need to say something. These cowards need to be brought to justice. For your sake and maybe for your friends. Please take care of yourself. try to hold your head high. You have nothing to be ashamed of. Not at all.

u shuld tell ur parents o sumone who can help u and press charges! who cares!! wat ppl think! altough i never experienced that but my heart goes to you and i will keep yu in my prayers.get medical attention morning after pill take papsmere go to ur local planned parenthood.dont be scared!! sty stronggg

As horrible as it seems, you probably need to go to your doctor and get checked out. And you need to go to the police. You might not know which four guys did what to you, but you do know someone who does. And he and his friends NEED to be turned in or they will do something like this again. You did nothing wrong. They did this terrible thing to you when you couldn't say no or fight back. I think something that would be really good for you, would be to take a self defence class. Also, find someone that you feel you can confide in. Don't act like nothing ever happened, by doing that you will just be giving those bastards power over you and by hiding from it or pushing it down deep, you'll just be making it harder to move forward. By doing something to bring these boys to justice, would not be creating more drama, what they did was a violent illegal act, and this supposed "friend" is just as responsible as they are. You should not be ashamed because of what they did to you. If anything get angry, and make this "friend" and his buddies take responsibility for what they did to you! I have a friend that was date raped, and I'm possibly the only one she has ever told. And the guy was never turned in. I think the fact that she's never really be able to talk about it, or really face it has really messed up her life. This happens to a lot of women everyday, and it is nothing you should be ashamed of, or blame yourself for. Put the blame where it belongs. This was not your fault.

I know right now you might feel scared, alone, confused & don't know how to start over again but telling someone is the first step to starting over again. It takes time to re-adjust yourself again & move forward. Your a strong person & I can see it because you got the courage to put your foot in front of the other & continued walking down your path. Believe me if your causing drama for those sicko's then they deserved it! It's not your fault & don't feel ashamed. Sad to say these things happen to alot of people..including myself. If you stay in cooped up in your house then its basically showing them sicko's that your letting them get to you. Press charges, go to court do whatever you got to do to make sure these sicko's get put where they belong...behind bars! You stay strong honey & my prayers go out to you.

I was 13 when I was raped, virginity stolen. I lived in an arab country (ex-pats) and couldnt report it because I could have been beheaded. this was 14 years ago. Seriously if you wont be prosecuted or beheaded because of stupid laws that blame the woman for being rapped (only because I was an American girl and there for was a whore by nature so NBD to them). 3 guys, 2 teens and an old man, probably as old as my dad.

Report it for me, please! Please! I never got the justice I deserved and would have pressed charges. Do it for me and you and women like us.

everyone is telling you to report it, but i assume you don't want too because this would include facing those boys, including your family, friends, etc.. but honey life is about facing your fears. if you can do that than your a true winner. go on and report as soon as possible. they will pay for what they did to you, and they won't do it again. once you reported it, it's only a matter of time. you will move on. but if you don't report it, you'll always have this huge gap in you, you'd always feel insecure. so face your fears! i wish you lots of luck, and it would be nice if you tell us how it goes. xx

I understand your point of view. I know it seems hard right now, but all those things that you think you've lost have not been taken from you. I think you should talk to the counselor. I understand you choice not to talk to turn them in, due to my friend having a similar look on her own rape situation. I disagree, but I understand that it's your choice.

Your family should understand. It will hurt to talk about at first, but it will get easier. The pain is still very fresh for you. But, your family is there to support you. I come from a strong religious background so I understand the pressure, but in the end, it's not about religion. It's about being there for each other. This won't break your family apart, unless one of the guys was a family member. So, don't let that hang you up. In the end, you didn't consent to have this done. Your "friend" betrayed your trust and took advantage of the situation. Your family will have to understand that.

For now, surround yourself with people that you love and who truly care about you, like family and your best friend. Also, if you believe in God, take it to Him and seek comfort there. It will take some time for your trust to be rebuilt. I don't know you personally, but I feel that you are stronger than this situation, don't let this shape who you are. It will take a while to rebuild your sense of self after this horrible incident, but take time to relax and someday, hopefully soon, you'll be able to walk out with your head held high again. Don't let douches like that hold you back!

I'll keep you in my prayers.

Hey, I'm not strictly religious and I've never been raped, BUT I have felt the way you have before. A couple years ago, I had an abusive(sexually and emotionally) boyfriend. I was insanely depressed and thought about killing myself to get away from it all, but somehow I had the balls to tell my mom to take me to the doctor for my mood swings(which was really depression). They put me on anti-depressants and made me go to a counselor.

I HATED it. I thought the counseling was the worst part. My counselor was heavily accented and couldn't really empathize with me. But guess what? Even though I hated seeing her and talking about my problems and getting choked up(I hate crying in front of people), it helped. I realized that it wasn't me with all the problems, it was my boyfriend(he doesn't even deserve to be called that) who was putting me down.

Eventually I started opening up to people about what happened. Nobody judged me. Not my family, not my friends, not even people who didn't know me then but do now. If anything, I wish I could go back in time and cause a ruckus for that asswipe to clean up. Instead, he graduated, went away to college and got away with everything. I'll never forget as hard as I've tried.
What I'm trying to say is yes, counseling sucks. But you went through a terrible thing, what's a little bit more of rough patch before a beautiful rainbow at the end? The only people who'd be humiliated would be those boys. The humiliation for you would stop. Who can laugh at you? Nobody. Nobody but those boys if you don't say something.

It'll be hard. Who said it wouldn't be? I also understand that religion in your family is a high priority and that your fear maybe bringing up your situation would somehow make you a terrible person. Darling, it wouldn't. I go to school with strictly religious girls. Muslims, Christians, whatever. If any of them had to go through what you went through, I would fight for every right to bring their attackers to justice. I can also understand that they may not want that to happen because of their religious priorities, but why should their families be left out? Your family loves you. Nothing can keep them from doing that, not even you being taken advantage of. They'd support you through every step of the way. I'd also like to say that if you think you can take on all your problems by yourself, it's definitely a lot easier to do it with the people you love most. Turning these people in would give you back the courage and strength you need. Talking with people definitely helps too. I don't want you to feel like you're alone in a world where people like them can think nobody else knows so they can just do it over and over. If you don't say something, those boys will never know what they did was wrong and they'll keep hurting girls. Is not taking that month(maybe less/more) really worth a lifetime of lying to people about your first and that memory stuck in your head?

Alrighty, I'd really like you to take action and empower yourself in doing so, but the decision is ultimately up to you. Please rethink your decision and do the right thing.

With love from Dearborn, Michigan.

Whatever you decide, you need to look at the fact you mentioned that this is not the first time. You need to stop putting yourself in situations where this can occur and at least talk to a therapist. Also, much can be learned if you would please visit the link I give you and read up and learn fast. I wish you the best.

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Have any of you ever been raped? It's not that easy to just go to the cops and report it. And don't ask her what's wrong with her. This is a serious and terrible thing.
OP, if you need someone to talk to and get advice from, go to www.rapeisneverjustified.org. They helped me when I went through similar things.

you have to tell someone that way you can go to the cops and report it this is a serious matter that you need to handle or go to a counsler and see what happens when u talk to a counsler about what you went through