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at 12:05am on: July 7, 2010
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I am 20, and about to transfer to my 4-year University! (Woot Woot). Ever since I can remember I have always been that quiet kid who has been an outcast for a number of reasons. I had little friends and to this day I only talk to 2 people everyday. When I moved at 12 I said that I wanted to reinvent myself. I was starting middle school, no one knew me since I was in a new town, I could start fresh. But no one really put forth effort to befriend me even though I was usually friendly and social. Same happened in high school. It was the exact opposite as my brother, people we always attracted to him, and he had plenty of friends. I am usually a social butterfly around my friends and can be a very funny, very social person among THEM, but am HUGELY socially awkward and shy by myself. I don't want to be the "two friend having girl" in college. I want to get out there, have fun, be social, go to parties where I don't know anyone but leaving having everyone's number!

Does anyone have tips on how I can gain self-esteem or become more social? I know SELF-ESTEEM comes from yourself but any tips are welcomed.

I really want to reinvent myself.






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at 12:44am on: July 7, 2010
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Try joining a club that has an interest to YOU; it's a good start to finding friends, because those people already have a similar interests.

at 12:50pm on: July 7, 2010
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Here are some tips:
*If you are living on campus, reach out to your floor mates and roommates. *A lot of schools have transfer mixers and I highly recommend going to that and any other welcome activities. *Join a club or sorority that fits YOU best *Go to class early the first couple of days and talk to those around you.

I understand being scared starting new but what I found helped me the most when I was reinventing myself was truly becoming more comfortable with myself.

Good Luck with your upcoming school year!

at 8:12pm on: July 7, 2010
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Definitely connect with those who have similar interests. It's scary going to a new place. I was a bit of an outcast for the first month, but then I met my friends I have now, simply by being brave and sitting next to a girl I'd only met once by total accident at dinner one day. The two of us clicked and then another girl one of my other friends introduced us to joined and then we just became really good friends. Don't be afraid to table hop. Meals are a great opportunity to meet people you'd wouldn't meet otherwise. Just be yourself and be open. It sounds like you've got the bravery thing down, so just let your personality shine through.