these things take time - and each time is different from any others you've experienced. No one can tell you how to do it, either. I'm in the same situation myself, and I certainly feel your pain. One thing I do know - it's probably way too early for you to be dating again. It would be totally unfair to the other person, and you'll only be comparing him all the time. My advice: wallow in it for a while! Cry your heart out. Eat a gallon of ice cream one day, and go climb a mountain the next day. Write letters to him (knowing full well that you'll never actually send them) and tell him everything you're feeling. Build bird houses. Paint your front door red. Pierce your eyebrow! Most of all, remember all the good times you had, and all the reasons why you fell in love with him in the first place. That man will always be in your heart - the one that left you has already gone.

You must have some kind of goal to aspire to, say getting in great shape doing martial arts, getting your Master's degree, a new job, etc... go for what makes your heart sing (unrelated to him) and you will find your way on to a better life. Dont settle for less!

It will take time. it's different for everybody. Going out with guys is a bad idea. I broke many hearts not being able to open up enough and would freak out when it started to get serious. Take your own time. It's okay to talk about it too, but eventually you have to stop whining about it and telling your friends how you feel. It sucks, but people aren't going to always be there and will start to get annoyed. But it's 100% okay to feel upset and take a long time to get over someone.

You do have to learn to love yourself first though. You can't fully love someone else if you're not happy with yourself. Finish college or find a hobby or passion. Focus on YOU. Not other boys or him. YOU. Find peace first and then you can move on!!!!

I felt the same way until I put every he ever gave me away and it made a big difference. Delete his number and name from your phone. Don't speak to him for 3 months and go out on the dates even though your heart isn't into it. Eventually you will be able to breathe again and move on properly.

Just wallow for a bit. There's nothing wrong with that. It will eventually get easier. We've all been through a bad break up or been hurt by a guy. So do what you love and focus on the awesome things in your life. Don't call him or contact him in any way if you can. It makes it easier to get over someone when you don't see or talk to them. It also keeps you from saying things you may regret later when you get to the mad phase. Just give yourself time. I personally wouldn't date, just because you're not at a point, from what I can tell, that it would fair to either you or your date. Have girls nights and go out with friends. Stay at home with a good book or a video game you like. Indulge in brownies and ice cream. Go for a run or try a new sport or hobby. Just enjoy the things you love about life, things that he has no sway upon. Sometimes you just need to find something else to occupy your time. You need to focus on you. A guy isn't going to make or break you.

Just today I went through a break-up with my boyfriend and I'm over it already, because, while we had something special, it just wasn't worth being upset over.
I feel really bad because I'm so unsympathetic about this sort of thing, and when it happens, I seek sympathy.
All I can say is that there are plenty of *special* fish in the sea that you might have had something special with you, but theres only one out there that really counts, and he's out there. But he's just not your ex-boyfriend.