Question
I feel like the only girl in the world who is having this problem. My boyfriend and I have been together for over a year and still haven't had sex. We have had oral sex, however, in fact...we have oral sex all the time. I am ready to go all the way, and I feel like I have made that pretty clear to my boyfriend. I bought condoms about four months ago and have been on birth control for 3 months now and he hasn't tried anything! Help! He said he was ready, but hasn't made a move. How do I approach this problem? What do I say to him without scaring him off or pushing him away?
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Honestly... You aren't the only person who is in a long term relationship dealing without sex. Give it time...and honestly oral sex is disgusting...shame shame
why do you say that oral sex is disgusting? that is your opinion and you have no right to tell her that she should be ashamed...if you are by some chance a believer, then the only thing it says in the bible is no homosexuals and no anal...so what's the deal?
Hmm... Shame on you for calling a fellow girls guide follower that ANYTHING she does is disgusting. That's not your place or your right.
Sex is a very emotional thing. Has he had sex before? Maybe he hasn't and is worried how he will preform. Maybe he has and the girl he was with became very attached after. I would suggested talking to him, don't push just talk. Some people, GUYS and girls, take sex very seriously and become very emotional after such an intimate act, others are quite the opposite. Give him time and communicate. Communication is KEY in ALL relationships.
:) Sarah
I don't find oral sex disgusting at all, actually.
But thank you for your advice, Sarah! I will try talking about it. I understand that it is intimate and emotional, and I do not want to force him into something he doesn't want to do, I am willing to wait as long as he wants.
That girl up top has clearly never been given good oral sex. Haha. It can be amazing. But I LOVE a guy in me more than anything! Have you told him YOU'RE ready? Feel free to make the move! Mess around in a bed and start grinding on him if you are naked and see what he does. I mean don't forget the condom, but if you're on the pill you're 99% safe, but I'd recommend a condom for awhile, because you wont want to once you don't!
You could always tell him what night you want to do it, but sometimes planning it really kills the mood. It's totally up to you! :o)
Just talk to him and tell him how you feel maybe if hes never had sex before hes nervous but maybe hes looking for the right moment just talk to him because theres no better way then knowing why he hasn't made the move then him telling you why hope that helps :)
Just talk to him and tell him how you feel maybe if hes never had sex before hes nervous but maybe hes looking for the right moment just talk to him because theres no better way then knowing why he hasn't made the move then him telling you why hope that helps :)
i find oral sex way better than normal sex, shame my partner doesnt feel the same :/ but i wouldnt push your partner, if he doesnt want to it could ruin it for the both of you
It might just be your man's comfort levels or he might be nervous about your first night in that manner.
Guys, as well as girls, like to impress whoever they are with and do not want to be a let down. To him, oral sex might be a safe way to show he wants to try but is nervous about going all the way.
Try to find out what other things sexually he might like and try to have a fun night of discussing these.
Maybe it's a religious reason... or some sort of other reason. He may see that penetration sex makes babies... and a lot of men are afraid of having children. It's not that they don't eventually want kids... Just that they are seriously AFRAID of doing things that could end them up with one. It's normal. My fiance is a virgin... and he's 28... because he knows and has always been afraid of having a child with a woman that he didn't love and wasn't married to... so he just never did it.