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HELP: What should I do, been going out with the same guy for 4 months but have been having problems for the past month. He said it was over but the next day we talked and I thought it was fine, less than a week later I catch him sleeping with someone else, on my bed, (they didn't have sex there they had sex on the couch but she still slept in my bed) then after two days of solid fighting we decide to sit down and talk about what happened. He said he made a big mistake and wants to try to make things work between us. What do I do considering how he slept with someone not even after a week of breaking up?
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That happened with my ex and I, only we were together for 4 1/2 years before we broke up for a month and he slept with one of my old friends. We got back together, but it didn't last long because of the hurt I felt, as well as chronic issues with the relationship. If you think you can get over it, then maybe you should give it another shot. In my honest opinion though, if you already broke up within 4 months and are thinking about getting back together, that doesn't sound like the start of a good relationship. Breaking up and getting back together is never good, and just makes it easy to run away from problems. Get in a fight, don't want to deal with it so you break up. Get back together in a week when it's pushed out of your mind. Good luck with everything though.
He'll do it again if you forgive him. I wouldn't be able to trust him after that.
He'll do it again if you forgive him. I wouldn't be able to trust him after that.
I agree!!!
The sheer fact he brought another girl onto your bed, even if they did just sleep on it, tells me he does not really respect you. You've only been with him for 4 months and I think it's best you don't get back with him. It's better getting out now than getting back together and having him do the same thing or something similar 6 months from now.
I agree, he showed total disrespect. Well said!
I wouldn't get back with him, he sounds like a jerk.
Why bother when you're already having these kind of problems after only 4 months???!!! I doubt it's going to get any better. At only 4 months, most relationships are stll in the "honeymoon phase" & everything is wonderful.
Cut your losses now before more time passes & you've invested more in the relationshit. The longer you wait, the harder it will be.
I think its a bad idea if u get back together with him because he probably will just do it again if he gets the chance so be singe and wait till u can find a guy who will treat u right
It depends how deep in you are. Are you guys close, or are you only somewhat into him? I'd probably make a list of pros and cons of staying together. It seems four months is usually around the time that can make or break a relationship, and I only speak from experience. I don't know though, if you know for sure they had sex, and you weren't pursueing anything behind his back, then maybe its time to bail!