Confront him or her about it, and TRY to be calm about the conversation. That's what I have had to do a couple a time or two before, and it sucks every time. But this time, I caught my boyfriend sending nude photos to one of his guy "friends" (I then found out that he was Bisexual, and has been having sex with this guy the entire time we were dating). But, confront your partner about it, and try to work things out. But, not every situation can work out for the better, and sometimes that is a good thing later on.
When I found out my boyfriend was cheating on me, there were many things I wanted to do. None involved working out a relationship with him. If while dating for 2 years he could not remain faithful, I certainly wasn't about to try and spend my life with him. There were a lot of vindictive things that went through my mind. Instead I chose to take the high road and just end things with him. He called me that night and I just simply told him to never call me or try to speak to me again. It didn't take him long to figure out that I knew and would not give him another chance. Since then I have found happiness with a man who I never would have found if I have given the cheater a second chance.
Ask them to explain themselves and see what they say. Unless they have a reason why it's all a big misunderstand that can be confirmed 100% then dump them and cut them out of your life.
If they cheat once and you take them back then it's saying that cheating is A-OK.
when i found out my ex was cheating i broke up with him, changed the locks & shoved all of his $hit into trash bags which i threw in the garage for him to pick up.
i don't mess around.
In my opinion, and in a situation like this, you shouldn't let your emotions take hold of you. I realise you feel hatred and anger, but you shouldn't let it get to you.
If my boyfriend ever cheated on me, I'd just take a step back, and ask him about it. You can't be too sure, there's always two sides to a story, you can't judge without hearing his first. Unless you caught him in bed with another person. That's always what it looks like.
But, yeah, I completely agree with "Once a cheater, always a cheater".
I don't believe you should try and mend this, but just find out the whole story, or you're gonna think about it non-stop later on and it might make you crazy; why did he cheat on me?!
Unless he's some jerk with a history of cheating, and if it was, you should have never bothered in the first place. :)
But just find out WHY, then you'll never spend your time thinking and wondering...
I think I tolerated more when I was single, than now that I am married. When I was single, it wasn't uncommon for me to play the field, looking for Mr. Right. Married, you don't play that game. Boyfried/Girlfriend situations are just so sticky sometimes. no borders, no definitions, open, closed, blah blah blah....If your partner is cheating, does he realize you two are exclusive? has he told you that he wants a monogamous relationship? ask him how he would feel if you went sleeping around. bet he would blow a gasket. More than likely, he wants you to be exclusive, but wants side dishes as well. that is what we call a pig. oink oink.
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Confront him or her about it, and TRY to be calm about the conversation. That's what I have had to do a couple a time or two before, and it sucks every time. But this time, I caught my boyfriend sending nude photos to one of his guy "friends" (I then found out that he was Bisexual, and has been having sex with this guy the entire time we were dating). But, confront your partner about it, and try to work things out. But, not every situation can work out for the better, and sometimes that is a good thing later on.
When I found out my boyfriend was cheating on me, there were many things I wanted to do. None involved working out a relationship with him. If while dating for 2 years he could not remain faithful, I certainly wasn't about to try and spend my life with him. There were a lot of vindictive things that went through my mind. Instead I chose to take the high road and just end things with him. He called me that night and I just simply told him to never call me or try to speak to me again. It didn't take him long to figure out that I knew and would not give him another chance. Since then I have found happiness with a man who I never would have found if I have given the cheater a second chance.
I agree whole heartedly. Save yourself the grief of asking why. Why doesn't matter and it wont make it easier..
Ask them to explain themselves and see what they say. Unless they have a reason why it's all a big misunderstand that can be confirmed 100% then dump them and cut them out of your life.
If they cheat once and you take them back then it's saying that cheating is A-OK.
when i found out my ex was cheating i broke up with him, changed the locks & shoved all of his $hit into trash bags which i threw in the garage for him to pick up.
i don't mess around.
I agree with this one. Once a cheater, always a cheater.
dump him
In my opinion, and in a situation like this, you shouldn't let your emotions take hold of you. I realise you feel hatred and anger, but you shouldn't let it get to you.
If my boyfriend ever cheated on me, I'd just take a step back, and ask him about it. You can't be too sure, there's always two sides to a story, you can't judge without hearing his first. Unless you caught him in bed with another person. That's always what it looks like.
But, yeah, I completely agree with "Once a cheater, always a cheater".
I don't believe you should try and mend this, but just find out the whole story, or you're gonna think about it non-stop later on and it might make you crazy; why did he cheat on me?!
Unless he's some jerk with a history of cheating, and if it was, you should have never bothered in the first place. :)
But just find out WHY, then you'll never spend your time thinking and wondering...
I think I tolerated more when I was single, than now that I am married. When I was single, it wasn't uncommon for me to play the field, looking for Mr. Right. Married, you don't play that game. Boyfried/Girlfriend situations are just so sticky sometimes. no borders, no definitions, open, closed, blah blah blah....If your partner is cheating, does he realize you two are exclusive? has he told you that he wants a monogamous relationship? ask him how he would feel if you went sleeping around. bet he would blow a gasket. More than likely, he wants you to be exclusive, but wants side dishes as well. that is what we call a pig. oink oink.