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Hello. I am in desperate need of help. Well actually it is my parents who need the help. They are both alcoholics. They drink every night and consume at least 3 bottles of wine together, a night. I live at home with them. My dad gets very angry when he’s drunk and my mom gets very emotional and weepy when she is drunk. It is a bad combination and a toxic situation for a child to be in. I am not a child any more but I am THEIR child even though I am 27 years old. My brother and sister have both left home, just to get away from this. My brother was so anxious to leave that he joined the Navy just so he’d have a place to live, away from them. My sister got a scholarship and went to college out of state. She now lives three hours from us and rarely comes home because of this. My parents drive intoxicated and I worry that they will hurt themselves or others. One time, when I was a teenager, my sister and I had to carry mom out of a party because she was so drunk and she fell down when she tried to walk. My brother, sister and I have gone through this for so long. It seems like our parents’ drinking has just gotten worse. I want to know if anyone knows of a support group the three of us (my sister, brother and I) or just myself can join? Or an organization for children of alcoholics or a group of people who have loved ones who are addicted to alcohol. I live in Nashville, TN. I want so badly to move out and just get out of this situation but I know they need me. It is so hard to come to the realization that I need to be more responsible than my parents. My dad falls down at least three times a week when he drinks and I have to help him up and get him to bed. If I move out, I won’t be here to take care of them if one of them hurts themselves so bad that they need to go to the hospital. I am hanging by a thread and need to talk to and/or be around people who understand my position other than my siblings. If anyone knows of a place I can go to get that, I would appreciate if you would comment and let me know. If any one knows of a place I can get THEM help, please tell me. I know an intervention will not go over well at all since they cannot admit they have a problem but maybe that is what it will take. If you have any information on that or how to go about that, please tell me. They are out of control and if someone doesn’t do something soon, they will kill themselves. I am crying while I write this. Please someone help me. Anyone.
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You should Google it. I do not know of any place but im pretty sure if you Google it you will find something in your area. Im sorry this is happening but i know everything will be fine if you keep your head up. You are not alone, God is with you. God bless you and your family.
My father is an alcoholic also. I was ashamed to tell anyone for the longest time but when I was 15 I told my best friend, he told me about Al-Anon. It is a nation wide suport group for family and loved ones of alcoholics. Im 21 now and still got to meetings twice a month over the years they taught me how to deal and cope with his drinking, they also taught me how to talk to my father and how his drinking affected my and our family's life. He got help a few years ago, life isnt perfect but it is better. you can call 1-888-4AL-ANON (1-888-425-2666) Monday through Friday, 8:00am to 6:00pm ET to find a meeting. You said you live in TN so here is the Al-Anon website for your state http://www.tn-al-anon.org/Nashville__TN.html the web-site has several meeting locations for Nashville. I hope this helps.
Thank you so much for your help. It is nice to know that I am not the only one going through this. I looked at that link and a lot of those locations are very easy to get to from where I live! Thank you so much. I'm glad Al-Anon has helped you and that you still go to them 6 years later. That gives me a lot of hope. Thank you so, so much.