Question
Why I do I feel so trapped? I started talking to this guy through my summer job. We seemed to get real close, real fast and he ended becoming my best friend. I ended up liking him more than just a friend because I feel special when I'm with him since he's is a quiet guy and I got him to open up to him. He likes me back, too. He has had some relationship issues with with all of his past girlfriends and, long story short, I am the only one that seems to have cared deeply about him so he fully trusts me to always be there for him.
The thing is with me is that, yes I like him, but I can't help but feel a little trapped. Is it normal to feel this way when I guy tells you "you mean so much to me" and "you could never lose me"? Will this feeling go away or do I have to live with it? (Also, I only known him for 2 months and since it's was only a summer job I won't really see him again until next summer)
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First of all, what do you mean by feeling trapped? Do you feel that the relationship is moving too quickly for you? Or is that you want to be free from commitment during the times you won't be seeing him?
I think if you can define your feelings first you'll understand why you feel this way more. Personally, I don't feel trapped by such displays of affection, even so early in a relationship. But perhaps I'm too commitment focused in that sense.
Once you have a better understanding of why you feel this way, you'll be able to know if it's a short term feeling or something you'll need to work through to experience a better relationship with a man you really like.
This sounds like a summer fling overpowered by the toppling waves of lonely love. In meaning...You just found yourself in the sudden choice of a long distance relationship to the other decision of breaking it off before getting too serious.
Think of it this way...how will this relationship benefit you both? Will it be unhealthy to try fitting each other in your lives when you live miles apart....or will it be fine?
You need to think of it this way...you can fall in love with someone in a day...but you can't love someone in a day.
If you are feeling trapped...then you must be wanting to meet new people, try new things, and not have this stapled to your forehead that you're going to be with this guy forever conflicting with other possibilities.
what i'm trying to say at 3 am tonight, is don't feel bound by the words of a man. Just because it feels right at the moment and just because he says those words...DOESNT mean that its meant to be.
Don't settle for something that doesn't sit still with you. I don't know how old you are but if this is summer job you must be still in high school. My advice to you is...If you like the guy-great..try a long distance relationship but don't let it interfere with possibilities at school. Go to prom with another guy, hang out with friends...LIVE highschool out! dont just be there.
Take it from someone who knows a little bit more about long distance relationships. Sometimes we need to place reality in front of fantasy...sure dreaming is good and all...but we all have to wake up some time. <3 good luck