Question
I cannot stand my boyfriend's best friend. He is rude, immature and disrespectful. I cannot understand why my boyfriend is even friends with him when he does not know how to treat people respectively. I have explained to my boyfriend that I do not like how his friend acts sometimes, but he says he cannot do anything about it. What do I do?
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I've been in a situation like this before. I know it's hard, but you can't change his best friend or the fact that your boyfriend and him are best friends. My suggestion: if you have to be around him, just try to be polite. If you can avoid being around him, then do.
I was in this situation for almost two years, and simply put it was hard. The worst part was feeling like my boyfriend at the time didn't care. And although it wasn't true it didn't make it any easier. I got to a point where I told my boyfriend that although I was fine with them being friends, I would no longer be around his best friend. And although that limited our time a little bit it made things better. If you chose that option you have to be firm and clear with it, don't back down. You shouldn't have to be around a person you don't like, but if you are around him be polite. Its the only choice you have, outside of leaving your boyfriend. Good luck though.
Thank you. It is hard to deal with this, his friend is just a jerk and my boyfriend knows it because he says so himself. It is amazing how much patience I have with him (the friend).
In all honesty your boyfriend should respect your opinion and keep his "best friend" out of the social calendar with you. If his best friend's lack of balance in respect is tarnishing your relationship with your boyfriend then honestly...you just need to stay away from that one friend...Just understand that people are like mirrors sometimes...what you reflect from yourself will be relfected to you.
Lordy we've all been then m'dear. You're stuck between a rock and a hard place because you want to be happy and able to relax (which you don't seem to be able to do in the friend's company) but at the same you want your boyfriend to happy with his mates and not sound too whingy or something.
However, you don't have to see your boyfriend when he's with this friend (unless they room together) and you should make time apart for you two, cutting down the time you see this friend until it's almost bearable.
Failing that, tell the friend how his behaviour makes you uncomfortable (in as forceful a manner as you deem fit). Or get your boyfriend to have a quiet word.
Either way, good luck!