Question
Is love worth the risk? Even when it doesn't seem like it could work? Here's the situation: I've been seeing this guy for about 5 months, and we're both starting to get really into each other. I wouldn't say we're "in love" but I can definitely see it happening soon. The problem is that we're in two very different places in our lives. He's 11 years older than me with a daughter and a career. I'm just starting a long road of studying to be a vet and start my career. Ultimately, we have very
different lifestyles in mind, different interests and views. Because of our particular situation, he has recently become a bit hesitant to take our relationship to the next level for fear of getting hurt. When is different too different? Is love worth risking getting hurt? And if two people are in love, does the situation, the age difference, the lifestyles etc. even matter?
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I'd like to believe that there are a million reasons why people shouldn't be together and why they don't work out. However, there is really only one reason why you would be together and make it work- that is, if you truly love each other.
Of course, finding out if you can have true love is what it's all about. You have to take they risk many times before you find it. So don't back out now. If it is true love then you will miss out if you don't take the chance. And the worst thing that could happen if you do take the risk is that it doesn't work out.
it's worth it! and you both can have different life styles. as long as you can see eye to eye and both want to make it work. it works as long as you both work at it.
Now you have to look at this on two different sides. One being the age level you have to bring yourself to...Are you mature enough to be with a man with a career and a kid?
Think of it this way, you are litterally placing yourself into a situation where you don't only need to fall in love with him, but also his daughter-because you're going to be in her life as a mother like figure. Can you manage that? I dont think anyone can answer this question honestly without getting to know you and this guy more.
Because we can say that it will work, yeah! Diversity is good in a relationship because it bring controvery in conversations-but...we don't know how different you both are based on the written information you have given.
What i do advise is...that you make a list of things you like and dislike about the relationship. Weigh the pros and cons.
Then fit it in your plans for life. Does this collide or ride?
You don't stop your life to make yourself fit in for a man. He needs to fit perfectly naturally.
I know..there's a lot of what ifs in your mind and you're telling yourself to wait some more to see how things turn out- you want to give it a chance...Regardless if two people are in love or not-there are a lot things that can be overcomed and then there are a lot of things that just don't let things work.
Think about it....and discuss this with him.