Question
I recently moved to a different state for an amazing internship opportunity. During this time I met many amazing people. 2 weeks before I was suppose to leave my internship a coworker and I got a little flirty. One night we all went out and we just completely hit it off. I have never had a guy make me laugh so hard before. We then proceeded to spend the last 2 weeks I was there together. (He even met my parents) So the kicker is our age gap is 15 years...I guess what I'm trying to get at is does age really matter? Also, I have an opportunity to transfer schools back down there. I'm just totally torn and don't know if this is moving too fast. We both are completely for eachother right now, but we've all heard of the disaster stories of someone relocating and having the relationship end. Help!!!
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I did it and he ended up cheating on and leaving me. My suggestion is don't do it, especially after being together for such a short time. If he really cares, he will make long distance work.
No one can tell you what's right and what's wrong in this situation. Yes, you've been together such a short time, but that honestly sounds like how my husband and I started, and we're insanely happy. We met, and were inseparable from that time. We would spend all our free time together, and sleep at one of our apartments every night, and 3 months in he got out of his lease. While we knew we had a great connection, we wanted to make sure it was a lasting once, so that's why he still was paying for his apartment, even though he mostly lived at mine.
If you're going to stay with him, make sure you have a way out, just in case. You don't want to think about the negatives, but if you don't you will be in a really bad situation. Make sure that if you stay with him, that you will be able to move away if things go sour without much issue.
Have you talked to him about all of this? What are his thoughts and feelings? Would you two be living together? If you want to live there, but are still uneasy, why not try to find somewhere where you can pay your rent by the month? That way, if you guys are still doing great, you can easily get out of your lease and move in together.
Just because others have had this fail, or work, doesn't mean the same will happen to you. Don't let doubts or unrealistic optimism cloud your judgement. Seriously look at your relationship, your attitude with things, and his attitude. You both need to be wanting to make this work and try really hard with it to work. This will be a big change, but it can be so worth it if it works out. Good luck.
Age difference can be a lot. Let's say you're so so he's 35. Honestly, I think (so this is not for sure) most 35 year olds are probably ready to get married, settle down and have a family. Being 20 myelf, I know that right now I want to have fun and meet other guys. He might be too insecure for you to have fun in college and live your life.
Or let's say you are 20 again, and this guy is like... 15. That is more of a huge age difference than him being 35. A fifteen year old guy is so immature, he is still in high school and worried about stupid things we all worry about while in high school.
Either way I say go back to your normal school. There are many more amazing guys. Find a man closer to your age in college, and have fun there. With you still being in college, you are still WAAAAY to young to be worried about guys and settle down with just one right now. So once again, go back home, live your life there, however still keep in touch with this guy just to see where your feelings are going. But don't try to BE with him, you know?