If you can, take a vacation, or move. I was told my a therapist (yes it was that bad!) when I said I want to run away, I just want to get out of here and away from everything. She said "what's stopping you?" I was shocked I was expecting to hear you cant run away from your problems, but she said that some problems you can run away from, they'll still be there but the healing time is much faster....
A few quotes that I would tell myself when I had a broken heart

...this too shall pass

If he's stupid enough to walk away, be smart enough to let him go.

Time heals all.

Don't compromise yourself. You are all you've got.

Eventually we will find that we can be very grateful to those people who have made life most difficult for us

And my favorite....
REMEMBER:If you ever need a helping hand, you will find one at the end of each of your arms. As you grow older you will find that you have two hands; one for helping you and one for helping others!
For attractive lips, speak words of kindness. For lovely eyes, seek out the good in people. For a slim figure, share your food with the hungry. For beautiful hair, let a child run their fingers through it once a day. For poise, walk with the knowledge that you never walk alone. People, even more than things have to be restored, renewed, revived, reclaimed, and redeemed; never throw out anyone.

My ex broke up with me in July and I was devastated for the entire summer to where i stayed in my room for entire summer doing NOTHING. We were together for 2 years and 7 months.I skipped showers and I rotted in my room all 3 months, crying myself to sleep, and saying exactly what you were saying there. I went out a couple of times but nothing helped it heal. the breakup itself was dragged out until September. I missed out on going to my dream college and not getting my license because I was so upset that I couldn't keep my head straight. I went completely crazy over him and I finally got over him after we stopped talking and I decided to start relying on myself for my own happiness instead of him. I ended up going out with 11 guys before I met my new boyfriend.
Believe me, you never truly get over it when it is your first love.But just because he is your first love, doesn't meant that he will always be your last. I know you probably don't want to hear that but it's true.When you start investing more into yourself and the world around you again, that's when the healing begins.
And even if you do see him sometimes and talk to him, don't let it get to you. I know I don't know the reason why he broke it off with you but at least he isn't looking for someone else either. Maybe he needs to fix some things in his own life. But maybe once he sees that you're taking time for you, maybe he'll start to realize what he missed out on. But that's up to him, not you. If it doesn't work out, it doesn't work out. I know it's not as easy as it sounds because it isn't. But you can't let it eat you up like that. I can never forget him, but I'm putting him in the past. I know its different for because he still contacts you, but you gotta keep him out of your head.

So all I can tell you is this, keep up with your social life and keep your mind focused on things that don't relate to him and matter to you. Keep your head focused on school and work. Take a vacation if you can. Go out shopping. Find a new hobby. Anything at all. If you don't feel like you're ready to date, then don't. Do what makes you happy.
I know I'm basically telling you to walk around with a smile on your face while you're probably broken inside. But at this point, you can either wait for him and let life pass you by (whether it works out or not) or you can keep yourself single and happy. Being single doesn't always mean you're looking! It's your life.

It doesn't matter how long it takes to get over it, as long as you get it over. It can take a month or 5 years but that's up to you. You have to let time heal you no matter how painful it will be. I hope my words have helped you in some way. I wish you all the luck in the world and if you want to, message me on here if you need any help.

it took me almost two years to get over my 'first love', i didn't think i would be affected so badly - i thought about him every single day and even the most mundane things like walking to class I would be absolutely devastated and down just on a really low low buzz. it was a terrible long time and i felt that there must be something wrong with me for missing him for that long, until one day i told myself i just could not do it anymore that i had to run away and hide somewhere far away where even if i did miss him at least he wasn't in the same city. - i booked flights to overseas and spent three months in a seaside town. its easier to miss someone when you are far away from them because it makes you feel empowered that you can infact get away from them and move on and do your own thing (even if obviously they don't even think about you anymore!) You know what they say 'when a heart breaks no it don't break even' and it is so true. Anyway back to the point, after three months resting and recuperating and letting go i returned a new woman:) One of the most important things I had to do was to forgive myself for letting it affect my life in such a bad way, and to forgive myself for being so niaive and young. it sounds hard but I stood on the beach one day and just let it all go. i still think about him sometimes, but now it isn't an all-consuming despair and I am loving life - there are so many possibilties out there:)
All the best hun xx

if its getting so hard for you maybe just for a while you should stop those monthly talks, you dont need them and it helps loads if you just dont know about him because it will stop with the constant thinking of him. thats what i did and it was prabably thehardest thing i ever had to do but i just HAD to do it to get over him. now i hardly think of him but if i do its just remembering the time we spent and i never feel any regrets except all that time i wasted me life crying after him. it will get better you just need time.
xxx

If he doesn't feel the same for you, then you should really think about...stop seeing him. If it hurts you so much to be around this guy...then maybe its time to back off...and stop seeing him. I think you might have to see a counsler about this...someone who can help you get therapy before your unconcious obessession thickens.
Don't be afraid to ask for help...Going on this site and posting for help shouldn't be your first resort. You need professional help...because you are going through clinical depression.
Crying every night...and unable to keep a relationship is more than just heart break...is unconcious obessession and depression.
You really need to seek professional help.
Swallow your pride and admit you need help. I hope this helps.

It has taken me three years to get over my first love but when we first broke up I ended up going to Kentucky for an entire summer to just get away, we ended up shutting each other out of lives completely of course I have dated many guys after him. Go take a vacation or even if you have to move. I thought that I still cared for him all this time still but this past valentine's day he came back into my life and it was then when I realized how big of a jerk he really was/is. He didn't deserve to even get to know the new me and he definitely did not deserve to have my heart again. You need to just shut him out stop talking to him completely. There is a reason why some things that you thought were good come to end. It's not going to be easy though, trust me I know but you are going to find someone so much better. Yeah I know your probably thinking "yeah right no one can compare to him" and yes that is true he is someone you will always love and have some sort of feelings for just because of the fact that y'all did love each other. But that doesn't mean that you shouldn't get up and move on. In the years down the road your going to look back and realize a lot of things that you don't know now. So just be happy. Live life. Fall in love with someone else and give them your whole heart (which I know is going to be extremely hard but do it anyways). You aren't promised tomorrow so make today count. Eventually he'll regret ever letting you go and when he does let him keep on regretting it. He doesn't deserve how awesome you truly are! Everything is going to get better I promise you :)